True, most of these girls don't know that. I think all their parents should press charges, I know I would.

I agree! There are such huge age differences on here, such as one girl was 15 with a 22 year old guy! What would make an adult man attracted to a child? I just don't understand how some of these parents just blow it off either. If cheyenne ever dated a man that was more than 3 years older than her, that would be it! There is no reason for a man of that age to be with a child that young, except for the obvious!

Good luck and best wishes
-jessika-

I think its not so much the age difference as it is looking at how old they both are. For example in the 15 and 22 year old case 7 years is a huge deal. But say she was 22 and he was 29. So being older is not always a bad thing...However you have to take your age into consideration first.
Ps jessika I added you to my aim if thats alright

Well I understand what you are saying but I disagree. I am 16 and my boyfriend was 24. My mom did not approve of it and thats why we are not together now. I dont think that age is a big thing, it all depends on that persons personality. I am very mature for my age I probaly went through more than a 28 year old woman went through. Those experiences that I had in life helped me grow up alot. You cant help who you fall in love with so therefor I dont knock anybody for who they are attracted to. Before my mom found out how old my boyfriend was she said that he was good for me but now she just wants us to wait until I am 18.

Sure, I don't mind if you add me! I also agree that when you are over legal age say 19 or 20 the age difference isn't as bad then when you are under age.

Good luck and best wishes
-jessika-

trust me I understand that you cannot help who you fall inlove with! I understand that a 13 year old may have a crush or feel like they feel inlove with their 22 year old teacher, but that doesn't give the teacher the right as an adult to act on that, ya know? If you are way over legal consent like 22, and you truly love that child, then you should know better than to have sex with them at such a tender age, like 13. That is my only point and I apologize if I offended you that was not my intent!!

Good luck and best wishes
-jessika-

Well I agree and disagree.. I agree because like 13 and 20 would be horrible but I have to disagree to because some people are very mature for there age my ex was 20 but all he wanted was one thing and I found out the hard way. But I mean I have met alot of older guys who were very mature and not wanting one thing but I do agree that a 3 year difference should be it and no more..


Lindsay

I understand what everybody is saying but everybody has there own opinion. I can only speak on things that I experienced, but I never messed with a guy around my age so I dont know how it feels therefor I cant really relate to anyone who has. I grew up without a father so of course I looked for that older male figure as I got older. When I was 13 I messed with a man who was 33. He was attracted to me because I was so mature and all he wanted was sex but for me I just wanted that manly father figure. These older men showed me so many things as I was growing up and thats the only thing I thank them for because my own father couldn't show me a damn thing about life.
Ps. Youngmama I am not offended I respect everybodys opinion.

See me and you are just the opposite! I grew up without a father too. When my mom found out that she was pregnant with me, she was young, he bailed on her. My mom has always told me the truth, and that including about my dad. I have never met him and my mom said that he came and saw her once when she was about 6 months and she told him where to go. So in a sense I had guarded feelings toward guys and clung to my mom and girlfriends for support. I guess it all depends on how you were raised! I never looked for a father-type in my life because I didn't feel like I needed it! I would listen to my girlfriends complain about how their dads or step dads were such jerks and their moms always took the mans side and I just didn't want a part of it! My mom is my ultimate rolemodel! Even though she had me young, she continued her dream to be a doctor, and is indeed one today! Austin however, phew, is he a different story! He is about 3 years older than me and I couldn't love this man more if I tried! He is indeed my soul mate!

Phillygurl- iam sorry that you had to learn the hard way about older men like that! But you seem to have learned and grown from that and that is what make a wonderful person!

Good luck and best wishes
-jessika-

You are lucky I wish I could've just seen things the way you did. You seem very mature and I need a person like you to talk to at a time like this for me because I am goin through alot right now. I dont know if you read my topic called "abortion because of rape" but if you didn't could you please read it and give me some advice.
Thanx.
Ps. Also I would like to say thanx to the other girls that are on here giving support to eachother.

Sure no problem! I'd love to help you!! Send me a pm or email sometime with your email!!

Gl and bw
-jessika-

I am 17 and pregnant with my 21 year old boyfreinds child...Is that a horrible thing? he loves this unborn child to death and you cant even see it popping out yet! Were getting married next august or july....So dont judge the older guys just yet...

Hey I don't think that is too bad! I am 17 and my daughter cheyenne's father is 20! He loves cheyenne to death and we have been living together for a while now. But really now 15 and 22 is a bit much! Just think if it was your daughter!

Much love
-jessika-

My boyfriends sister is dating this 18 year old. And she is only 14. Before I moved away, my boyfriend and I found a journal that said that they were going to try to have a baby so that he didn't have to move. We told my boyfriends mom and she said that we were lieing and that his sister set it up because she knew that we would find it. After we moved she stopped taking her birthcontrol and was 2 weeks late on her period.... She wrote my boyfriends mother a letter and told her and she freaked. She called me the other day and apologized. My boyfriends sister and I have always been competting against each other no matter how corny it sounds and I think that she was trying to be like me. Ugh!! I think that her dating him with that big of an age difference and she is still 15 and he is 19 is wrong. .And they are always alone and having sex. I really think that that should have been cracked down on, but I think that well I dont know what I think...But I think they should date, because that is cool, but it needs to be watched closely...Otherwise, she will have a baby too. I hope you understand..

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I think if the mom knows about then, then she needs to put her foot down before her daughter ends up pregnant. This girl is already having sex and she wants to get pregnant, so she should be stopped. If I found that out about my daughter and they guy is older, I will call the authorities on him, and send her to boot camp.

Nikki that is what I would do too, exspecially since I have been there I know how crucil all that can be and I know the consequences....Thank you for the advice...I really appreciate all you guys always being here for me, and I love being able to help all of you...Much love, mesmerizeu15

I read this post and some of the replies and I was shocked at what some people had to say. I do not think that age should be a factor for two people who really love each other. But, I do however, think there are other factors that should apply when two people are dating (such as maturity level, personality, appearance, etc.) yes I am saying this because my boyfriend is ten years older than me but I think that people should understand that age itself should not be a reason to concerned about the law or about what other people think. Of course you should play by the rules and use caution (especially if you are a minor dating someone 18 or older) but an unusual age difference does not mean that a relationship can't work out. In fact, a lot of my friends have boyfriends who are a few years older than them and they have maintained a good relationship for many years. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 28 and our relationship is the best one either of us have ever had. Since he is older, he is a lot more mature, he considers my feelings more than any other teenage boy I have ever gone out with. We have had sexual relations but only because I said I wanted it and not because he is a psycho pervert who is only out to rape innocent teenagers.