Hi lori! Welcome!
A thought on the twitches...Have you had your magnesium levels checked? I know I talked to my immunologist and she said it was quite common amongst those of us with auto-immune diseases. My come and go...I usually laugh when they happen.

wish I could be of more help...
As for the kids, I know in our (clarebear and me) old support group, we had several people that made the kids a part of the day...If you know you are going to have a bad day in bed, let them join you (this, of course, depends on their ages.) you can also allow them to feel important and involved by letting them help you. I know many parents that I have spoke with have a hard time with that one, but it helps the kids to feel like they are a part of the solution. It makes them feel that they are important, not only to you, but to your feeling better.
i do hope you feel better soon! Hugs,
ladybrannon