Oh crap you scared me! I dropped my strawberry and dirtied my shirt! Lmao let me wash it and ill post right now

Ok things are always gonna change in a relationship I can tell you that much. But you need to have a serious talk with him on how he feels. His feelings might have changed because he cant handle the distance but he also might just have alot of things on his mind. I know that I go through days where I dont want to talk to jose or hug him or even see him, but its because of stress. Raven might be going through the same thing. And when your stressed you snap at anything. Jose is going through the same, where he gets mad easily and acts stupid and makes me cry, then finally im like "you know what? You need to work on your bitc*y attitude because im tired of it and I dont know why you are acting like this!!" and he was like "im sorry I dont know why im acting dumb but lately I just feel like I get mad real easy and I dont mean to" and I was like "well change it!" so hes really working on it and raven might have the same. And jose will say I love you and I dont say it back sometimes because I just dont want to.

Just be patient with him and talk to him. Talk to him real soft and nice. And just say "whats on your mind, why are you getting so angry with me lately?" and see what he says. You need to know where your relationship stands but I bet its the distance, your parents, his work, and how he cant see his son alot. Thats alot on a guy so bare with him ok? He will really appreciate it

Another part of it is that any relationship takes time and effort. There will be times when one or both of you will have to really .T.R.Y not to get up and walk away. Love isn't all feeling. A big part of it is self-control and committment, even if you are mad and annoyed and don't feel the touchy feely love feeling, you have to .M.A.K.E the love be there.

How do I make it there??? Ive thaught about leaving but then I think about how I would feel w/o him and that and I dont go thru on it!

Jeni,
huni they are all right. You don't deserve this kinda of sadness but you do need to try and work it out with raven. Talk to him. Tell him you can't go on like this and you need some answers. Girl, maybe ya'll just need a break or time to breathe..... I'm sure it'll work itself out. And I am so sorry you are feeling this pain right now.

I agree. Pushing never works.

So just kind sit back and let things happen???

Hun, that is the hardest thing to do, but yes, sometimes it is necessary. I know its sooooo painful. But its like erin said-- pushing never works... The only thing I can suggest is just keep yourself as busy as possble to distract yourself from the pain....Focus on river (even tho im sure seeing him must remind u of raven..), talk to us girlz...Watch movies....Do anything fun.....And just wait it out. Swwetie I kno we dont really know eachother, but I am truly sorry you are going thru this pain, and im here for u...

Okay thank u girls soooo much!!!!! I think there might be something wrong w/ me too b/c even when im not mad at him I still cry for no reason and no matter how hard I try I cant really be happy im going to talk to my doc on monday about it!

Froma guy's prospective, sometimes we're real funny and need some space and time...Give him space and time and he'll eventually realize how valuable you are to him...We guys show emotions in a strange way (when we shoe emotion at all). He loves you, he just needs to realize that by himeself on his own timetable! Godd luck!

a guy who can know to puncuitate "we're" and how to spell eventually and valuable but cannot spell himself and show is obviously misspelling on puropse....Oh my lord what have we here!

I dont know if I like it that somone says from a "guys" perspective and "guys" show emotion wierd when they "do at all" idk what kind of macho world your still following along in but I do not follow any macho stupid crap like that I tell heather everything I feel without the slightest thinking maybe I shouldnt because then ill look weak and also apreantly im not the average guy cause I dont think like you so yea, youve been the only other guy on the forums ive seen so I think its kinda wierd that you like to say as a guy all the time so maybe you take this "guy" thing to seriously hmm anyone one else? Are you really a girl trying to be the big man trying to help out to gain peoples trust and likness? Who knows??

I feel the same way ryan.......

Haha maybe its gaby