Teen Pregnancy Forum - Ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so mad/upset right now. I just sat in the bathroom for an hour and cried. Partly because im pissed, partly from being upset. Ok..I dont even know how it started, honestly me and my sister werent even fighting. I mean I said how she left her fries in the sink (wrong part of the sink) and its gross cuz im trying to do dishes.. Well that got mentioned, but I mean I always nag her and my brother about not doing any cleaning and making huge messes everywhere so it snormal (they never clean). We werent even fighting. Then she started sayin how im irresponsible and if I wasnt I wouldnt have got preg and that im no better then my brother (in the way of being responsible) cuz hes 23 and lives at home, doesnt even work full time, doesnt do anything around the house and prolly wont move out for another 2 yrs! So we started arguing , she was sayin how im soo irresponsible and I need to grow up cuz im a mom now and bla bla bla...I cussed her out in front of my mom because I was so mad at her. I mean I work full time at the gm service parts center, im planning on moving out when the baby is a few months old right after I turn 19, I save almost all my paycheck every week in the bank for the baby, I never go party, im always thinking about my baby and doing everything I possibly can, plus first thing I walk in the door, I clean the house everyday and its always trashed., and neither my sister or my brother ever help unless their forced to. What else can I do? I was seriously shocked because I dont know what else I could do. And she kept saying "move out!! See, ur irresponsible, u cant even move out, leave!" I dont even know where it came from but it hurt me so much because ive shaped up so much and changed so much for this baby and I did it right away. She may not have a kid on the way but she doesnt have a penny saved and shes been working for 2 yrs at her job and wastes every bit of her cash. I hate her so much right now. I called her a stupid health question and said health question u to her too (i feel bad about my word choices, but I was so mad!) I just dont know why she said these things. Shes 17 by the way. Sorry for blabbing on and on...

Replies(18)

Scarf

replied on June 3rd, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

You're doing everything right. You're responsible enough to take the right measures when it comes to your baby. I dont know why she'd say otherwise! I wouldnt take what she said to heart. Maybe shes having a bad day and taking it out on you. Wtv her reason is, she is completely mistaken. Your baby is going to have a great mommy. A mom who'll do anything for him! *hugs* I hope your day gets better
shannon xoxox

krista57

replied on June 3rd, 2004

Experienced User

Awww im so sorry you had to deal with that right now!I know its hard! You seem like you got a good head on your shoulder and that you are doing everything you can for you and your baby! So you should be proud of yourself. But dont let yourself worry its not good for the baby! Hope yall work everything out!She seems like she is the one that needs to grow up! Just try to make the best out of it!Good luck!
Krista*

Riversmommy

replied on June 3rd, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Hey sweetie I know the feeling my lil sis and I used to get into it like that too and she would say the same things to me.....Sweetie dont listen to her u are a wonderful mommy!!! And u are very responsable for putting her first all the time thats exactly what u should be doing! And u know it!!! Dont listen to her....And hunnie please please please stop stressing urself out I know its hard and u feel alone in this but ur not I promise u...If I could be there and help u out I would in a heartbeat but all of us girls are here for u and love u and ur lil son sooo hang in there sweetie and take a deep breath and remind urself u can do this and think of ur son sweetie!!! Love u hun!!!

Jen river and raven

KariM1804

replied on June 3rd, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Thanks all of you! I mean it. I dont know what I would do without you!!! I dont know why she said these things, she left with her boyfriend a while ago tho. I dont even want to talk to her. I know what she said isnt true. .But I feel like im under more stress then I can handle right now and hearing that stuff just didnt help.

I start councling on wed.!! Finally! (for my eating disorder) but at least it might help to talk about everything in my life while im there (plus, situations in my life is what effects my e/d) but im actually excited to start councling believe it or not. I havent purged in a week tomorrow. So at least im on the right track again and hopefully will be stayin on it!

Riversmommy

replied on June 3rd, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Your right ur under alot of stress I was too when I was preg but sweetie u need to try and stay calm and dont worry about the lil things.....Im glad u start counceling on wednesday it will help you a lot!! Congrats on going a week without keep it up! Love u hun!

Jen river and raven

babyrae

replied on June 3rd, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

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2ferano

replied on June 3rd, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Siblings always know the things to say that hurt the most. It stinks, but they all know how to do that.
Sure, she wanted to hurt you today because she is mad at you, but deep down she does love you and is proud of you. She may not tell you that for several years to come, but she does.
Try not to let it get to you. You are doing great!

KariM18

replied on June 4th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Aw thank you so much shauna!! Ur always so nice! Im so sorry about your sister.. Did they say that recently about having 6 months? Or has she gotten better sence? I hope she has gotten better! We all have our low points. Im so glad I went to the hospital for the summer when I did otherwise I honestly think I would be dead, or near dead by now from it. But thank you so much~

and hotasfrick, what is your name by the way? Thanks alot for your reply! I try to remember its a sibling thing, but plus im overemotional right now too so it hurt even more. Lol I started like hyperventialting because I got so upset~ Laughing

but I feel better now. Still havent talked to her yet.

sparklypixie12

replied on June 4th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Kari-your sister is most likely jealous-i think thats her problem. I mean look at you-your beautiful,your gonna be a mommy, your gonna get a place of your own, you have a job & you're getting your life straight.She obviously doesnt see the kari that we see! Sisters fight,its what they do-there's 13months between me & my sister and mostly we get on but sometimes we dont! Try & stay away from her for a couple of days if you can so you arent getting too stressed and just focus on your great life with your little man :d
im crazy you know-i get sooo confused sometimes-over here, when someone says 'pissed' they mean drunk so when you said "im pissed right now" I though omg! Thats so bad! Lol!
Liz x
p.S. I asked hotasfrick the other day-hers names angie! :d

lilsis04

replied on June 4th, 2004

New User

Have you ever thought that maybe shes getting annoyed with you being preganant? I know that sounds bad and u cant do anything about it but im being serious. Maybe she thinks she gets no attention anymore and has to fight for the amount she gets. Maybe since her open house is coming up she wants attention because its her big day soon and no one really seems to care. And everytime people go shopping or anywhere where u buy stuff that it all seems to be bought for u or the baby. Maybe she gets sick of being called lazy or being told wat to do by her sister. Maybe shes mad that shes not needed for baby classes or anything. And maybe shes just really depressed with everything.

