I Broke Up With My Boyfriend!! Posted: 05-22-04 08:49am
I just broke up about a week ago and ever
since I have been super depressed!! We
still love each other so much, we were
even considering a marriage but at the
same time we were so miserable together
for the whole 4 years. We broke up so
many times and got back together many
times. Even this time i'm hoping that we
can get back together again but he finally
made it clear that this is it because he
was really fed up with our stupid fights.
Everyone around us has been telling us
that we are not meant to be together since
we fight too much, but I really cannot
give up on him. I am hoping that he will
cool down in a few weeks and come back to
talk to me again (like usual) but is this
a silly hope to have???? I am lost, if I
can't even hope to get back with him one
day, I might destroy myself for the
sadness!!!!! What do I do, help!!!!
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 05-22-04 13:29pm
Sometimes you have to be brutal to be kind
& right now I feel that is what you
need. You & this guy have wasted 4
years of your lives fighting, breaking up,
getting back together & then doing it
all over again, I pray there are no kids
involved in your immature inability to
move on (& I am talking about both of
you!)!
Go & do a self-development, personal
growth course, do some community volunteer
work & find out what real people have
to deal with & grow up so that you can
have a real relationship without all the
garbage this one has.
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glaston
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 May 2004 Posts: 18 Location: US, IL
Posted: 05-23-04 06:41am
What do you mean by "destroy yourself for
the sadness"?
It sounds like you're saying that without
a glimpse of hope of someday getting back
with the guy, you might kill yourself. Or
at best mentally destroy yourself via the
sadness.
Well, that's just crazy!
That's the same as saying that this guy is
the only reason you exist.
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 05-27-04 04:43am
Purple chair:
my husband of 2 years met me after
breaking up with his girlfriend/fiancee of
7 years. They were the same way. They
liked/loved each other, but they hated
each other too. They fought all the time
and broke up many many times during the 7
years they were off and on. People around
them saw what was going on and begged them
to break up for years. When they finally
did, they really missed each other, but
they moved on. Now all of his friends
comment on how much happier he is with me
and she is now married too and they bought
a house this year.
There are feelings of attachment and
loneliness, but if your situation is like
ours, the two of you do not need to be
together. Dont waste any more time.
