I think we all have a choice and no matter how much pressure we may b under ultimately the decision lays with u.

From someone who cant wait to have a jellybean all of their own

Gaby,
your parents cannot force you to have an abortion- it is your final decision if either one of my daughters got pregnant or one of my sons got a girl pregnant, it would be my hope that they would accept their responsibility and take care of their child. However if I pound into their head at a young age that they will not be aloud to have an abortion, heaven forbid one of them falls pregnant, they may not tell me but instead get an abortion without my knowledge. I feel that would devastate me more knowing that my children could not speak with me first. But as a mother of 3 and one on the way I would never force abortion or any decision pertaining to their child on them. I would guide them into the decision that I think is wise, but again it is ultimately their choice.

I know someone cannot be forced to, but they can be kicked onto the street and stripped of all they have.... And can only come home if they comply with there parents wishes.. That seems enough like forcing to me

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gaby

Gaby, there are many places a young, single teen mother can go or turn to. It is not just to the streets. You can get a job, receive public aide and housing, live in a group home until the age of 18 or 19 and still receive money from the state until the age of 21. There are doors and loopholes around everything, if that being your reason for an abortion, you must have not looked too hard for help. I don’t mean you personally, I mean you in a general term.

Karlee

Yep I get you.. Ok, well im not pregnant.. But if I were iodn tthink id get kicked out anyway

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gaby

I am glad to hear that your parents wouldn't kick you out. Do you have a messenger of some sort?

In normal circumstances I totally agree that no parent should try to force a child (in fact no person should try to force another person) to have an abortion.

But there can be some weird twists in this issue - some people are far more dependent &/or easily led or threatened (by parents/partners & others) into doing what someone else wants them to do be it abortion, adoption or keeping a child. Note I also do not think that anyone esle should force a person to keep a child (either stop an abortion or an adoption!!) - but these days there are so many legal issues - father's rights, mother's rights grandparents rights - & remember if a father or grandparent forces a person to have a child they may in fact not be the ones left to raise the child despite what they say - so it is a mine field in so many ways & it is getting worse.

Then take into account different religious views, laws in different countries & things just keep getting more difficult.

Then there are questions of what a parent should do if their daughter is pregnant & too ill to make her own decision? Or if their daughter is mentally incapable of making such a decision? I don't know what I would do, I guess it would depend on my daughter's medical condition, that if the baby, the effect of the pregnancy on my daughter etc.

Adoption is an option that is all too often & sadly overlooked these days by everyone which is wrong.

Theory, yes I have aim. Do you have anything?

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gaby

Yes, I have lots of things, theories, practises, facts, experiences (mine & others) counselling, concepts, realities, different religions, different laws, different environments, different countries.

so which do you have aim at????????????????????????????????????

yes I have aim and yahoo both

Are you dumb? I meant aim as in aol instant messenger lol

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gaby

Dont name call. She was kidding.

No one can "force" you anymore as I have learned. But in cases with abuse, the girl is not going to argue with her parents. So technically she can be "forced"
but, there is nothing that can be done about it. There is ugliness everywhere.