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Q: Please Help Or I Will Kill Myself!!!!!!
asked by: myers on June 22nd, 2004
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I have this big problem,i did it with my girlfriend 2 days ago,and she was still a virgin,and see we used 2 condoms for really security,and I didnt even spill out my sperm in the condom at all,and now the day after she starts getting all tired,she puked yesterday 2 times,and shes really hungry,please can anyone tell me what the matter is,i will kill myself if shes pregnant,we're only 16 years old we are both scared,our parents dont know yet.Please help.
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Sinsaint
replied on June 22nd, 2004
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Wow, calm down. For starters two condoms probably means you were pretty protected, so I doubt on that note she is pregnant. Then there is the whole 'she's sick thing'. A pregnant woman doesn't get sick at conception (which your girlfriend wouldn't even be at yet). Normally it takes 5 to 7 weeks for a woman to begin to have symptoms. Either her nerves caused her to become ill or she has a summer flu but I highly, highly doubt she is pregnant.
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myers
replied on June 22nd, 2004
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Might it be that maybe she missed her period(which I dont know she did) I thought that if she would be pregnant the baby would have taken time to grow about some weeks,not in a day,see im still young and im scared,because I rarelly can watch myself and imagine watching a baby,i love kids but I wouldnt be ready for one yet,thank you you made me happy,

edit:oh and would it be good if I buy her the pregnancy test?
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Sinsaint
replied on June 22nd, 2004
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Umm, no. Odds are good she isn't pregnant. I don't think you get how it works. If sperm does enter the vagina (doubt it did in your case) it will take a day or two for the sperm to find the egg and fertalize it. Then the egg has to travel down to the uterus and implant itself on the uterine wall. This takes a few days to a week. Once implanted it begins to grow. A woman will not know she is pregnant, nor have symptoms until after her first missed period (and some women don't even miss their first period). Your girlfriend can't even be pregnant yet (implantation marks the beginning of pregnancy) let alone already be showing signs.
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Ivy1908
replied on June 22nd, 2004
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Calm you down first all, she would not know if she is pregnant until about 3 to 4 weeks later. She would not be showing symptoms the very next day! Two condoms I think you are very well protected. Her body is probably preparing for her period to come.
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lilmama2b_oct04
replied on June 22nd, 2004
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Actually two condoms is worse than wearing one... I guess there is more of a chance of "accidents" happening... But I really really reall highly doubt she is pregnant. She would not be feeling symptoms the next day. I would suggest you two using spermacidal condoms, and only using one, and her possibly gettin on birthcontrol, if you are willing to kill yourself if she I pregnant. Just think where that would leave her and the baby... ~learn about sex, before you start having sex~
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insurancegirl
replied on June 22nd, 2004
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Most likely she is not pregnant. There is a virus going around this summer, and she probably has it. But for future reference, if you are not ready for the consequences of sex, then don't do it.

~jennifer~
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TBECK12
replied on June 22nd, 2004
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Amen!!
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linuxChique
replied on June 22nd, 2004
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Also, if she is only two days pregnant, then she wouldn't be getting symptoms yet.

Don't worry about it.
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myers
replied on June 22nd, 2004
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Omg I cant thank you enough I wish I could kiss all of you,please,thank you,im really releaved right now,i really got scared thanks,i thought I would get bashed out of this forum but you people are nice. Once again thanks,and I got another question.

If she doesnt bleed about a week,does that mean shes pregnant?
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linuxChique
replied on June 22nd, 2004
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No not at all. If she gets a positive pregnancy test, then _that_ means she's pregnant. Don't worry about any symptoms. It all depends on what the test says. Tell her to test if she is worried. That is the only real way to tell.
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greengirly18
replied on June 24th, 2004
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Re: Please Help Or I Will Kill Myself!!!!!!
Listen buddy, your girlfriend can't get pregnant that fast anyway. If she is pregnant, and that was the first time ya'll have had sex, then she didn't get pregnant from you thats for sure. She probably wouldn't know if she was pregnant from you until a month later at least. Maybe is jus putting on a show for you because you can't have sex one day, and then have syptoms of being pregnant the next. It takes more time then that. Don't worry. If she is pregnant, then she lied to you man.
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caracook
replied on June 24th, 2004
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She could be pregnant. He used 2 condoms. They break a lot easier that way. Why would you even use 2? 1 desensitizes enough but 2? I can't even imagine...
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adzarkos
replied on July 24th, 2004
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Greengirly18, where in the world did you hear that you can't get pregnant when having sex for the first time?? Shocked that's completely wrong. See the following links:

http://www.Teenwire.Com

http://womensissues.About.Com/od/womenssex uality/a/teensexmyths.Htm
(see myth #3)

myers, your girlfriend could have gotten pregnant during her first time, but I seriously doubt she's pregnant. You don't show symptoms 2 days after conception. She's probably a nervous wreck from having just lost her virginity. How old are you and your girlfriend, if you don't mind me asking?
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Kourtney08
replied on July 25th, 2004
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I agree with adzarkos' comment to greengirly, she could most definitley be pregnant even if shes only had sex once.

