Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 2 Location: San Francisco
Fiance Always Yelling At Me Posted: 05-08-04 02:57am
Hey guys. Im so angry at my fiance. I'm
also sad at the same time. He always
result to calling me names and such that
shouldn't be necessary. Im so pissed
about that. He yells at me and says i've
done nothing for him when I cook, clean,
do the laundry, man I even help him at
work! But he doesn't seem to realize
that. It hurts most of the time when he
doesn't understand what I have done for
him. Please help. What should I do in a
situation like this. I love him so much.
Please help!
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 05-08-04 05:00am
If you do not have children, leave for a
short period of time. If his tune
doesn't change, then it's time to call it
quits!
Good luck,
~jennifer~
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bootsie840
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Nov 2003 Posts: 113 Location: pennsylvainaia
Posted: 05-08-04 06:11am
I truly understand what you are going
through, I to was once a victim of verbal
abuse, and even though I hated him at
the times he was abusive, I couldnt
imagine my life with out him, I loved him
so much to the point I married him and had
a child, and given time the verbal abuse
was now turning to physical abuse and it
got very bad at times, I had broken bones,
etc I still loved him and thought well if
I try something different it will get
better, I always made excuses as to why he
was like this, no one ever knew, id put a
smile on my face and act as though
everything were perfect, and see he was
smart he never left bruises where my
family or people could see, I was living
this horrible nightmare for 5 years,
finally ive had enough my last beating was
it, and seeing the horror on my sons face
was it, its been 13 years and I can
remember it as if it were yesterday,
physical abuse is one thing at least the
bruises and broken bones healed, but the
horrible verbal abuse never goes away,
and it can screw you up big time, if hes
hurting you now ask yourself is he really
worth it, you deserve so much better, if
someone tells you they love you but yet
can be so cruel as to say hurtfull things
and make you feel so belittled and angry,
then they dont really love you, love is
not suppose to hurt, , and no matter what
its never your fault, you are not to
blame for someone elses problems, I wish
you luck and I really hope things work
out for you, there is someone out there
who will treat you with respect and give
you the love you deserve,
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san54
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Dec 2003 Posts: 227 Location: Virginia
Yelling Posted: 05-08-04 07:59am
Kami, get out of that situation now before
more damage is done. He is verbally
abusing you and that is just as bad as if
he hit you. No matter what you do for
him, he is not satisfied. Maybe the
problem is with him and he does not want
to acknowledge it. He only feels better
when he yells at him. Why don't you put
some space between the two of you, and if
he really cared for you he will get help.
And he does need it. Good luck.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Abuse Posted: 05-08-04 08:56am
Bootsie 840 is correct, I have been there!
Just look before you leap! I was
always taught that you make you bed, you
lay in it but after the abuse I went thru
I learned that when those bed sheets get
dirty that you have to change them!
I hope this has helped!
I really hope you make the right
decision!
