I have mentioned this in a previous post,
and I pretty much have my mind already
made up, but perhaps someone will shed
some light on this for me and give me
their thoughts. I always had planned on
waiting until marriage to have
sex...Always. I never even considered it
until now mainly for religious reasons.
I want to follow god and do the right
thing here and I was always taught that it
is wrong to have pre-marital sex. I
began to think that god's intent was to
connect this way only with someone you
love. God knows I love my girlfriend and
am committed to her, and as far as I am
concerned she is my partner. I thought
that marriage, without love and
committment is basically an empty
agreement anyway. The key is that you
love and are committed enough to that
person to be that intimate with them.
But I am still wrestling with the idea
that technically I am sinning. We have
done everything but have sex and I
reaaaally want it, but just want to do the
right thing in god's eyes here. If
anyone would provide their views on this I
would very much appreciate it! Thanks!
God bless!
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shy_thang04
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Mar 2004 Posts: 41
Posted: 06-26-04 17:06pm
As long as you love your girlfriend I
honestly dont see anything wrong with it.
I lost my virginity to my first boyfriend
who became my first love, and have yet to
regret it.
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 06-26-04 19:53pm
First please remember that churches here
on earth are made of of men not god!! The
religious books we have here were written
by men not god, many talk about them being
god-breathed but some religious works were
also man breathed & man directed. By
this I mean that in any era & any
country there are political & personal
reasons why people (both knowingly &
unknowingly) translate words in such a way
as to alter their original meaning.
Your god has a direct line from him to
you, you don't have to take what the
church says - you should listen to what
god tells you - what you know direct from
god.
God forgives us our sins, all of them, all
we have to do is ask. God also allows us
to do things that are normally wrong at
times (i can't think but who was it whose
wife could not have a child so he laid
with the serving girl & then his wife
also conceived?)
if you & your girlfriend make love
(not just have sex!) god is going to see
that as a joyous event, so long as you
truly love each other & so long sa you
realize how wonderful god is to have given
us the ability to experience love &
love making & so long as you do it
sensibly(precautions) & not well not
say behind the school toilets!!
In the future if you & she break up,
that's ok - god understands, & he'll
understand if it happens before of after
marriage - I think god would also be
happier if it happened before their are
any children involved!!
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theman0o
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jun 2004 Posts: 3 Location: Tokyo
Posted: 06-27-04 03:56am
Very well said, I agree to every word.
purple333
wrote:
first please remember that
churches here on earth are made of of men
not god!! The religious books we have
here were written by men not god, many
talk about them being god-breathed but
some religious works were also man
breathed & man directed. By this I
mean that in any era & any country
there are political & personal reasons
why people (both knowingly &
unknowingly) translate words in such a way
as to alter their original meaning.
Your god has a direct line from him to
you, you don't have to take what the
church says - you should listen to what
god tells you - what you know direct from
god.
God forgives us our sins, all of them, all
we have to do is ask. God also allows us
to do things that are normally wrong at
times (i can't think but who was it whose
wife could not have a child so he laid
with the serving girl & then his wife
also conceived?)
if you & your girlfriend make love
(not just have sex!) god is going to see
that as a joyous event, so long as you
truly love each other & so long sa you
realize how wonderful god is to have given
us the ability to experience love &
love making & so long as you do it
sensibly(precautions) & not well not
say behind the school toilets!!
In the future if you & she break up,
that's ok - god understands, & he'll
understand if it happens before of after
marriage - I think god would also be
happier if it happened before their are
any children
involved!!
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southcoach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 May 2004 Posts: 65
Thanks Posted: 06-28-04 12:09pm
Thank you guys so much for the advice.
You really helped me. You have good
points and I agree with you. I have
since had sex with my girlfriend and I do
not regret it at all. I feel it is okay
because I really love her. Thanks again
and god bless.