KariM1804

replied on June 4th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Ok lilsis is my sister... Yea thats kelli she musta seen my post so she joined*

and kelli, I know your open house is coming up..And people are planning for it, and it is going to be your day. We went shopping for it yesterday.. We didnt buy any baby stuff? But its a baby.. U have to expect people are going to take it as a big deal. Its going to be your nephew too ya know. And its not that your ''not needed'' at my baby class. Its just its weird enough going with your mom. Im the only one there not with a husband already. No one has 2 people go and mom was planning on being the coach. You are supposed to be one too tho in the room when I have him of course. I can see how it wuold be annoying, but you know its a big deal, and u know how mom gets about things, she always takes it to the extreme so she goes baby crazy. I do tell u what to do, well, I tell u to clean anyhow, but I mean, u know it cant be fair. I clean from the minute I walk in the door, and im busy too, I work full time, im tired too, but I still get my stuff done and neither u or gerad will help me clean unless ur forced to or I complain enough to get mom and dad to make u help me out. What else do I tell u to do besides that tho? I dont want u to be depressed. Theres no reason to be. Am I the only reason? And I wont be pregnant forever, but then you have to think, theres going to be a baby around. It wont be me getting the attention either. The baby will get a ton. But mom and dad dont ignore u really. When u are home, kyles always over and ur gone alot with him too or at work(for those others reading, kyle is her boyfriend of a yr) how did u find this post anyhow? I didnt know u came to the forum...? Dont tell me uve been spying on what I write.? I know u used to on a different forum about my e/d last yr. But I still dont understand why u said that stuff because im trying really hard and dont see how im being in any way, irresponsible right now or sence ive been pregnant. Anyhow, im at work so I have to go... I can talk to u about this later probably if u want.

MegEve

replied on June 4th, 2004

Experienced User

Hey all! It's me, megan (the crazy one with cancer!), and I know I have not been around a lot lately, but kari, you touched my heart with this post. I am 20 and my sis is 25. We never (caps) got along when we were growing up. I mean to the point where I think we were honestly trying to hurt each other really bad. I was always the little sister who was mean and wanted to be just like her older sis, and that got on olivia's (my sis) nerves. And she would never include me in anything she would do just to be mean. You know the whole sibling rivalry!! Well in october 2002, olivia got married. I was her jealous maid of honor. At least I did not ruin her wedding! Anyway, to the point. Now that she is married and has moved out, we are best friends. We cannot go a day without talking to each other.

So, maybe when you move out, you and your sis will clear things up. Because you never know what might happen. Look at me. I have colon cancer that doesn't seem to want to go away. And, the doctors can't tell me how long I have to live. We are all hoping it is a long time, but it is in god's hands now. I don't know what I would do without my sister in my life.

I hope everything turns out better in the end.

Plus, when she sees your beautiful baby, she won't be able to stand it. She will fall in love and want to get along!!

Love all,

megan

chrystinmarie

replied on June 4th, 2004

Experienced User

Kari- don't listen to anything she said to you! You are gonna be a fantastic mommy, an irresponsible person would be trying to take on the world without enough to hold themself afloat! You know better than to take on more than you can handle at this point and that is responibility. Also my older sister, the 17 year old, always name calls me and does the same thing your sister does and it gets to me just as bad. So right now I am living with my oldest sister and I help her around the house, with the new baby and stuff and its alot less stressful, maybe you should stay with a friend for a day or two.

KariM1804

replied on June 4th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Thanks girls!!

My sister is the s/n lilsis04*

babyrae

replied on June 4th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Well by the looks of this I hope u get ur private life back and hopefully everythings all good Smile

oh they told my sis that a year ago!! So she beat those odds and shes doin real good now... I hope thats some inspiration to u! I never thought my sis would get out of it and it was horrible to see her go thru that but after the doctors told her that, she tried soo hard to get better and she has! Sometimes she has lil fits and loses it for a few days but thats when she gets depressed about something. Other than that, shes doin awesome and its a lot farther than where she was! So im sure ull be able to get out of it Smile

shauna

momofmatthew

replied on August 17th, 2005

New User

Karim18 posted: 06-04-04 5:58am post subject:

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aw thank you so much shauna!! Ur always so nice! Im so sorry about your sister.. Did they say that recently about having 6 months? Or has she gotten better sence? I hope she has gotten better! We all have our low points

would just like to know exactly what your talking about? Because I am the 'sister' of babyrae and would like to know what I was 'getting better' from? Because as I can recall, nothing was wrong with me in '03? Oh and btw I am not living at home with my parents with no education. I have been on my own with my bf since aug.04 and had my baby boy in sept.04. I completed by grade 12 this year and am currently going to be attending university in the fall. So far so good.... Please reply!!

dominicsmama

replied on August 17th, 2005

New User

Lol this is a olddddddddd post and she doesn't come here anymore.... Maybe ask your sister

seksiHily

replied on August 17th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Hi shauna's sister :)
i think ive seen pics of matthew before?
Haha can u remind me of your name so I dont have to call you shauna's sister :)

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