Hi, i'm writing this for the women out there who are pregnant and scared.

I like to think i've made a lot of smart decisions regarding sex. I waited until I was 21 (and in a serious relationship) before ever having intercourse. Just prior to that time, my boyfriend and I discussed the possible consequences and decided (together) that in the case of pregnancy we would abort. I'm 25 now and i've been on the pill for years, but things happen.

I missed a period back in september but felt crampy for days, so I thought it was coming. I took a hpt and it was positive. I was so shocked I ran out to get another the next morning. Positive again! Even though I knew I wanted an abortion, I was freaking out! I found a lot of info online, and I contacted planned parenthood and set up an appt. They were great. They made sure I was positive of my decision; they offered counseling and everything. I wanted to keep it a secret so I didn't use my insurance. My boyfriend and I split the cost (less than $500). I used the abortion pill (i was just 5 weeks), and I highly recommend it (to those who are sure they want to abort). It was a very uncomfortable experience but the nausea was no worse than morning sickness. There was a lot of bleeding and passing of clots, but it felt more natural than surgery ever could.

I am 100% happy with my decision. It was one of the best decisions of my life. I had so many valid reasons.
1. My boyfriend and I don't have the money to raise a child.

2. I have a chronic health condition that would be affected by pregnancy.

3. I don't want to pass down a serious mental condition that's in the family.

4. I take a medication that can cause horrific birth defects.

5. I don't want to ruin my life. (i know that sounds terrible, but it's the truth.)

and no, i'm not heartless. I've thought of this embryo that could have grown into a person, and I think it would have been worse to bring a child into the world under these circumstances. My advice to those considering abortion.... Make the decision for yourself--don't do anything that you don't want to do! If you are absolutely positive that you want an abortion, act quickly. The longer you wait the harder it will be (emotionally and physically). Make sure you have support. Even if you only tell one person (it helps so much). My best friend and boyfriend were really there for me. If you feel that you can't tell anyone, consider counseling. It can still be hard, no matter how sure you are.

Best wishes to all. Follow your heart (but also be logical).