I Want a Baby, So Does He. Posted: 09-15-03 16:28pm
We
both want a baby. I'm ready and my
boyfriend is too. We're in love and are
willing to do what is necessary to have a
baby. I'm 15, about to be 16. And he is
22. I know I know. I'm jailbait, but we
love each other. I've known him for 5
years and he's been my bestfriend, now
he's my 'fiance' and we will be moving in
together in a few short years. My mother
likes him, but my father dosent.
My question is; when I do become
pregnant and am for sure. How do I tell
my parents without sounding sappy about it
or too young?
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Tanya
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2003 Posts: 145 Location: Hmm
Posted: 09-15-03 16:55pm
Im not judging you darling so please don't
take offense to my comments but why do you
want a baby right now? Don't you want to
finish school and have an education? If
this relationship is going to last why not
wait a few years until your emotionally
and financially stable. I wouldnt worry
about telling the 'rents until you
actually are pregnant. There is so much
you have to think about especially if your
not living with your boyfriend. I urge
you to wait until your older to make such
a huge decision. You may regret it in the
long run. However I wish you much luck
and hope you do whatever is right for you.
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TennesseeTeen1516
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2003 Posts: 5 Location: Tennessee
Posted: 09-15-03 17:02pm
I am finnancially stable. I have a
savings account of over 10,000 dollars
that my great grandmother left for me when
she died 6 years ago. And I work so I
have my own bank account which has around
6,000 in it. Plus if necessary my parents
would help me out a little. And my
boyfriend has a fairly good job and a
house of his own that his great
grandmother left him when she died 2 years
ago. But, we're not 100% sure yet...Only
65% sure we're ready.
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Tanya
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2003 Posts: 145 Location: Hmm
Posted: 09-15-03 17:52pm
I certainly wasn't judging you. I hope
you make the decision thats right for you
and I wish you lots of luck. If you
become pregnant then be sure to tell us!
Much love
tanya
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-15-03 17:57pm
Either way, you are still too young. You
are not mature enough to handle all the
responsibilities for another. Are you
ready to cook 3 meals a day for you and
your baby plus your guy? Then you have to
clean all the time, do all the laundry,
plus get up 6 times a night to a crying
baby who needs a diaper change. Then take
the baby a bath daily. Put up with buying
all the clothes and diapers and wipes only
to find out you need more of everything
next week. Darlin even if he says he
loves you and is ready to be with you,
then finish school, go to college, live
your life then get ready to settle down to
a baby. Its no walk in the park. And hes
a bit old for you, have you ever thought
of why hes not with someone his own age?
That scares me. My husband is 25 and im
19, but to know that someone his age could
be with a minor of 15...Worries me.
Please hold off on all of that until you
are older.
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Tanya
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2003 Posts: 145 Location: Hmm
Posted: 09-15-03 18:04pm
I agree with nikki, she can put her
thoughts into words better than I can
Oh wow this is a huge step, I mean lets
set aside the money factor and that you
think you love the guy...
Jessika's things to consider
*schooling
*midnight feedings
*high school during pregnancy(and if like
me while on bed rest)
*homework with a cranky baby
*if your bf wants to be a "teen" and
party
*your body is not yet mature and your
pelvic bone is likely to break in labor
*the relationship is likely to go sour
*deciding what your bf's role will be
until you move out in a few years
now I understand that you love this guy,
but having a baby to show your love is not
the brightest idea. Get promise rings,
take vows, etc. But it would be really
hard to finish high school if you have a
baby, what your sophomore year? I am 17,
a senior and put on bed rest, now I do my
school work online until I get back, but I
go to a private school so I don't know if
public schools offer that kind of thing.
Just think all of the consequences before
tossing the bc!!
Good luck and best wishes
-jessika-
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PnaiMaMi
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2003 Posts: 29 Location: New Jersey
I'm In the Same Situation... Posted: 09-15-03 22:01pm
Girl, we on the same page :d ...My man is
23 and i'm 17. We've been together for 2
years going on 3. We are planning to have
a baby but i've got my reasons for being
ready. First, i'm done high school. I'm
getting ready to go to college. Second,
we're financially ready. I've got my
license so I don't have to worry about how
i'm gonna get to my appointments or work
or school. We're getting ready to move in
together so worrying about a babysitter
isn't going to be a problem. Third, my
parents are totally cool about us and
understand our situation. I often joke
about getting pregnant by him with my
parents and now when I tell them about
pregnancy i'm totally serious about it.
Actually my mom is pregnant, she's 33.
She was young when she had me so she
understand. Last, i've got experiences
with babies. Before I decided whether or
not I want a baby...I was actually sent to
my cousin's to help her with my godson.
She's in the military so soon as she had
the baby after a week, she was sent to
work and I was watching my godson. Every
day, 5 o'clock in the morning, I had to
get up to feed him, change him, and put
him back to sleep. He'd get up every two
hours so that's barely any sleep for me.
I was working too. I had to be at work
from 5pm to 11 pm...Sometimes even til
4am. It's alot of work but I fell in
love with the thought of having a baby...I
got use to the schedule and his crying and
all that fun stuff. Now he is 3 months
and lemme tell you he is spoiled I
treat him like he is my own son. I don't
know...Maybe you should really think about
it. Are you really ready
maybe you should try a reality check like
I did. The outcome might be different
from mines. Maybe if you were sent to
take care of a baby for 3 months you'll
change your mind about having one. It's
really alot of responsibility. Making
bottles, bathing him, washing clothes,
etc. For me, there were times I just
wanted to cry because I didn't know what
was wrong with my godson when he cried for
no reason but other than that there was a
whole lot of loving to it. So think about
it, ok.
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HongKongChick
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 222 Location: Oklahoma
Posted: 09-17-03 22:21pm
U know? It sucks that women have the
biological clock which ticks whenever it
feels like.
Ok, being finanically ready, physically,
mentally ready for a baby might seem so
right to have one now, but why not wait
till at least u grad from hs, being
married to ur fiance, see how the marriage
life works for you, then decide.
Though if having a baby is just the number
one that u wanna do right now, at 15, and
not out of hs, then do it, becoz no body
can stop you, but when u do, try to
imagine (close ur eyes) what's it like to
have a baby in ur arms....Etc...Be sure to
consider the good times and the bad, if u
can see urself handling all of it, triple
the problems that u imagined, coz that's
how much problems u r really gonna have.
But realy though if that's what u really
really really want, do it, and no regrets
We
both want a baby. I'm ready and my
boyfriend is too. We're in love and are
willing to do what is necessary to have a
baby. I'm 15, about to be 16. And he is
22. I know I know. I'm jailbait, but we
love each other. I've known him for 5
years and he's been my bestfriend, now
he's my 'fiance' and we will be moving in
together in a few short years. My mother
likes him, but my father dosent.
I
treat him like he is my own son. I don't
know...Maybe you should really think about
it. Are you really ready 
maybe you should try a reality check like
I did. The outcome might be different
from mines. Maybe if you were sent to
take care of a baby for 3 months you'll
change your mind about having one. It's
really alot of responsibility. Making
bottles, bathing him, washing clothes,
etc. For me, there were times I just
wanted to cry because I didn't know what
was wrong with my godson when he cried for
no reason but other than that there was a
whole lot of loving to it. So think about
it, ok.