I am so sorry about your loss! I would definitely see a physician a.S.A.P!!!!!!!!!!! Have you tried something like ensure?
Sincerely,
sandy

Never thought of ensure, i'll give it a shot, and call the doctor back up to see if he can do anything else for me. And thanks for the condolences.

I just wanted to offer my condolences as I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you
definitely get some help and I would try a doctor and a psychologist that specializes in grief and cbt too. Good luck!

Q

I have the same problem, when i'm away from my husband I can't bring myself to eat. Even though I act cheerful and get my work done, my body kows i'm sad. He's in florida, i'm in quebec, and I can't see him for several months at a time. I actually signed up here to look for tips, but I see you have it worse than me, so i'll share my tips instead.

I've always had a problem eating, I was a depressed child, then a depressed teenager. Even though I get hungry, it dies when I see the food on my plate. It takes me a half hour to eat one inch of a sandwich. I stopped eating for a while in high school, got really sick, and then it was hell getting myself to eat again (when your stomach loses the habit, everything you put in it will make you want to vomit)

this comes in phases, and I know I have to make an effort and keep eating if only a little every mealtime. This is how I do it:

- follow a recipe book when it comes to choosing what to make for dinner this week; then make a grocery list and follow it, because once i'm at the grocery store none of the food will tempt me

- buy little snacks, treats, finger foods, that I associate with fun - this helps me not skip breakfast or lunch completely

- program the coffee maker (or have someone else leave me some when they leave early) so I drink it as I wake up, this gets me to sit down long enough to actually think of having breakfast - I make sure I at least have a bite of something three times a day

- eat out; eat with people as often as possible - it really helps a lot when you see it as a social activity rather than the task of feeding yourself. When I take the time to have dinner with my roommates here, we talk the whole time and when I look down at my plate the food is gone

- carry meal replacement bars; at least I get some nutrients even if I just munch on it a little.

You have a child, so if you make meals fun for her, she'll cheer you up as well. I'd say take your little girl on picnics, take her to mcdonalds, order pizza, take her for an ice cream. Also, invite friends for dinner or go eat with them somewhere. In a fun context, you'll be able to eat.

Hello,

i am so sorry for your loss. This year has been a tough year for me as well. I lost my grandfather earlier this year, and have almost lost my father in the hospital as well. In between these events, I too have had the same exact symptoms as yourself. It seemed like no matter what I ate or when I ate it, in the morning I would have extreme nausea. To the point that I would have to throw up almost every morning. This went on from about april until just recently to tell you the truth. I have been to doctors and they haven't really been helpful. They researched colidis and crones disease, which they thought was the case, but more and more I believe that it was stress related to these events. Not sure if my situation is sounding like yours at all, but I will try to tell you what I have done to try to get myself normal. In the morning, after the intense nausea was over, at the first possible sign that I was "ok" I would immediately try to drink some insure(this was brought up before and is definitely a good idea, it will help you to not lose so much weight in this whole process). If possible eat something along with it. I know that it can be very difficult at times to try and eat regularly, but it is important to try. Try to eat around the same times so that your body can develop an internal schedule. I would eat at the same time, if nausea isn't too bad. Eat slowly if you need to. It used to take me 1 - 2 hours to even eat just a sandwich sometimes, but the most important thing is to get the food in the stomach, and keep it down, so if you start feeling funny just back off of eating for a few minutes and little by little, finish what you are eating. Also I have found that eating dinner earlier in the night helps alot, and the more sleep you get the better. As far as getting you appetite back though, that is something, for me at least that has come back slowly through this whole process. I can tell you now however that my appetite is fully back, and I actually crave something to eat. I almost forgot what it was to want to eat. So my friend, take it slow, it make take time, but hopefully hearing my experience will at least be comforting. Something that you may want to try is prilosec too. The doctors tried that with me and it didn't work, but I my girlfriends mom has chrones disease and she says that helps her a little. Definitely go to your doctor however and see what they think, I am no doctor, so all this stuff is just my personal experience. Let me know if you have any questions and feel free to pm me anytime!

Josh