Darlin' you like many many many men before you , are completely normal. You have just started on the long twisty rollercoaster like road to sexual intamacy and ther are so many things going on in your head (above and below) that the timing that you will eventually grow to know and love, is right now driving you crazy. I promise this will get better, it is normal for any guy to not last so long the "first time round" , do you masturbate b4 hand (earlier that day or b4 your gf comes over or does she give you oral sex b4 you two actually get down to it?? These are suggestions that many of my guy friends and boy friend suggest. Not that you have to demand a bj form her, but I do know that this way if "the starter round tends not to last very long" you get it over and done with and then can get on to the main event. If she does not liike the idea suggest mabye a hand job although at the same time you too can be manually stimulating her.. This will also help in teh long run of building up your ..Ahem might I say presently fast times situation. Do not be embarrassed and do not think that you are alone. Also you mentioned that you didn't want to see a doctor...Did you know that what ever you discuss with your family doctor is by law not allowed to be discussed with any one else (patient confidentiality) and b4 you start screaming "viagra me now" try the above mabye the masturbate thing first like an hour or so b4 the events begin, if possible, you might find that this is the release , excuse the pun, is what you are looking for.

I was almost worried I wouldn't even get one reply, but you have no idea how much better that just made me feel. Thanks for the help! I will definitely try some of the things you mentioned.

I agree you should get off before youre girlfriend comes over or try abit more foreplay and bring her into it ....And yes a lot of guys well all guys have the same thing happen to them it does get better and you will last longer as time goes on .....

First thing just masturbate or have oral sex first. That will get the "pressure" off and you wont be so excited.

You are perfectly normal!!It takes time to learn how to control yourself.The good news is that you're ready for more almost right away!So,like the previous posters said,masturbate before your girlfriend comes over or have her bring you to orgasm(in what ever fashion she wants),then try to please her-then go for mutual satisfaction.That way,no one is left out!!Oh,just remember to use birth control.Sometimes a condom can help with delaying orgasm,they make them with a delaying cream inside.I think it's made by durex or lifestyles.