At my first visit they did a pap, weighed me, checked my breasts, and gave me prenatel vitamins. They said they weren't going to check the heartbeat because I wasn't that far and they might not get anything.
My second appointment they did the heartbeat and I got an ultrasound with pictures, it was the coolest thing I have ever seen in my life! I have 2 cute little pictures of my baby! I can't wait to find out if its a boy or girl
i don't think there is getting through to someone about this kinda thing, but I think you should do what you feel is best whatever that may be.