Hey my name is ashley and I really could use some advice on my situation please. Ok, i'll try to make it short and simple. Well there's this guy i've known him for about 2 yrs and we works with my mom and back in jan. Of this year we dated for about 2 months. It was really no big deal but I really did like him a lot we just contected really well. Well after 2 months of dating he decided he didn't want this anymore b/c we basically said we wanted to do whatever he wanted and not feel bad about it and what could I do besides except it right.... So we that was around march when that happened and I haven't even seen him or talked to him until the end of may he just came back into my life. Well I guess we have kind of been seeing each other and this past weekend we went camping together and he hasn't called me either snice we've been back. I really like this guy a lot and I think he pretty much knows that too and I think he likes me too but I can't figure it out. I really hate the game of dating it's so retarted like why can't things just be easier and hard to figure out what the other person is thinking or what they want. I mean how the hell i'm I suposse to know anything. And if I want answers to where we stand what do I say and how do I go about doing it. I don't want to have to figure it out on my own. I mean are there any signs that this is going somewhere. Please help
The only way you'll know is if you ask. Thats the only way to find out the answers! In the game of dating you'll go crazy if u just sit there and come to your own conclusions. So you guys went camping together- you need to actually sit down with him and ask him what he wants from you. Tell him that you are not trying to pressure him into a relationship or anything just that you want to know what is going on so you know your boundaries. Straight up that's the way to go!
If you're not comfortable confronting him upfront like that you could ask him questions like. "so are you seeing anyone right now" or get into a conversation about different types of relationships and see what types he likes and doesnt like.....
I agree with the last post. You just have to talk to him. Your not a mind reader and you should have to try and act like it. Maybe by talking to him you can find out alot. He may be waiting for you to make the first move. By starting to talk to him he may open up and then who knows what will happen but don't feel like whatever he says goes.
I have to ask a couple questions first?
Is he a lot older than you. Or maybe he is an only child.
Does he only hook up with you at work?
Do you feel he is kind of keeping his distance from you in certain areas of his life?
It sounds like he is having trouble treating you as an equal
partner in this thing. Could be he doesn't have the experiance.
Could be he is very caught up in his own stuff and just isnt really that
interested into getting into something steady.
Perhaps, you could talk to someone who really knows him.
His brother, his favorite teacher, his best friend.
Do his friends treat their girlfriends the same way?