That was a very helpful reply. Why waste her time even posting that?
Anyways - I have never been with an overweight person (chubby yes...Overweight no) so i'm not positive what a correct answer would be. However I was curious as to what positions you have tried? I wondered if maybe you being on top or him entering you from behind would be any easier. Have you tried that? How about oral sex or even toys?
As for whether sex matters, it kind of does. It just depends on the strength of your relationship and your sexual needs. Loving relationships involve sex. It is possible to be in love and not have sex although generally, you can't stay that way forever. Either you or him are going to begin craving the intimacy you get from sex. Sometimes though some relationships don't need sex on a very regular basis while others can't seem to get enough. Everything just depends on each others sexual appetite. What it boils down to - do you love him enough to be satisfied in the kind of sexual relationship you currently have with him? Or are you left wanting more and eventually may end up searching for your satisfaction elsewhere? Granted this is only one part of your total relationship with him - but say he had horrible body odor or an intense obsession with decorative ceramic mugs - could you love him enough to accept and live with that?
Its a choice as to whether this is something you are willing to accept and continue the relationship because you care for him that much or whether a lackluster sex life will always eat at you and be a source of resentment and disappointment. Everyone has their faults - as with anyone you would date you just have to evaluate them and decide if it is something you can live with or something that isn't worth the aggrevation. Good luck!!
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You said yourself, I have never been with an overweight man......Well, neither have i, which is why I didn't even try to give advice for it.
First of all sex with an "overweight" man is vague.
Does he weigh 400 lbs or is 250? Both are overweight.
Secondly. How large is his pannus? [the roll of fat that hands down below the waist]. Is it so large that it inteferes with the contact between you too?
How large are you?
The first thing I would suggest is more positions with you on top. Its jus a natural progression when your not working with much. also try positions where your doing the "splits" on top of him.
Also there is an option of him trying a penis pump. I have one and it does work. You will here claims it doesnt work, its phony but for 100 or so you can get a real pump that will give him length. I know because I [am/was] small below the belt. The gains arnt permanet, but 2 extra inches while you plan to have sex is alot. He will also gain gerth. Email me if oyu want.
I have only dated one large man and he too was not particularly well endowed.You need to be on top,that way you can breathe(i'm not kidding).Sometimes if you face away from your partner that works or doggy-style can work if he does not put all his weight on you.The spoon position works also,but get creative,if you both work to please each other -who knows what you'll come up with!!! good luck-if you both love each other you'll find away!!Patty
Given your situation I would have to agree with the other posts...namely being on top or in doggy position, but without knowing the details of what you mean by overweight its difficult for me to give you much more in the way of sex-based advice.
I've dated a few guys in the past that were heavy (one guy was about 300lbs) and I know that with him I used to do it doggy style.