I have a friend who cut herself off from alll her friends for a guy. Well coem to think about it I have a couple friends like that. But this summer everything has changed for her, her friends came around when she needed them. I think you should find her old address book or talk to some people you know she was close to and I think that you will be suprised on how many people do in fact show up. And as for when. I got to pick when I would have mine and I decided to have mine when the baby was there, because then everyone got to meet him. But I ended up going into labor a day late, and the baby shower fell on the day I got home so I was really tired. Ok now I am rambling.. Good luck, and this is really sweet of you.