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chronic
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
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16 & More Than Likely Pregnant, Advice Please.
Posted: 05-27-04 22:34pm
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Obviously i'm pregnant or well according
to the health question hpt's that i've
spent a fortune on in the past week.
Anyway, that's not what I need advice on
its the baby's father. We dated for 9
months and then our parents made us stop
seeing each other back in january, i've
been sneaking seeing him and obviously
having sex, he has a girlfriend whom hes
been with since january..So there's a lot
of problems here. I dont know what to do.
I havent told him yet because I know he
is going to flip because he and I are a
secret and yeah, well, that makes it sound
bad but we're still in love we just could
never have apublic relationship. Anyway,
I was wondering what any of you would do.
If my parents find out i've been talking
with him let alone seeing him and having
sex with him to the point where im
pregnant I think they're liable to go off
the deep end. What should I do first and
what would you do in my position?
Any help is appreciated and please dont
judge me about being hte 'other' girl. I
know its wrong but its the only way he and
I can be together without his or my
parents getting suspicious..Anyway..Advice
please!. Thanks in advance.
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caracook
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Location: Richmond, KY
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Posted: 05-27-04 22:40pm
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Why did your parents make you stop seeing
him? If they really hate him it's not
going to be easy telling them. You have
to tell them though. It will be hard and
they will probably yell at you but
hopefully eventually they'll get used to
the idea that they're going to have a
grandchild. And tell them to kiss your
ass because you love him.
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shy_thang04
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Posted: 05-28-04 00:16am
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Honestly...If you guys really truly love
each other you shouldn't let parents stop
you from seeing each other. I've been in
the same situation. I went out with a guy
for 9 months and his parents "disapproved"
of me even tho I did nothing wrong. We
fell in love with each other. Then we
thought that I might of gotten pregnant
and we had to tell them. Now if you knew
my dad you would of rather died. When I
told him he reacted completely opposite to
what I thought he would do. He offered to
let me use their health insurance for the
Dr. Appt. (my parents and I had recently
been in a huge fight and I moved out so we
didnt and still dont have a good
relationship). Anyways...Long story short
his parents hated me and once we found out
that I wasnt pregnant they kept telling
him to break up with me and he did. We
were broke up for 5 months and he said he
realized what kinda mistake he made and
that I was the one for him. So...Alls i'm
really saying is dont let your families
run your relationships because they cant
choose the one you love and if you let
them you could be making the biggest
mistake of your life by letting the guy
go.
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nikki_caro
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Posted: 05-28-04 00:35am
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Ok well if hes so in love why does he have
another girlfriend and your just a secret?
Thats not the only way for you to be
together without them being suspicious,
but anyways. You have to tell your
parents but you should tell the guy first
to see what his plans are. Now what are
your plans? Seems like you care more
about this guy than your plans for the
baby. Are you going to keep it? What are
you going to do?
If I were you id tell your guy that you
are pregnant and talk to him about it,
then tell your parents that you are
pregnant and they are going to have a
grandkid. They dont have to like you guy
but they have no choice now. And why
would you guy flip out when having sex
eventually leads to babies! He should
know that by now.
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linuxChique
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nikki_caro
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Posted: 05-28-04 01:56am
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And another thing, were you using
protection if you were having sex? Were
you on birth control or something?
Because if you think those htp's were
expensive a baby is alot more costly than
a test. So you need to get things moving
on quick so you and your guy can save up
some money and you need to see a doc. So
tell your parents asap. Your guy will
also have to dump his girlfriend if he
wants to stay with you.
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linuxChique
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Posted: 05-28-04 02:02am
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And if he doesn't dump her, she's sure as
he|| gonna dump him when she finds out!
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caracook
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Joined: 02 Jan 2004
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Location: Richmond, KY
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Posted: 05-28-04 02:18am
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Ok, what the he11 was I thinking? The
other girls are right. If he loved you he
wouldn't be with another girl. He's
cheating on her with you. You're the
other woman. That's not a cool thing to
be. You need to tell him that it's just
gonna be you and no one else or you're
through with him. Don't put up with it.
If he says he won't stop seeing her then
maybe you should listen to your parents
and not see him.
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lee25
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Location: new york
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Posted: 05-28-04 05:42am
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Be careful he might play that it isn't
mine roll. He might deny you to look
good in his girlfriends eyes. I'm sorry
to say you were just someone he had on the
side.
Caracook how are you, I haven't been to
the other forum in a long time. Have you
been able to concieve yet, sorry for being
nosy.
Brenda
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StacyLynn
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Location: Levittown, PA
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Posted: 05-28-04 05:43am
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Last edited by StacyLynn on 06-17-04 10:17am; edited 1 time in total
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KariM18
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Posted: 05-28-04 05:52am
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Well no offense but I wouldnt call it love
if he has another girlfriend.....Even if u
guys have to be 'secret' he doesnt have to
have another girlfriend. Anyhow I agree
with nikki. And u need to figure out
plans for the baby, with or with out him.
And ur parents are going to have to get
over it if they are going to have a
grandbaby with him and im sure they will.
Why dont they want u seein him? How old
is he? How far would you be? And r u
going to keep the baby?
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caracook
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Location: Richmond, KY
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Posted: 05-28-04 07:44am
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:lee:
yeah, i'm 8 weeks pregnant.
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HelpingYou24_7
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Posted: 12-27-07 15:48pm
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If anyone needs advice on teen pregnancy
or anything for that matter please email i
would love to try to give you the best
advice i can i had a baby as a teenager...
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jessamyn
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Posted: 12-31-07 17:27pm
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FYI to whomever bumped this. This post is
from 2004
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