I am a very healthy 27 year old mother of
one. I separated from my husband a few
years go and he due to the separation left
the country to travel and grow up.
Well, on his travels, he contracted the
hpv virus in a form or a genital warts
through sexual intercourse. I had not
heard from him for over nine months and
since we were always in contact I was
desperately worried. He has finally made
contact and told me what has happened.
As we have been together for more years
than many other couples much older than us
and I still love him so much, I cannot
allow him to call himself "damaged goods"
as he now sees himself.
This virus actually draws me closer to him
as the thought of losing him has made me
greatful that his stupidity wasn't worse
and I know that he has learnt a very hard
lesson as the man that used to shine,
currently feels worthless and never good
enough for me ever again.
I see him differntly to that. I see a
man who will truely now love me for the
fact that I see him for him and not for
one mistake he made because of being
human. It happens even to the innocent
as you know.
I have done so much reading up on it now
that I feel alot better about the whole
situation. He only had one tiny one on
the tip of his penis. The size of a
pencil tip and had it burnt off
immediately but its still always there.
The main thing is, I believe, that if you
are careful, and see a sexual health
clinic regularly together for regular
tests as the virus shows up negative allot
of the time. This way there may even be
times permitted for trying for a baby but
get the medical advice you need.
You may just keep it from him. I'm at a
higher risk as a female but am willing to
work with this. Even from the distance at
first for him to get the courage to come
home and face me as he doesn't want to see
me cry.
Condoms help but arnt always completely
safe. As it doesn't cover the whole
area. Maybe my situation is different
because of where the wart was. The
condom may cover the area. Ive read to
never have sexual intercourse during any
outbreak and examine yourself regularly.
And use a condom where ever possible.
The problem is that is is also spread
through sexual intercourse, not just skin
to skin when there is an outbreak. It
all depends on how bad your virus is.
As soon as my husband returns, we are
going to a clinic together for all the
tests there is and advice on how to live
with it as a healthy couple. He has had
38 different std tests and only came up
with genital warts. Take it as a
positive and not a negative.
There is hope sweety. I am not giving up
and we are willing to do whatever it takes
to live a normal life together and
avoiding myself from getting the virus and
that includes another child. 2 out of 3
in a relationship usually get it but some
never do.
Smile. Do it together. There is so
many out there. I wigged out at first.
Cried and cried and thought, it will never
be the same again. But after reading a
novel of information. I feel our
relationship can even be better because
right now, I just want him home. It
builds more trust. Doesn't it.
i hope this helps allot of people. There
is not much information when you are
talking about a healthy relationship with
a hpv infected parter.
