Teen Pregnancy Forum - 16 & More Than Likely Pregnant, Advice Please.

Obviously i'm pregnant or well according to the health question hpt's that i've spent a fortune on in the past week. Anyway, that's not what I need advice on its the baby's father. We dated for 9 months and then our parents made us stop seeing each other back in january, i've been sneaking seeing him and obviously having sex, he has a girlfriend whom hes been with since january..So there's a lot of problems here. I dont know what to do. I havent told him yet because I know he is going to flip because he and I are a secret and yeah, well, that makes it sound bad but we're still in love we just could never have apublic relationship. Anyway, I was wondering what any of you would do. If my parents find out i've been talking with him let alone seeing him and having sex with him to the point where im pregnant I think they're liable to go off the deep end. What should I do first and what would you do in my position?
Any help is appreciated and please dont judge me about being hte 'other' girl. I know its wrong but its the only way he and I can be together without his or my parents getting suspicious..Anyway..Advice please!. Thanks in advance.

Replies(13)

caracook

replied on May 27th, 2004

Experienced User

Why did your parents make you stop seeing him? If they really hate him it's not going to be easy telling them. You have to tell them though. It will be hard and they will probably yell at you but hopefully eventually they'll get used to the idea that they're going to have a grandchild. And tell them to kiss your ass because you love him.

shy_thang04

replied on May 28th, 2004

New User

Honestly...If you guys really truly love each other you shouldn't let parents stop you from seeing each other. I've been in the same situation. I went out with a guy for 9 months and his parents "disapproved" of me even tho I did nothing wrong. We fell in love with each other. Then we thought that I might of gotten pregnant and we had to tell them. Now if you knew my dad you would of rather died. When I told him he reacted completely opposite to what I thought he would do. He offered to let me use their health insurance for the Dr. Appt. (my parents and I had recently been in a huge fight and I moved out so we didnt and still dont have a good relationship). Anyways...Long story short his parents hated me and once we found out that I wasnt pregnant they kept telling him to break up with me and he did. We were broke up for 5 months and he said he realized what kinda mistake he made and that I was the one for him. So...Alls i'm really saying is dont let your families run your relationships because they cant choose the one you love and if you let them you could be making the biggest mistake of your life by letting the guy go.

nikki_caro

replied on May 28th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Ok well if hes so in love why does he have another girlfriend and your just a secret? Thats not the only way for you to be together without them being suspicious, but anyways. You have to tell your parents but you should tell the guy first to see what his plans are. Now what are your plans? Seems like you care more about this guy than your plans for the baby. Are you going to keep it? What are you going to do?

If I were you id tell your guy that you are pregnant and talk to him about it, then tell your parents that you are pregnant and they are going to have a grandkid. They dont have to like you guy but they have no choice now. And why would you guy flip out when having sex eventually leads to babies! He should know that by now.

linuxChique

replied on May 28th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Hear, hear!

nikki_caro

replied on May 28th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

And another thing, were you using protection if you were having sex? Were you on birth control or something? Because if you think those htp's were expensive a baby is alot more costly than a test. So you need to get things moving on quick so you and your guy can save up some money and you need to see a doc. So tell your parents asap. Your guy will also have to dump his girlfriend if he wants to stay with you.

linuxChique

replied on May 28th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

And if he doesn't dump her, she's sure as he|| gonna dump him when she finds out!

caracook

replied on May 28th, 2004

Experienced User

Ok, what the he11 was I thinking? The other girls are right. If he loved you he wouldn't be with another girl. He's cheating on her with you. You're the other woman. That's not a cool thing to be. You need to tell him that it's just gonna be you and no one else or you're through with him. Don't put up with it. If he says he won't stop seeing her then maybe you should listen to your parents and not see him.

lee25

replied on May 28th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

Be careful he might play that it isn't mine roll. He might deny you to look good in his girlfriends eyes. I'm sorry to say you were just someone he had on the side.

Caracook how are you, I haven't been to the other forum in a long time. Have you been able to concieve yet, sorry for being nosy.

Brenda

StacyLynn

replied on May 28th, 2004

Experienced User

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KariM18

replied on May 28th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Well no offense but I wouldnt call it love if he has another girlfriend.....Even if u guys have to be 'secret' he doesnt have to have another girlfriend. Anyhow I agree with nikki. And u need to figure out plans for the baby, with or with out him. And ur parents are going to have to get over it if they are going to have a grandbaby with him and im sure they will. Why dont they want u seein him? How old is he? How far would you be? And r u going to keep the baby?

caracook

replied on May 28th, 2004

Experienced User

:lee:
yeah, i'm 8 weeks pregnant.

HelpingYou24_7

replied on December 27th, 2007

New User

If anyone needs advice on teen pregnancy or anything for that matter please email i would love to try to give you the best advice i can i had a baby as a teenager...

jessamyn

replied on December 31st, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

FYI to whomever bumped this. This post is from 2004

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