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Hi,
my husband is 38 yrs old, we are just married, we never had sex before marriage because I am old fashioned catholic, and my husband has a small penis, that grows when is erected, the problem is that he can not stay erected for a long time just 4 a few minutes this happen often, before we can do a sexual intercourse, or sometimes his penis grows as to going be erected, but it is not hard, it stays soft, so is impossible to have a sexual intercourse often... And apart his sexual desire is not strong.
The physical appareance of my husband is "boyish"... All this could be a problem from born ,psychologic problem, a hormonal problem, is he really impotent???
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replied September 15th, 2003
I had the same problem, but I am in my 50's, I would suggest you suggest to him to see a doctor, they can check hormone levels, I now use viagra, again have him see a doctor, nothing to be ashamed Embarassed about, guys always seem to want to wait, so get on his butt and get him moving. Good luck
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replied September 15th, 2003
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Is he concerned about this as you are? Just a question. But you need to get him "up" and in the mood. This is on your part. Are you helping him out or just waiting for him to get erect? If you dont want to see a doctor on this just yet then make sure he gets healthy and try new "tricks" to get him in the mood. Maybe a romantic style or maybe a kinky style. You know rose petals and love music...Or some sex toys. If nothing works, make an appt with a doc. They will help him. Good luck!
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replied December 31st, 2007
Bow hunter, just wondering, how much does Viagra cost?
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replied January 7th, 2008
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viagra is very expensive. i think i remember it being £60 ($120) for four tablets when it was prescribed by the doctor. however it can be found online much cheaper than that. it has many generic equivalents which do exactly the same thing and are actually affordable. i would not recommend buying anything though until he has been seen by a doctor. ED can often be a symptom of other underlying problems or illnesses. is your husband diabetic, for example? does he take any kinds of medication?

it could be a physical issue or equally it could be that he is feeling pressured to perform. perhaps this isn't something you discuss, but does your husband masturbate? if he masturbates and is able to successfully maintain an erection and reach orgasm through masturbation then it is NOT a physical problem but a psychological one. if you haven't talked to him about this already then you need to talk with him! perhaps he is just anxious because he is inexperienced and is afraid of not being able to please you.

me and my partner do have experience of using viagra and cialis, we have bought them online and i know a bit about them but i wouldnt want to share my advice with you without you first having discussed this all with your husband and asked him what he thinks the problem might be, and you both go to the doctor to rule out the possibility that he has an underlying physical problem. sex drugs should only be a last resort!

kind regards.
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replied January 16th, 2008
I had the same problem
I feel for what mexicanwoman was going through. After 7 years of marriage my husband used to rarely approach me for sex and often turned down sex from me (even oral) saying he had no desire because he was stressed from his job. We started taking Cialis (bought it online) and it works.
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replied February 29th, 2008
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i have a small one to but it works with cialas . i is very weak with out it. give it a try.
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replied May 27th, 2008
It is possible he suffers ED
It worthwhile giving some supplements a try. Cialis, Herbal Cialis like Amorelo. Viagra or herbal Viagra like Horn from Ultimate-herbal.com. These will probably help to assist with your husbands impotences problems.
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replied October 8th, 2009
My husband cannot sustain errection for sex
Viagra should be taken for how many days? So that a man can overcome hid ED problem?
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replied May 28th, 2010
impotence or psycological punishment or both from a sex addict?
Mexicanwoman also

