Hi I am same with you too we plan to have a baby but trying for 8 months will no result...I am very upsad too and really dont know why it is so hard for someone who really wish to have a baby compare to someone who dont really want to get pregnant...Well what kind of things you are trying ??? Do share with me.... Thanks

I'm 31. How old are u?
My emotions also changed because of this problem. I used to be very moody & upset during the first few mths when I found myself not scceeded with iuis. My husband & I started planning for a birth since we got married (it's been 14 mths). We started seeking medical help since last aug. Still no good news!
but now I tried not to think too much (i've heard that pressure is one of the causes of failure). Most important, talk with someone, not just your husband (because men always has different thinking from us), talk to a friend. I kept all these things to myself all the way which made me very sad. Then a started to share with one of my friend. It's always good to listen to some other ppl's advise. Then I explored that not just I have this problem, but many couples around us also do.
I'll probably go thru an ivf in jul. I'll have daily injection starting from day 21 of my period. All the way to the day that I go to hospital for egg collection. It sounds scary but i'm sure i'll be brave enough to do all these. I'm just afraid of other disappointment this time.
Pls share your story.

Hi I am rin I will be 31 by this coming 15 june. So we are same aged.I am just like you we are hoping to have a baby too well this month I am very upsad too cause I have my period 5 days ago. I wonder what happen we have sex on my ovulation day but I still can:t get pregnant... I am taking a medicine too kind of chinese herbs for almsot 2 months. Dr. Says that it help to make my womb stronger becuase when I was young I do a lot of gym maybe it course the womb weaker..I am not sure... I ovulated every months just that maybe timing is not right or my husband sperm is not strong ?? I am not sure but my husband keep his sperm for 1 weeks but it doenst help much.....Umm I am getting tired of this too...But as you says that give yourself a time and dont put pressure to yourself but how ??? I wonder how you can do that cuase we hope to have a children and everymonth we have only 1 chances so if we just ignore it how if the ovulations time passby and we didnt detacted it then we are wasting one month right ????? If we keep track then at least we can know when we will ovulated....This month I am trying to do it starting 11 days after period and do alternate day continues...For 2 weeks and see what is the results...Well to be frank to you I am getting tired and tell my husband how about go for adoption...Ha..H.A now I am checking about it but it seem that we need to try up to 3 years then we can apply for the adoption. Oh my

Hi rin,

i totally understand your feelings. It's difficult to pretend to be relaxed & not to be under pressure. It's sooooo true. We all think every single month could be an important one. I just want to tell you not to think too much when you're expecting any results. It's important to do some planning & calculations on which days & time to "action". But after that, try not to think that you're already preg! I used to think too much about it, avoiding things that preg women dont do or eat. That I would get tooooo upset when I know the negative results. So, after "action", just run a normal life. I think god would do the rest. Sometimes I would think it's not that god think we dont deserve a baby, just that it might not be the right timing for us, right?
When I was younger, I was too thin and I lost my period for more than half a year. That maybe be the problem.

I've also taken chinese medicines too! How's yours working so far. Do you know the ingredients in yours? I've been taking them for a month. Not much difference, except pimples breaking out in the 1st few days.

Cheers

Hi rin again, well thank you for your advice :p I just finished my so called period. Umm this month I going to try again and dont want to expect to much too let god decide it. About the chinese medicine I think it contained kind of the ginseng , tongkui..Which make your body become warm and also make your womb stronger. I finished my medicine already for 2 month only. By the way where are you from ? Are you chinese ? What make you taking chinese medicine ?

Well if you taking chinese medicine you need to drink lot of water or else your pimples will appear for some people, but it is ok .

As for my case I am overweight when I was young and my period always delay mostly 40days so doctor asked me to do a bit of exercise so I try to diet about 3years time then I lost almost 20kg..Then I taking chinese medicine too to help my period get to normal..Then it become more stable..Around 30 days ..After I lose 20 kg I maintain it and I become enjoy doing exercise everyday I will drop by gym　center after office hours ,,, so for me maybe that course my woob abit weak ...

Actually I have a checked up this year march just scanning around stamach area according to the doctor she says that I am normal everything is good and I have an egg too ....And she says that my egg is not ready yet...Even that days is almost 18days after my period....It is a bit late....Then I says to the doctor that why I am not pregnant even on my ovulation day ?? She reply me saying that it is hard to says or maybe your husband sperm is not enought so she says better asked him to do a check up.....

After that checked up I went to chinese doctor then she says that only thru. Scanning you cannot know the reason behind...She says that maybe your womb is weak then the cannot hold the sperm ........Oh my what is all that mean ??? And I says that will it be my husband problem...She says most properly is female problem...Cuase she says my husband is just 34 years old and should be no problem......( but actually he keep his sperm even for 3-4 days also)

i really dont know what to do anyway then I suggest to my husband why not we go and have a real check up together ...But he says no need to hurry we just try our best first.....I really got not patient....And tell him why not we adopt a child first....He try so hard to comform me but...Well after all they will not understand our feelings.

Ummm what should we do ??

Hi rin,

yes, i'm chinese. I used to live in australia. And now I station in hong kong.

U havent try doing iui (where the sperm wash is done to increase mobility & quality, then injected very close to the egg while ovalution. So the sperm will not need to swim all the way thru the virgina to increase chances of success), right? I've done that 7 times over 5 mths (but not in a row), still no good news!

have u take clomid b4 to have better ovalution? Ask your gynae about this drug. I've used it for 3 of my cycles. I resulted with better & bigger eggs. But still failed to success..Hahaha...But i've heard this drug causes other problems. So, make sure your gynae explain to u clearly, ok?

Try not to force your husband too harsh in the adoption issue. Of course, we all want to have babies. And I mean instantly, right? We want it now!!! But you dont have to think too much adopting one while you're still trying. I think your husband doesnt want to give u too much pressure. If he was the one who suggests adopting a child, that must really hurts your feelings, agree?

Chinese medicines are something that need longer time in order to work. Tongkui is a very good medicine for all women. I also went to a chinese doc who does accupunture for me. And she gave me this chinese medicine which probably has similar ingredients to yours. Lets hope they'll help!

A small piece of advice from this chinese doc, she told me not to eat or drink anything cold, especially period our periods. She said this causes the womb to reduce its size which causes infertility.

I'll probably start my period within these couple of days. And i'm not looking for any miracle to happen. Cos I dont feel tired, no bigger tummy, sore breast. Hahaha.... I'm trying to see this pregnancy thing as a job I have to do next month. So, I wont be feeling disappointed when my period comes this month, true?

Rin here, by the way what is iui ? I am from malaysia but marriage with a japanese so I am actually stay in japan since last year september . It is hard to see a doctor here cause I cannot explain properly. Only when I went back to my hometown then I can checked with my panel doctor so it is actually a bit different situation here. Yes you are right we should not drink cold water but I always did it actualy ..Now really want to control it..Special ice cream..Ha...H.A. What is clomid ? I never done all those things yet but I heard it before but not actually know what is that and where I can get it ?? And also iui ?? Can you share with me ??
Thanks