Do you think that you can play the friend?... Whilst your being friends does things happen that friends dont do?.... I dont think its possible for you to be friends in the hope that she will eventually pick you. People need space inbetween relationships, being with someone on the rebound is bad news, it seems to me that she doesnt know what she wants. I think you should walk away and give her space to decide what she wants, if she really loves you then she will come to you, if you are meant to be together then you will no matter what.

Think about yourself, is it fair that you are kept hanging on a string to be reeled in whenever she needs you? What she is doing is unfair to you, her partner and herself. You are worth more than this.

I know its very easy to give advice on love, its certainly not easy walking away from someone you love, I know.

I wish you all the best and hope you find happiness.

I have been the other man a few times so I understand where you are coming from. Two things to keep in mind...1. Ulitimately what do you want and what would make you happy and 2. How long are you willing to wait for it? When I was "the other man" it seemed great to be able to provide my 'friend' with the things she couldnt get at home and she used me as her escape from the problems that existed in her relationship. In the end I got frustrated because as I wanted to move the friendship to a relationship and she began to do anything not to face the impeding problems that we were having because of it. What would happen if you found another woman that provided you with what you needed in a relationship? Would she still want to be your friend then?

She wants to see how it goes with you and is using her current partner as backup.She is having her cake and eating it too!She is a user and will string you along for as long as you let her.No one can take advantage of you without your permission.Dump her and find someone who is ready and available for a real relationship.Patty
p.S. A real friend would never treat you this way!!!!!!

Nah, I think she wants her cake and to eat it too!

Just wondered how things have worked out with the woman you are/were seeing. I am in the same position - for a little while now - and even friends who once supported the idea of us being together have now begun to pull back.

Did you hang around? Has it worked out with the two of you? Any advice?


D.

You should have never hooked up with a girl that is taken anyway, that is a terrible thing to do and if you think you guys are going to happily be together for ever you are stupid. Even if you do end up with her what makes you think she won't do this to you, although you would deserve it so you could see what it feels like. And her, she is terrible to not end a stale relationship before starting another. How immoral can you people be?

Shame on you for doing anything with her........If justice prevails you will end up with her.......And spend many many sleepless nights wondering who she is seeing and she will wonder about you.........Ten years of your life will pass.........5 unhappy ones..........And boom you will be single, lonely again.......Your just reward..........And you may or not ever be happy again.........Wouldn't it be nice to spend you golden years with someone you grew old with? Do it...........Find god, repent, become a better person........Sex is only a small part of happiness. Soulmates are complete happiness.

I would say that if she is doing this to him, in the long run if she chooses you she may do the same thing to you and also, maybe make sure she and the other guy keep in contact daily until she finds someone else to play and use. Sounds to me that this girl wants her cake and wants to eat it too. Good men are hard to com by and it looks as though she is trying to get all of them for herself. How do you know that she doesnt have one other person floating around? If I were you I would stand my ground. Be confident and tell her you had a chance to leave him you didnt. I want to be happy and be with only one person. You cant give me that so thats it, and I am sorry but the friends thing just cannot work. Then walk away. I know it is hard but you have to look out for you. Sooner or later you will find someone who will love you for you, and want only you, and you can have both the love and passion you deserve, plus a sexual relationship. Its worth walking away :)

Man i'm so sorry. I know what your feeling but worse. I love the woman im having an affair with and I just can give her up. But see my problem gets worse. Shes my bussines partner also. I just can't get up a go even if I want to. She is a true friend to me besides being my lover. So you have it easy. You can just get up and walk away and start again. I would have to give up everything.

Good luck