I have been married for one year and months im 40 and he's 50 . he was never married only once engaged after that he became a womanizer you name it married women, single, 20 years old more than him like 71, years old strip club regular, porno, and until i came to live with him and marry him i realize the mess he was in
He began this mess , when he was rejecting me or saying he was always in stress for his job, one day I discover an e mail that he wrote to his friend saying that he has not lust for me because i wasnt his type, like strippers women with big breast, and buddy, and even some of them were married, we went to couple's theraphy . it helped some but he beging to see a lot of porno and then he say that i should respect his privacy. we got separated for 6 months and take a second chance, this time i find out that during our separation even 2 weeks before I was coming here for months he became the best friend of the cleaning lady ,that recently was divorced,i even talk with that woman in the beging she denied everything until I have suspicion when i saw the phone records as a proff of calling him to her every day like 2 a 3 times up to 40 mins then i confront him and he was very mad because
he told me that it wasnt nothing between them just a friend and he was so worry and ashamed of what the cleaning could think of him. he havent call her again, but every time we got in a disscution brings out the issue with the cleaning lady ,she still working with us i dont like at all
and told, me that that was a complete turn off to have sex with me so he now punish me avoiding sex, and aout of sudend I' dont have desire for my husband any more by the way he has severe erectal dysfunction, but I think he is making any excuse for no havimg sex. also he cant stop waching porno and denied most of the times, so i have lost trust on him. I cant talk with him about his'' private life . the last time i was bervally abused he was very aggresive.
as long i dont ask him is ok so I have stop from having a good comunication. I'm very resent with him
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replied October 16th, 2010
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I am going through the same thing. My husband has high blood pressure and he takes blood pressure medications on a daily basis. We have not been able to have sex for more than a year now. He tries other ways of "doing it" but it is not the same as having him. We are both 35 and he never gets hard. It is just soft and cold. I know that is is a very common side effect due to his high blood pressure and all the meds he is taking. What can he take to help him get hard. He does want sex but he just cant perform. His doctor will not prescribe him any meds for this because of his health problems.He is also slightly obese but he does not want to start eating healthy. I am going to be honest. I have been tempted to find someone else because my sex drive is going crazy right now but I just cant do that to him. If anyone knows of anything we can try please let me know.
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replied December 3rd, 2010
side effects from medications are always like changing seats on the Titanic. besides, treating symptoms and resolving problems are two different things. Blood flow is key. If someone has extra weight and a bad diet and the arteries are clogged and blocked, their are rememdies that do not involve chemicals.
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replied February 9th, 2011
Although this may not help mexicanwoman, it my help others in the future. DO NOT, i repeat, DO NOT put this off. Seek treatment as fast as possible. Men have a tendency to avoid talking about issues such as these. ED can get much worse over time due to the prolonged lack of proper blood flow and engorgement. Depending the the nature of the condition, Viagra may be enough, whereas other times the problem is psychological and the treatment can get more complex. In either case, taking Viagra or a natural penis enlargement pill is important to keep the condition from getting worse. There is no harm in taking the natural pill and Viagra generally doesn't do much harm.
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replied February 9th, 2011
Do note that there are many other causes for ED than described above. This is why it is so important to see a Urologist (a doctor specializing in male reproductive systems).
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replied August 4th, 2011
Well in my case is very different, I'm in my early 70's,I am from colombia I go everyday to the gym to keep me in shape, also to take careof the age signs with plastic surgery. so I look younger, and very atracctive, no one belives me when they know my age!! but to be honest I have been in affairs for more than 10 years, my husband have a heart condition and the sex was not just not enough also very bad " I mean SEVERE E.D BIG TIME" well he's 76 years old I love him but I have my needs as a women, my lover is a latino that loves casual sex and belived or not we have a pretty good relationship because we don't have jelousy or commiment issues,when he has a time ,Im always avalaible ,he brings new hot ideas he is in his early 50'S .so I won't leave never my husband for him ,we have a long ,long marriage ,belived or not I Love him deeply. but that part of my life will always belong to my latin-lover as long as we still alive.
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replied March 26th, 2012
my husband has OCD, is he impotent ?
hi,my husband is 28 yrs. old and we got married 10 months ago.we haven't done sex yet. earlier my husband was diagnose with OCD(obsessive compulsive disorder) and he took a treatment for it. he said he couldn't do it because of the effects of OCD. now 4 months after the treatment he still don't feel like doing it. we went to an endocrinologist and his testosterone level is normal. now my husband has refused to meet any doctor. the behavior of my husband and in laws has also become hostile. please help
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replied June 1st, 2013
I am sure you husband has an emotional problem more them physical
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replied June 9th, 2013
Viagra and Cialis are good but I think my partner is psychologically dependent. We never have sex without the help of these medications now. I feel like a failure as a woman sometimes because of it. I think that I'm not enough to turn him on. I also feel sex is now mechanical and lacks intimacy. It is like having to book an appointment. The other issue is that if he approaches me for sex then it's because he has taken medication. This leaves me feeling under pressure to have sex even if I am not in the mood. I don't want to hurt my husband but I wish we could have a sex life that didn't require medication. Does anyone else have these feelings?
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replied June 9th, 2013
Viagra and Cialis are good but I think my partner is psychologically dependent. We never have sex without the help of these medications now. I feel like a failure as a woman sometimes because of it. I think that I'm not enough to turn him on. I also feel sex is now mechanical and lacks intimacy. It is like having to book an appointment. The other issue is that if he approaches me for sex then it's because he has taken medication. This leaves me feeling under pressure to have sex even if I am not in the mood. I don't want to hurt my husband but I wish we could have a sex life that didn't require medication. Does anyone else have these feelings?
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replied June 9th, 2013
Viagra and Cialis are good but I think my partner is psychologically dependent. We never have sex without the help of these medications now. I feel like a failure as a woman sometimes because of it. I think that I'm not enough to turn him on. I also feel sex is now mechanical and lacks intimacy. It is like having to book an appointment. The other issue is that if he approaches me for sex then it's because he has taken medication. This leaves me feeling under pressure to have sex even if I am not in the mood. I don't want to hurt my husband but I wish we could have a sex life that didn't require medication. Does anyone else have these feelings?
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