Im not judging but I have questions...Why would you want to have a baby so young when its so hard?? Have you thought about all the things you will miss out on? If you dont live near eachother how will you 2 live after the baby? How long have you been with him? Do you see him to be with you for the rest of your life? Does he work? Do you work? Will you finish school? Who will watch the baby? How will you be able to afford the baby? As in can you afford all the neccesities that come with a baby such as cribs to wipes to clothes to toys? How do you know your guy will stick with you after the baby? What are your career plans? What are his career plans? Will you get your own place? Have you been to a doc? Can you drive? Do you have a car? Who will get up at 1-3-4-6-8am when the baby is crying and hungry? Who will take care of the baby when its sick and who can go get the medicine or go to the doctor?

You do realize that trying to concieve is just not having a baby with this guy...Its a responsibility for a life time. You will have to put the baby before yourself and be broke forever. They arent cute and easy. Ask jeni, she stays up at all hours while her baby wont sleep. Every baby will have its bad times. This is no peice of cake. Are you ready for all this? Maybe you should wait a few years before you ttc.

Keep in mind im not judging or lecturing, im brining out the points that others dont look at when they want to have a kid so young.

Do you have an aol sn? If so im me my sn is nirvanagurl4694
i'd love to talk to you, and yes I have thought about all these. I actually work in a teen nursery for the past 2 years at my school. Let me know if your going to im me

shawna

No I dont have aol, I actually deleted it, hahaha. I never used it. Crap. I do have yahoo and msn. My yahoo is silly1incamario , I would im you though but I dont have time to re-download it.

But working in a teen nursery is *alot* different than having your own, because you have to wake up, dress, feed, change, burp, bathe and more for a long time.

Hey hun niki is very right!! I wasnt trying to conceive although I really wasnt trying not to either!! But it is very hard on u emotionally, physically,mentally!!! I mean dont get me wrong I love my son and I dont regret him but its not a walk in the park u got a lot of sacrifcing to do u dont get to go to prom u dont get time to urself unless u got a lot of help u might have to sacrifce ur schooling but im not saying its impossible look at all these wonderful girls on here who have done and are doing it! Like niki said u have to look at all those things she mentioned! If u wanna talk I have yahoo and msn!!! Much love and god bless!!!

Jen river and raven

Riversmommy whats your yahoo sn? Mine is nirvanagirl4694

shawna

Why are you thinking about names? You don't know if you're pregnant yet. Were you ttc?

Yehp. She said she and her boyfriend were ttc..

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gaby

How long have you been ttc? I read some of your posts and it seems as if you've been trying for some time now


meg

Trying for some time now? She did say a while back she was too... My god... Trying at even younger then 16? 16 is already too young to actually try. im sorry, but I think this is what makes young people these days appear immature.... I read some her posts from oct too when she was 15 and 'trying to get pregnant'' then too. .And a post where she was 'scared' about it.. Yet trying? O please. Seems like an attention getter to me. . Plus, someone who doesnt honestly understand having a real baby is like. U cant compare it to working in a nursery at ur school. Listen to what nikki said! U say uve thought about all that, but if u really had, u wouldnt be trying to get pregnant right now.

My god....You guys are awful
you say you dont judge, and I come on here to open up to people who I think can help me, and all you can do is say how immature I am...And you dont even know me or what kind of situation I am in...Thanks alot...But I know never to come to any of you for advice again

shawna

No one is judging you they're simply giving you a huge reality check, which is obviously something you don't want to hear. No one is going to tell you having a child is great and easy and encourage someone at your age to have one. They are going to give you straight facts and present you with the brutally honest truth. If you can't handle that then you definitely aren't ready for a child.

Thats not it at all...Im sick of comming on here to ask you people if the signs im showing are what I think they are...And then being told that I cant handle it..And im too young...I dont have people to come to at my house..So I thought I could come to you people for support..But I sure was wrong...My friends here agree with what im doing, but I cant really talk to them about it, and be like "does this seem like what I think it is...?" thats why I came on here last september. I know your trying to help...But dont judge me because of my choices....

Shawna

Your reactions to the information these girls are giving you is what is making you sound imature. I don't blame anyone for what they tell you. Tell us what your friends already know, for them to agree with what you are doing. Who knows, maybe if you tell us what they already know, then maybe you won't get the feedback that you so much don't like. But you are hearing from girls your own age who are pregnant or already parents, and they are telling you what its like!! You should respect the info they are giving you, they are only trying to help you in the long run!

Stacey

Look shawna I am 14 years old and I know that I am the youngest mom to be on here, and yet these girls have given me advice and even laughed with me through a very embarrasing crisis. But try at 16 to have a baby is not the smartest decison, no one is saying you can't do it, just that you would be better off waiting! Some of us made dumb decisions which landed us here, but are about to experience the best thing of our life. I know I am alot younger than you, but maybe waiting isn't such a bad idea!

Chrystin

I think we're all pretty nice and understanding when girls are in trouble. We don't however think it's ok when a girl who is 15/16 is trying for a baby. I don't care if you are loaded and you think you're mature. No one is ready mentally. I know there are 16 year olds on here who are great moms but it's still rough on them. You don't need to health forum at us, you need to take a look in the mirror. Deal with your issues.

Also she said she wanted to be preg because her home life sucks and she wanted to 'prove' she could do it. Thats not a reason to have a baby..At all. Shouldnt even be part of a reason. At 16 u have so much more to think about and sooo much more time ahead.

If you want to prove that you can do it and get out of your house, save all of your money and move into a really really nice apartment after high school, drive a hot little car and buy fashionable clothing! Go to the movies with your friends and stuff!

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