I was talking to this 16 year old girl who is friends with my 32 year old bf, and well.. All seemed fine at first, she is really nice, has a bf who she really loves, and after talking for a couple hours, she tells me this.... (i am copy and pasting it here)
"we were talking and then he said is your bf treating u better I was like ya were doing great and he was like that's good to hear and I was like in fact I get to see him in august and he was like that's good, enjoy the sex and I was like I will and he was like I am jealous nad I was like why and he was like cuz I want u and I was like I get that alot and he was like I bet you do and he was like I wish we could have sex and I was like ya I know and he was like maybe if u two fall threw maybe we can. I was like I don't think so I am loyal to my bf"
then I asked her when he said this..... And she said........
"like a few days ago. That's not all. Then I said hey I thought u had a gf? He said I dunno why don't u go ask her, she tells me one thing and then does another"
.what is that??? I say one thing and do another??? And he wants to .!**@! her?????????? Hell no!!!!! I am soooooo hurt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh, honey, I am sorry. Men suck my butt. If he really is hitting on her, a 16 year old and he is 32? I think he needs therapy. I know, I know, when you are in love age doesn't matter, but he is twice as old as her and she isn't even 18 yet, and to me, that is just wrong.
Plus, judging from your pasted conversation with her, she isn't very bright either. No offense, but that "i was like, and he was like" was really annoying!
Sorry dear, I don't know what to tell you. I love being single.
It is really bugging me!! He is trying to say it wouldn't happen unless we .D.I.D break up, but eather way, he .W.A.N.T.S to have sex with her, and this is bugging the !**@! out of me!!!! Why the hell is he bothering to keep me around if he is wanting someone else??????? And yet I feel stuck. If I go back to my dad's I will become sick again (his house is way too dirty and it makes my asthma get really bad and I get really really sick!!!) and I have a "friend" who would help me out, but she has been more of a problem in my life then a friend, and she has this horrible bf who I hate, and I do not want around him at all!!!! In her bfs words, I am disrespectful to him because I wouldn't .!**@! him!! Haha!! I don't want to be near him, thank you very much!!! So I am compleatly .!**@! here!!!
Yeah, I get jealous that my boyfriend had a crush on another girl even when we weren't going out. That would be automatic end for us. I just could not deal with it and if he actually doesn't deny it, then he's up !**@!'s creek or would be with me!!
Saying you have to leave him and actully doing it are two every hard, very different things. I, have been in that position and I know how hard the decision making process is to decide wether to leave or not..... Sweetie, think about yourself. You are way to good to let yourself be brought down by this guy! You are a wonderful person, but only you can decide what to do......... Never though, never let yourself think you deserve to be treated badly......You are a wonderful person who deserves the very best!
I realize like chanda said that it is easier said then done which is usually the case which is with you since you're asking advice (advice is what we ask for when we know the answer but wish we didn't ) well just think, you won't be grieving for him in about a year after you find a wonderful new boyfriend who lusts only you. You will be if you don't break up with him and keep watching him eye other woman.
Okay, you really need to leave him. I know it will be hard, but it really needs to be done. I mean, every guy and girl (at some point) looks and fantasises (and I know that is spelled wrong). But there is a difference between looking and saying/doing nothing, and looking and telling the girl that he wants to f her. And saying all of that crap about you! Whatever....He seems really sick and demented and I think he needs therapy. I feel for ya girl, I really do, but you need to put your foot down and get out. Don't play his games. He is gross.
Ok some girls make me sick, every time some gross dude do something really unusually stupid and weird like being 32 and hitting on a 16 all the girls go, men can suck my ass > well I have something to tell you all women that says that: use a dildo, you dont reserve a man!
This dude is hitting honeybun, hes cheating on her, he doesnt even have money to pay the rent, hes 32 year old? That is the most disgusting, useless human-bin that ever came out from a hairy ass, how can you women say that man suck? Is that guy a man? Do you think that all men is that like this douche-bag? Youre wrong! There are really good men out there you just have to give them a chance, no matter how you look as a lady, no matter how overweight you think you are dont be fooled, everyone is meant to be with someone, if you exist on this planet then be assured that someone that is right for you exists as well, you just have to be open minded and never loose faith in yourself, some women are too scared to leave their man and accept some extensive abuse from them, big mistake!
Wow, that was really hard to make any sense out of.
Umm, if you would read the posts correctly almost all of them say "i know that not all men suck and that there are some good ones out there, but in general men suck" well, in general they do! In general most women suck too! The general population sucks! That doesn't mean that us women who are intelligent enough to realize that do not deserve a man, but a dildo. That is just dumb.