My name is michael, I currently live with
my girlfreind/fiance' and she has bipolar.
I am also understanding and learning more
and more from any and all scources I can
find, its hard. This is a start to at
least understanding why she is the way she
is. You cant harass some one, you can
only care and segest and be truthfull. I
say that with the heart can we truely see,
not our eyes, as also hear, touch and so
on.... .The truth you see isent always
plesant but it is good to know. It hurts
when a good freind of that kind or any
kind is lost in any way. If you havent
called in a long time, i.E. 5+ months,
call one final time, leave youre phone
number and make sure you keep the number
but dont get youre hopes up. When you
call, dont act foolish-just be cool and
kind. Tell her honestly with youre heart
that you care regardless and will always
be there for her and if she needs some one
to talk to I hope you can handle it-its
hard with bipolar. Try to go on with
youre life, but remember wear you been,
you will not only know wear you are headed
but you will have the heart to face the
unknown future and handle the possable
recurences of the past.
Best wishes and lots of
hope 4 u, live-learn and prosper.
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gary1958
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2007 Posts: 2 Location: ontario
Bi Polar Disorder Posted: 06-13-07 11:06am
I met a lady 2 1/2 yrs ago. Blew into my
life like a hurricane.. took it
over...From the very beginning I noticed
things were odd...Over the top
emotionally...Every comment was like a
knife to the heart... The yelling .. the
running out in a panic....The constant
validtation required....Wasnt till a year
later that she passed a flipant comment
the she panic/anxiety disorder.. the drugs
were in her glove box cause she didnt want
to be a drugged up zombie.. Once I new the
cause and the fact she was doing nothing
to manage it... I got angry and started
calling her on her antics.. Needless to
say that it was slow burn for the next
year... She finally called it quits and
told me to move on about 3 months ago.. I
was devastated as I loved her deeply and
wanted to support her if she would get
help.. She didnt want to .. But we managed
to go to a counsellor a few times.. I went
back to the counsellor after the break up
as I was devestated and was put on meds...
The counsellor believed from my stories
and meeting this women a few times that
she was actually bi-polar and not
panic/anxiety.. Never the less it took a
few months of counselling for her to
convince me that I had in fact done
nothing wrong.. That all feelings in a
bi-polar persons life are severely
amplified and that normal things get to
them much more.. also.. a person as needy
as her would never find anyone to fill her
needs that she needs to fill them from the
inside.. It has been 3 months and I am in
a much better place althou still angry
that she knew she had this affliction but
wasnt up front and honest with me.. I
believe the relationship could have been
much different if she had been ... Anybody
experience a situation similar.. Would
love to know
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Worried13
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2007 Posts: 1
Confused Posted: 07-14-07 00:14am
I just broke up with my boyfriend a few
days ago, i found it hard to cope with his
sudden depression that was triggered by a
work situation. He has never been
officially told he has bipolar but it was
suggested to him when he was a teenager. I
had been with him for 3 months and he went
from being happy and content to moody and
pushing me away in the space of 6 hours.
I freaked because i had been in previous
relationships where i was blamed for that
persons decisions and life situation. My
recent ex kept repeating he wanted space
and i was giving it to him but then he
wanted to be just friends then wanted time
again to figure it out all in a 5 minute
conversation and he proceeded to be
shocked when i broke it off.
He medicates with alcohol and
occassionally drugs everyone says i've
done the right thing but i love him and
want to help him, i just don't know how? I
know he thinks too highly of me and
constantly says he is just an ordinary guy
and apologizes for the littlest things. I
continuously reassure him but it doesn't
seem to work. i'm really confused about
what i should do, should i call him or not
and reach out or give him his space? (even
though he has been living in a remote town
on his own for two years without any
success). Any advice would be helpful.
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j_j89
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2007 Posts: 19
Posted: 07-14-07 14:02pm
I am exiting a relationship with a bp
woman. I am thinking that along with the
"sex talk" we get with growing up, we
should also get the "bipolar talk" as
well. I know this sounds silly, but I did
not see it coming! Its such a big problem
thats getting bigger and bigger. As we
progress through life, its important to
get these tools to handle people with this
problem. People with bp need love, but
what about those who are trying to love
them. Its so hard!
