Hi sweetie,
you're right to be scared, and you're right to want to take precautions. Condoms are only 86% effective on their own (real use not theoretical). I've always been told that b/c should be in threes. So use condoms, and a spermicide (or sponge if you're canadian) and a birth control pill/patch/shot and those sperms would have to be miracle workers to make a baby. It's alot to think about in the heat of the moment..... But it will save you from spending the 3 weeks or so between periods praying that you're not pregnant

Im currently trying to get on the pill but I don't want my mom to know im going to be sexually active... Im 15 years old, would my docter be legally able to tell my parent that im sexually active if I asked him not to?

I just wanted to adress the poll you have accompagning this message. Do you feel too young to be having sex? Or too old to still be a virgin? There is no right age, I was def on the older end of the scale (almost 21) and am happy I waited that long - sometimes wish I had waited even longer!. Don't feel pressured just because everyone else is (i know how this feels - I was the last of my friends to lose my virginity - one feels left out in an odd sort of way) if you want to talk to anymore more privately please feel free to pm me.
~ .Laura

You can go to a clinic such as planned parenthood for all of your gynecological needs. They by law are not able to diclose any information to your parents. They are very private and discrete. They ask how they may get in contact with you (by phone or mail) if they send you a letter or even call you, they will say who they are. Many girls go in all the time without their parents knowing and clinics would rather have young women being safe than sorry. There are many planned parenthoods throughout the us and probably one in your area. You can go online to plannedparenthood.Org and find a local one. Best of luck and good job on being so precautious.
Natalie

You posted this a month ago so im not sure if ill be of any help but here goes

girls are typically more scared of sex than guys (the guy isn't the one who has the possibility of getting pregnant)
i think most girls wish they had waited to have sex. I know I do. I guess its best to wait as long as you possibly can lol.
Clinics typically wont tell your parents if you get birth control pills. It's the privacy thing. You just wil have to find a way to pay for them without your parents knowing.

Anyway, I doubt that helped but don't have sex unless you're 120% positive you want to. It's better the longer you wait.

I was 20. I had sex for the first time on my wedding night with my husband and I think that's the best way it can be done! I know now that if I had had sex earlier, I would have regretted it sooo much!

Well, there are many reasons to be scared.First ,what you are doing is the most private and intimate thing that can happen between two people.Second,sex has the potential to create life,an awesome responsibility.It is not a recreational sport,just something to do.If you are not ready,you are not ready.If your boyfriend does not understand that,then he is not worthy of your virginity.If you are afraid,listen to your inner voice.Do not do anything you do not want to do.There is only one first time and I wish I had been more selective when I lost my virginity.I'm sure you love your boyfriend,but becoming sexually active may not mean as much to him as it does to you.Young men are very convincing when they are trying to get into your pants.If you still think you are ready,make sure you use birth control and use it consistently.Best of luck to you.Patty

Waiting until your ready is the best thing you can do. I always say if you are not ready to face the possibilities of getting pregnant or such, then don't go through with it. If your boyfriend doesn't understand why you would want to wait, then he's not in the relationship for you but for something else. I was almost 20 when I lost my virginity and I was glad I waited. It was not the person I was going to get married to (i'm still unmarried 6 years later), but I was mentally ready. It ruins the experience anyway if you are scared or have any doubts about it.

Well, I was 15 when I first had sex and it was with my first (and only, so far) boyfriend I ever had. Before we had sex I was like you, mainly worried about getting pregnant. And it was a good thing I was because, though my boyfriend was try to be as careful as possible he didn't realize condoms expire and he had one that was over 2 years past it's exp. Date. So that why I find that me being responsible for birth control is better then him. He's very prtective of me and all but when the situation is in my control I just feel better.

Before you have sex you have to know what sex means to you and how you personally feel about it. And if that agrees with the situation and you're safe and ok with it then by all means enjoy it but be careful.

Now that I think of it, my boyfriend never ever pressured me to have sex with him but he did kind of pressure me to get birth contrrol other tehn condoms. And I kind of wish i'd have seriously thought that out because now, thoguh i'm glad that I feel very safe with not getting pregnant I did submit the both of us to a good 4 months of utter hell trying to get the right form with the least side effects. But he stood by me and helped all the way and through it all we're still good so....

I guess I drifted. But like everyone else has said, make sure you're ready. Make sure you're safe and make sure you really want to have sex.