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Q: I've Lost My Baby!
asked by: baby_jasmine26 on May 10th, 2004
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I went to the emergengy room yesterday like I siad I was, it took six long hours, for them to do what they had to do. Then the doc finally came out and told me that I had a miscarriage. I didn't even want to go to the hospital but my boyfriend made me because he was worried about me and the baby. I was just having light spot bleeding, nothing serious. I didn't cry but my boyfriend squaled like a baby! I am suppose to be 9 wks but the doctor said the fetus was only 8 wks and they could not detect a heartbeat. I asked him when can they detect a heartbeat and he said 3-4 wks and I was thinking bs. When I found out that I was pregnant I went baby crazy and I search the internet for any thing and everything there is to know about pregnancy and every baby site says that a heartbeat can not be detected until the 10-12 wks. For one, the doctor wasn't even an obgyn he was some er doctor and he acted as though he had no idea what was going on. He said that it appears that I had a miscarriage, like he wasn't all a matter of fact. He said that the hospital likes to let nature take it's course when it comes to miscarriages but it doesn't happen by next week they will do a d&c. I am in denial right now. I just keep hoping that he was wrong, like maybe I miscalculated a week and maybe it is too early to hear a heartbeat. I mean this can not be real, this can not be it. It took me and my boyfriend six years to conceive, what am I suppose to do now? Right now as I type this, I am just fine, I mean all I am doing is spot bleeding, no cramps, nothing! My first prenatal visit is this thursday, with a real obgyn, the er doctor told me to keep that appoinment with her. So I could get a second opinion, if I wanted it. What do you guys think? Did I have a miscarriage? Do you think I should get a second opinion? I don't think I can go through that again. I guess my boyfriend and I are going to keep trying. Well we never use any form of birth control any way. So his motto is if it happens it happens and if it don't then it just don't. What is meant to happen will happen! I am just driving my self crazy, praying that the obgyn tells me on thursday that my baby is okay. Please any one respond back I really need the support! Thanks!
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JillMarie
replied on May 10th, 2004
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Im kinda confused cause I thought that if they suspected you of having a misscarrage they would do an ultrasound to see if something is wrong. Im not really sure what to say but I would call your obgyn and schedule an emergency appt. For monday.
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mommabear16
replied on May 10th, 2004
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No comment.
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baby_jasmine26
replied on May 10th, 2004
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Yes the doctor did a belly ulrasound and a vaginal ultrasound, plus blood tests. He said that the blood tests were normal and that they can see the baby and measure it in the ultra sounds and every thing is normal except that they can not hear a heart beat, so they persumme it's dead but I don't think I am far enough along to beable to hear the heart beat. He said that my body will expell the fetus during a spontaneous miscarriage in the next week or so. I just don't know what to think!
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Wings are blue
replied on May 10th, 2004
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I had my first u/s at like 7 weeks and they saw a heartbeat then. They can get a heartbeat a lot earlier on u/s. It's the doppler that they usually can't hear it until like 10 weeks or so. I guess just call your ob in the morning and i'm sure they'll bring you in asap.
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KariM18
replied on May 10th, 2004
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Well idont think he would tell u u m/c if u didnt..And normally u can hear a heartbeat by then I think. .But u never know, sometimes it is harder.. I didnt think doctors just let the baby stay in u . .I thought they automatically did something because your body, if it doesnt know the baby is not alive, would still be running its course to nurish the baby right? I dont know. Ive just never heard it like this. Its confusing..
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smith8500
replied on May 10th, 2004
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Hey
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm
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KariM18
replied on May 10th, 2004
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K im gettin another bad vibe! U too chanda? Thats 2 in one day! But it certainly wouldnt shock me......This one doesnt sound quite as bad as the other one, so I hope im wrong... But I dont know.
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babyrae
replied on May 10th, 2004
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I think u girls were right!

Shauna
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linuxChique
replied on May 10th, 2004
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My babe had a heartbeat at six weeks. It was really strong.
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smith8500
replied on May 10th, 2004
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Hey
Kari~totally.....Bad vibes.
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TiNaBo0314
replied on May 10th, 2004
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I dont think that they would have told u that u m/c
d either if they didn't know for sure but u should def. Go back to ur doc. And get a 2nd oppion, you wouldn't wanna have a d&c and then have it turn out that the baby wasnt dead, it was just in an awkward (??) position so they couldn't hear the heartbeat....
~christina
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