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Q: Early Teens And Unprotected Sex

asked by: youngmama on September 19th, 2003

Experienced User

Ok well maybe its just me, but I have noticed an increasing amount of teenagers 15 and younger that are having unprotected sex and coming on here frightened that they may be pregnant. It kind of makes me sad and feel badly for their immature bodies. At 13, 14 and 15 you really should even be thinking about having sex with a guy, let alone unprotected. When you have unprotected sex you are silently saying, hey welcome diseases, welcome low self-esteem, oh and hey welcome baby. Now I know that I am only 17 years old, but you know something, I will be 18 years old in 3 months and I only started having sex in february of 2003. Now to some of you real early teens, I may sound prude or like an 'ice princess' but you wanna know something? At least at 13, 14, 15 and 16 I never had to worry about being pregnant, never had to worry about being tested for std's and I never had to deal with that overly jealous or abusive boyfriend, that alot of you will have to deal with. Sex is a wonderful thing, when your body and mind are ready. Just think about a few of these things ok..

*working a total of three jobs to support your child, support yourself and a spouse and rent on your own place(trust me it is pricey!!)

*at 13 your not with the guy of your dreams, and I will tell you one thing now, your not the girl of his either. To be blunt you are just some girl he knew he could get it from, or locker gap.

*sexually transmitted diseases- if a 20 y/o guy is sleeping with a 15 y/o chances are hes been around the block once or twice and that one time you sleep with him without a condom is the one time that you will be infected for life.

*school- so you think that you can handle a baby, go to school, go to work, do homework, serve after school detention all at the same time? Its been done, but i'll tell ya what, its not easy! So good luck

*friends- oh you mean those people that told you to be careful? That said it wasn't smart? Well sure they may be around during your pregnancy and see the baby once in a while, why? Because its cute of course! But once it starts crying, don't be alarmed if they have things to do!

*your parents- yeah I know the dreaded one, but listen they raised you as a child. They would give you an inch and you'd take a mile, yeah we all know this saying! But look in your mother's or father's eyes today and you can see that them becoming a grandparent in 10 months hasn't even crossed their minds.

Girls, just do yourselves and your future a favor, don't have unprotected sex. I would suggest not having sex at all until you feel in your heart that it is the right time, place, etc. Not because your boyfriend said "thats the next step", not because everyone is doing it, but because of you and only you!

Good luck and best wishes
-jessika-

Replies(25)

nikki_caro

replied on September 19th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

Very well said jessika!!!

Tanya

replied on September 19th, 2003

Experienced User

Couldn't have said it better. I work with these young girls everyday and it breaks my heart. Last week an 11 year old came in to one of the groups homes who was pregnant.. I dont know what this world is coming to.

nikki_caro

replied on September 19th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

I know what you mean. Im trying to be a part of life centers for teens who need someone to talk to or need a pregnance test. And the other day I was at a golf park and saw like 3 young girls with their boyfriends, no more than 16 and pregnant. I tell you, I will sure raise my kids to be better than that, and enforce it at 7 years of age....No boys (or girls) until marraige!!!

Tanya

replied on September 19th, 2003

Experienced User

Taking care of my kittens and dog is hard enough and im 22! Taking care of a baby? No thanks, i'll wait until im absolutely ready to handle all the responsabilities that go along with motherhood.

nikki_caro

replied on September 19th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

Me too. My husband wants a baby, but I said next year. In january. I want to be able to not handle a baby right now. Im prepared but not prepared for crying and diapers. I barely have time for myself, having a baby would not help it.

youngmama

replied on September 19th, 2003

Experienced User

Thanks! Before I was put on bed rest I worked at a teen crisis center and we had young girls that would call or come in asking about the morning after pill because their boyfriend had refused to use a condom and they didn't want to tell their parents, etc. I just feel horrible that there are so many different ways to go about things while keeping them hidden from parents! I don't agree with half of the procedures that teens can have, like abortion, without parental consent! Alot of teens will have an abortion and be doing the same thing that got them in that mess in the first place, almost the day after having it. It just breaks my heart. I know that I would be devastated if cheyenne ever felt that she couldn't come to me if she ended up pregnant. I mean I hope she doesn't become a teen mom but if she does I want her to know that I am here for her 100% on any decision that she decides to make.

Good luck and best wishes
-jessika-

smith8500

replied on September 19th, 2003

Especially eHealthy

Hey

Couldn't have said it better myself!

evilpickle

replied on September 20th, 2003

New User

I Agree

I agree..It is sad....And no one is pointing out to these girls that having sex that young is illegal in most states....

shortee913

replied on September 21st, 2003

Experienced User

Good choice of words jess, I just hope these girls listen.

This is to the young ones: I started having sex at around your age and now that I am older I see how the mistakes I made and learned from them and I don't want you to have to learn from yours. I never got pregnant ( well until a couple months ago, I had an abortion: please don't ever do that you'll regret it in the end; well now I am pregnant again. I have been with the same guy for a year in a half) but anyway girls guys your age just want one thing they don't love you c'mon now! People call u names, girls can be nasty biotches. And u lose comfidence, b/c if you really think about it having sex with a new guy every week or so doesn't make you feel good does it? Just take my advice...Wait until you are ready, and also try attracting a guy with your mind not your body, the good ones are out there and like that.

JLRbabygrl0330