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Q: *first Post* Confused 17 Yr Old!

asked by: cabbage on June 4th, 2004

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Ive been very happy with my boyfriend for over a year now but I thought I was a little too open minded about three yrs ago. I dont know any girls who I fancy in person, in fact if I see a really buff girl (buff in brittish slang is sexy, btw) I may get jealous or think good for her, nice bum. Anyway my bf keeps calling me a gay woman for it in a jokey way, but when hes not around I get off to his lesbian porn. You see I dont know if I would ever like to be with a girl but it seems very daunting, but then again it could be really really fun...Im just a bit nervous I guess. And anyway I dont want to cheat on my boyf with a girl because I know he wouldbe offended, as I was when he cheated on me. Ive never really had any strong feeling towards a woman except that some are really sexy. Would that make me bi?
Thanks for your help and ideas x

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sparklypixie12

replied on June 4th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Hey-i understand buff! Lol!
I just think your a normal teenager who is still getting to know themselves & their feelings so this doesnt neccesarily mean that you are bisexual. I have seen girls and ive thought wow she's gorgeous but that doesnt make me a lesbian! Its just appreciating what someone else has & thats ok-your normal if you think like that! Your still young so you lots of time to find out where your feelings lie but if you think u do like women then maybe you should mention it to your boyfriend...He might like it! Lol!
Liz (from brummieland!)

Pixie

replied on June 5th, 2004

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sparklypixie12

replied on June 5th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Hey pixie-lol! I agree with you saying that its not something she should be concerned about because I think its natural that she finds some women attractive.I think most women do! She will obviously know for sure if she ever does have any experiences.
Best wishes,
liz

cabbage

replied on June 5th, 2004

New User

Hi everyone thanks for your responses. I went out last night to the g-a-y bar soho and g-a-y estoria, london. I think by just going out to those kinda places taught me a lot about myself. Basically I felt indifferent to attractive girls but admired their style and guys, I really think that its important to know the difference of seeing a sexy looking person and being sexually attracted to them. Hmm lots to think about....L8rz

sparklypixie12

replied on June 5th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Interesting! Well ive been to a few of the gay clubs up here in birmingham-not to explore my feelings lol! But with a friend & her gay friend (this girl is now living with a man! Just goes to show!) best wishes with everything!

Pixie

replied on June 6th, 2004

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Message erased too...Hope and am confident that the poster read my original posts before met up with what I call bigiotry upon admin...On whatever ground- ignornance!

P.S.

Hope you know all this is recorded!

boogaloo

replied on December 2nd, 2004

New User

Hello From Canada- Responding to First Inital Letter

Hey yo--have to say that i'm a little older than you and your responding gal pals, but I have a message of my own. Years ago I found myself attracted to a gal that i'd meet through a friend (actually I though she was a he-very cute n sexy), and when I found out that she wasn't a he it made me even more curious. We did have an encounter and it was wonderful. I was also 17yrs. At the time--now in my 40's i'm very happily married with children-- no confusion of my sexuality. Never regreated it, never looked back, and never felt that ever again. Iput it to be 17, full of life, and lust and love, now it's a sweet memory. Everything doesn't always have to be something.

crystallight

replied on January 20th, 2005

New User

*sigh8 of Relief

:d I am so happy that I found this forum. I got to the gym all the time, and I read fitness mags all the time, and find that I check out other women all the time. I've been crazy in love with my boyfriend for months now and I don't want that to change, but the last few weeks i've been stressing over if I was becoming a lesbian or not. I had trouble trusting my boyfriend because i've been hurt before, and actually thought about being a lesbian cause guys became a waste of my time. I look at other women's figures, and compare to mine cause I want to be a figure competitor. But I by no means have any attraction to women sexually. I love my boyfriend with all my heart, but I have been dying lately cause I was worried that maybe I was becoming a lesbian. But I know that's not the case now thanks to this forum! Yay!
-crystal

boogaloo

replied on January 22nd, 2005

New User

Also Hello From Canada

I agree with everyone else!! Nothing wrong with finding another female attractive, particularly if she is. Your not blind, and being curious about female/lesbian sex can only make you better in bed and help you find out what might be of pleasure to you (hopefully you can tell your bf to try what you've seen--he doesn't have to know where you got the idea from) i'm like the other canadian fm--in my 40's and have had the pleasure of experience in my teens. I'm also married-happy-with children. Relax and enjoy the movies. Next time get a porn for both of you, watch it together, a;nd you'll have a great time, and believe me, your bf will be glad as not many girls are as open minded and it will help you explore the wonderful world of sex and pleasure. Be young, have fun, but be safe!!

Lilypad

replied on November 3rd, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

I am happily married but I can get really turned on by lesbo porn. I once french kissed a bi- friend (girl) and it didnt feel much different than kissing a guy...Lol that was like a looong time ago.
In real life I dont think I could go thru with it but in fantasy sexy women are a turn on. I consider myself strait. I dont think there is a thing wrong with homosexuality eithe.
I think your feelings are normal.

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