Hi,

i’m will, I came across this website and your post because my girlfriend of one month (i know it is not a long time but I will explain) and I are having a lot of problems. I will try to keep it brief. We met we got along 100% she is the female version of me, drives same car, we like same music (rap and she can rap as good as me (yes we are white)) like same movies, like same everything. Well, we both fell in love with each other hard! Well let me take a sec to give you some background. She lives with her dad. He is an ass to her but he loves me because I have a good job, I work for what I own, and i’m just good to her. He will let pee and poop from the dogs sit on the floor until she gets home to clean it. She cooks, cleans, laundry, everything in that house. She walked in the other day and had a nerves breakdown I think. She just hunched over and started crying when she walked in and there was dog mess all over the floor. We walked in the other day and she said “hi dad “he said nothing to her and turned around and said “hey will, how are ya, how’s work.” did not say a word to her. He has done this 2 times. He calls her names like a fat bit** and a lazy moocher. She wants to do mark kay and has been doing it but the stress from her dad and a few other things has stop her and put her in a nonworking mood.. So she has no job. Her dad is all on her ass get a job? Find a job yet?? Ok where was i? Ohh yea, we fell in love and fell hard. Well she was planning on moving out of her dads but she has no job. I live on my mom’s property and I have to get out also. So she said what do you think about moving in together? I was like well you know what… lets do it. I have never fell in love with someone so fast and clicked with someone so fast and think that it is a sign. So we started packing and I got rid of my dogs and then she made a comment “what would you think about us waiting like 2 months before moving in together” I said “i’m packed and ready to go.” so it was dropped. But then a few days later she said” I don’t think it is a good idea if we move in together.” I offered to pay all the rent for the appt. ( $700 ) if she would cover the utilities ( $200-300 ) I really think this is what is going through her head “ she want to move away from her dad, she has no job and I looking but is stressed, she is scared to move in with me for a few reasons 1 too soon, 2 she has no job, 3 she wants to fell equal not like I make more and will hold it over her head. She know I make more and will always make more. She is also scared that if anything happened and I split she would be screwed. I have stood beside her in everything she has done even mary kay ( I spent $370 of my own money to but a whole sale lot off ebay of mary kay stuff) I tell her I believe in you and I know you will do good. Her dad is like that is stupid! Get a real job! I think she has gad because of what I have been reading.



The anxiety and worry are associated with three (or more) of the following six symptoms (with at least some symptoms present for more days than not for the past six months). Note: only one item is required in children.

Restlessness or feeling keyed up or on edge _ she does (always thinks my comments I make are trying to start a fight)
being easily fatigued _ she is ( no job she sleeps till 10-11 and then wants a nap at 2-3 )
difficulty concentrating or mind going blank _ she does
irritability_ yep this also
muscle tension _ her back is sore and has a lot of knots
sleep disturbance (difficulty falling or staying asleep, or restless unsatisfying sleep) _ takes sleeping pills to go to sleep other wise she it up till 3:00am



so she is really stressed (she also just found out a week ago that her ex. Of 2 years is back in jail for crack (yea she picks them good) and I know she still cares for him) over everything and I could hear in her voice that she needed space and time to clear her head. She became read distant from me. And I decided that because I love her and want her to be ok I told her “listen, I love you and don’t want to do this but it seams like you need time and space if we are ever to work. What do you think? She said “yes, I think so” so I said “ok then it is over, the only reason i’m breaking up with you is because you need space not because I want too. I don’t want to!!! But if it the only way to help you I am willing to do anything.

So, she is now saying I don’t know if I want a relationship I don’t know if I want to be alone. I like being alone I know I will be alone forever and never get married I just know it. I don’t want any responsibilities I have been responsible since 16 and I want my time to be a kid! (i’m 23 and she is 20) I know we are young and there are a lot of girls out there but I was asks a question and it hit me like a sack of rocks I was stunted with the question and my answer.



I’m texas( will ) and my friend is t0tgiglz( 35 female 3 kids)

chat with a friend last night:



[10:53pm]« t0tgiglz » you want my opinion now

[10:53pm] <|texas|> ?¿

[10:53pm] <|texas|> shoot

[10:54pm]« t0tgiglz » hun

[10:54pm]« t0tgiglz » 'youre always gonna have ups and downs

[10:54pm]« t0tgiglz » thats life

[10:55pm] <|texas|> well let me tell you more...

[10:56pm] <|texas|> we were going to move in together

[10:56pm] <|texas|> she wanted away from her dad

[10:56pm] <|texas|> and I live on my moms property and I need away!

[10:56pm] <|texas|> and we both thought about moving in together

[10:56pm] <|texas|> and both thought is was a good idea

[10:57pm]« t0tgiglz » you can repeat all this you want

[10:57pm]« t0tgiglz » or you can take my advise

[10:57pm] <|texas|> witch is?

[10:58pm]« t0tgiglz » you need to ask your self

[10:58pm]« t0tgiglz » can you live without this girl ?

[10:58pm] <|texas|> of course

[10:59pm] <|texas|> I know there are others

[10:59pm] <|texas|> but you know the one you will always remember when they got away

[10:59pm] <|texas|> but I hear ya

[10:59pm]« t0tgiglz » can you live without this giel

[10:59pm]« t0tgiglz » girl

[10:59pm] <|texas|> yea

[11:00pm]« t0tgiglz » then theres your answer move on

[11:00pm]« t0tgiglz » and quit dwelling on it

[11:00pm] <|texas|> wow,,,holly caca!

[11:00pm]« t0tgiglz » shes not the right girl for you

[11:00pm] <|texas|> øh my god

[11:00pm] <|texas|> that just hit me like a ton of bricks

[11:00pm] <|texas|> I cant

[11:00pm] <|texas|> not really

[11:00pm] <|texas|> just the thought of never being with her

[11:00pm]« t0tgiglz » you cant what

[11:01pm]« t0tgiglz » then get your caca together\

[11:01pm] <|texas|> no I cant I cant live without her





the real answer is no I cant live without her! I have to have her in my life. Do you think this is what she is suffering from? Please any info or links would help. Thank you for for your time.

Will