I know that nobody can really help me I
have to make the decision on my own but I
really dont know if I should keep the baby
or place it for adoption. Im talking to
daniels family next week and I know they
are going to say I need to place it for
adoption. But really im the only person
who can decide what to do. I cant
imagine going through all of this and then
not seeing my child again. I know you
can get different kinds of adoptions so
you can have contact, but I think that
would be so hard to watch someone else
raise your child. But im not ready to be
a mom! I know my parents would help me a
ton with money and everything else but I
dont want to depend on them. Also if I
kept it and daniel was involved in the
babies life I know we would have huge
fights about what religion it would be,
they would want it to be mormon and I
would want it to be catholic. I really
dont like him and his family I dont want
to see them for the rest of my life! But
I cant base my decision on that. Any
advice? Did anyone else have a hard time
deciding?
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 07-02-04 12:30pm
Well do you want to raise this baby or
not? This is a huge responsibility and
you will have it very hard but any mother
can make it through anything. No matter
how hard. Dont worry about daniel and his
family right now. Sit and think about you
and the baby. Its about you, not him, not
his family. If you can get help from your
family then take it. If you really feel
this baby will not have a good life then
let someone else who would love to spoil
this baby try. Its up to you. If you
want this baby to be catholic then you
raise it that way. And the baby will
decide when its older. Its all your
choice. If I were you, id keep the baby
and not listen to anyone. Babies are a
beautiful thing! Think really hard on
this one though.
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elyse
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 May 2004 Posts: 73 Location: utah
Posted: 07-02-04 12:39pm
Thanks for writing back. I want to keep
my baby more than I want to put it up for
adoption. Daniel makes it seem like it
would have a horrible life. But even if
I dont have enough money at the time I
know my family will help out and it will
have everything it needs. I know wont be
able to deal with everything if I dont
keep it. I would still be able to date
and not have the responsibilites of a mom,
but I will love my baby more than some
guy, and all the hard work will be worth
it. But then I look at people who are
married and are ready to have kids and
they cant. Its such a big decision! Im
pretty sure I do want to keep it, but it
seems so hard to be a mom. I dont want
people to think I dont love my baby im
just trying to think of what would be best
for it.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 07-02-04 12:55pm
Well dont let daniel tell you anything.
You decide on this. Of course its gonna
be hard but he has to pay child support,
you can get on wic, and there are alot of
other things to help you out. If you
think you can do it, and you have enough
love for this baby then dont let anyone
tell you otherwise
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KariM1804
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 852 Location: grand blanc michigan
Posted: 07-02-04 19:11pm
Well I think either decision is a good
one. No matter what one u make, make the
decision you see as being best for your
child. If you arent prepared to take on
this huge responsibility you have to think
about whats best for your baby. If your
not ready to stop your childhood, put your
life on hold, basically stop being a teen
to be a mom, then it might be the best
choice. But if u feel you are ready to do
that for your baby then keep him/her. But
whatever choice you make, make it for
yourself and the baby, not anyone else.
Also.. If adoption, u can meet the family
but you would want to look into this soon*
let us know what you decide! How far r u?
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pInKpAnThEr
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004 Posts: 626 Location: Indiana
Posted: 07-02-04 21:15pm
Amen---thank u for atleast chosing life
girl.....That was a very noble decision on
its own..U r soo goin to start lovin that
baby though. I considered adoption n I
love my 2 mon. Old sooo much I dont kno
where id be without her.. I grew up
quick..The choice is urs
love mol
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elyse
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 May 2004 Posts: 73 Location: utah
Posted: 07-04-04 17:54pm
I have a family friend who had a baby when
she was 16 or 17 and I was with them last
night. When I looked at them I couldnt
imagine not keeping my baby. I really
dont think I could handle giving it up for
adoption, but then I feel selfish for
saying that. I need to think what would
be best for the baby not me. But I do
know I can give it a good life, but I
think kids need a dad. Im pretty sure I
will keep it. Its when I start talking to
other people that make me think I
shouldnt. I dont think anyone at this
age is really ready to be a mom. But I
think you can get ready for it. If I do
keep it do you think I will ever date
again? I probably will but after this I
think all guys are jerks and I think I
will never get married. But I will love
my baby more than any guy. So did all of
you just know you wanted to keep your baby
from the begining?