In this case, she wouldn't be getting symptoms that fast so its probably a virus like linux said. But wearing 2 condoms isn't always as safe, they could break easier that way. I suggest maybe her getting on birth control, and you wearing a condom. Wink good luck with everything though!

Kourt
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2ferano
replied on July 25th, 2004
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Just to clarify....Greengirly did not say that you cannot get pregnant the first time you have sex....She said that if his girlfriend is already pregnant, and this is the first time that they have had sex then the baby isn't his....I can understand the confusion, but I have to agree with her on that one. I mean, if she did just conceive two days ago, she would not yet have symptoms of pregnancy, and if she is in fact pregnant and far enough along to have symptoms, then the baby isn't his.

But, anyway, this is an old post, so I am sure this is all resolved now. Just make sure you only use one condom and have her get on birth control or something just to be safe. Good luck to you.
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trevino61601
replied on July 28th, 2004
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2 Condoms Cause Friction
Just wanted to let you know why everyone is saying, "two condoms?!?!" the reasoning behind this is friction. Two latex condoms rubbing together are more apt to break than the use of one.

Conception generally occurs 14-16 days after the first day of a woman's last menstrual period. (meaning if she started her period today on the 28th then in 14-16 days she could conceive.) conception takes at least 4 days so under no circumstance could your girlfriend be pregnant exactly the day after you had sex.

I think you both need to be educated regarding this. It is very clear that you are both naive in the way of sex. The best prevention is knowledge.... And appropriate prevention!
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Kit
replied on July 29th, 2004
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First of all since no one bothered to comment on what I caught as the most important part of your post...

Killing yourself, even if you are only 1/2 serious, would never be a good resort to anything. If she was pregnant and it is yours, parents, believe it or not are pretty accepting of mistakes, even if it takes time. If it really is an issue and you are really troubled, talk to your mom (or dad), you may be suprised. She will also be proud of you for trying to be so careful. You are 16, not 12.

Now, I agree with alot of what has been posted here. Never use 2 condoms, if you are looking for added protection, add contraception foam, such as delfen to the use of a condom. Don't stop using condoms until you are ready to have children and are paying your own health insurance incase you contract a disease. Ok, that having been said, of course its possible to get pregnant your first time. However, highly unlikely you pegged that timing perfectly. Most likely at 16 her periods are not regular as it is, so if she is late, thats hard to tell, I bet even for her. Now, vomiting would not be happening already, that doesn't usually hit until 7 weeks or so. Eating constantly or always hungry, well I have to say I don't know a 16 year old, boy or girl who isn't always hungry. She would be more apt this early to not eating as much.

Now the hard part. I also agree with the postings that she may in fact be pregnant, and further along having real symptoms. If this is the case you are being "had" and she was not a virgin (guarantee you wouldn't know the difference and I don't mean that as an insult) and she is using you for two reasons, she doesn't want you to know she cheated on you and wasn't a virgin, and you are the nice guy who will help her through this emotionally and financially.

Try not to worry, talk to your mom if it continues and don't give her (girlfriend)so much attention about it. If she really is you will have family support through whatever you choose to do. However, just a suggestion, from a legal standpoint depending on whatever state you are in, claiming fatherhood (even if it ends up being someone else's baby) makes it easy for her to make you financially (or your family) responsible. If you say it is your baby at anytime, its difficult to court order her to have a paternity test done on the child. This is all hypothetical, but if she is, and its born, wait until after a paternity test is done to offer up anything financially. Giving her money (in some states) is basically accepting parenthood. I am not saying don't be responsible, I am saying be smart.

But that is all heresay. I highly doubt she is pregnant.
Good luck
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2ferano
replied on July 29th, 2004
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Good point about the killing himself. It was overlooked.

But anyway, just wanted to say again, not all women ovulate at the same time, so that whole 14....Day thing does not work for everyone!
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Teenytoona
replied on July 29th, 2004
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Ditto on the 14 day after your period ovulation thing.

Women ovulate almost always 14 days before the first day of your menstrual period, the time between day of of your menstrual period will be the most varied. I.E. Day one: start your period... Anywhere from day 10 to day 30-something (or later) could some women ovulate. The thign to do is not count 14 days forward from your first day of your period, but to, for example, on day one of your period, look back 14 days and realize, "oh I ovulated then." if you chart it, you have a much better chance of knowing how to predict ovulation. But that "day 14 = ovulation day" is flat out wrong, and very harmful to purport.

That said, much like everyone else has noted, if that was her only sexual activity, then no way would she in two days after the sexual event be having pregnancy symptoms.
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