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Q: Dealing With An Anxious Spouse. (long)
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CheekyMonkey
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qt3
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Sorry to hear about your tough time 
he needs help! Try and get him involved in cbt. It is 80-90% effective in treating anxiety and panic disorder. Going through all this you may want to get some support too as that is a lot to go through.
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he needs help! Try and get him involved in cbt. It is 80-90% effective in treating anxiety and panic disorder. Going through all this you may want to get some support too as that is a lot to go through.
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ellie
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Lonelygirl
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First off I would like to commend you on the obvious love and support you are offering your husband right now. I wish we all could be so lucky to have a spouse who is patient and supportive.
I also find that arguing with my husband sends the anxiety through the roof and keeps it there for days and even weeks after the fighting ends. It always causes a major set back. However, in my case my husband certainly doesn't consider my anxiety during these times and will in fact use it against me as a reason to be angry with me.
i strongly get the feeling that you are much much more supportive than my husband is with me, but your husband is right, you can't not say things that are on your mind. Some things you could do (you may already be doing some of them), is to express your concerns, but make a point to make sure he understands that even though you have these concerns you still love him. Certainly don't ever use the anxiety against him or anything like that, always remember that your husband hates this much more than you can even know and isn't chosing to be this way. Don't make threats about leaving as they will be remembered long after the argument and play on his mind giving him more to be anxious about.
I also find that arguing with my husband sends the anxiety through the roof and keeps it there for days and even weeks after the fighting ends. It always causes a major set back. However, in my case my husband certainly doesn't consider my anxiety during these times and will in fact use it against me as a reason to be angry with me.
i strongly get the feeling that you are much much more supportive than my husband is with me, but your husband is right, you can't not say things that are on your mind. Some things you could do (you may already be doing some of them), is to express your concerns, but make a point to make sure he understands that even though you have these concerns you still love him. Certainly don't ever use the anxiety against him or anything like that, always remember that your husband hates this much more than you can even know and isn't chosing to be this way. Don't make threats about leaving as they will be remembered long after the argument and play on his mind giving him more to be anxious about.
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CheekyMonkey
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Haley
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You sound like an absolute saint and your husband is lucky to have you 
cbt is what saved my life and I had really bad panic attacks for a long time before my group. The exercises you learn really work wonders if you use them. The two books we used in my group are really good and I would recommend them both highly: been there, done that? Do this! By sam obitz for anxiety and depression and mastery of your anxiety and panic-third edition by michelle craske and david barlow for panic disorder.
cbt is what saved my life and I had really bad panic attacks for a long time before my group. The exercises you learn really work wonders if you use them. The two books we used in my group are really good and I would recommend them both highly: been there, done that? Do this! By sam obitz for anxiety and depression and mastery of your anxiety and panic-third edition by michelle craske and david barlow for panic disorder.
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qt3
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Hi cheeky-
i hope things are improving
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i hope things are improving
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