I just wanted to brighten some days and get rid of a lot of the negative feelings on this site towards bipolar people in relationships... soo... I would like ONLY THOSE LIVING WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER who have POSITIVE things to say about current and past relationships to share
I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months now, we went to highschool together but we didn't start seeing eachother until 4 years after we graduated. I don't remember specifically when I told him... I think he saw the meds and asked. He had no beef with it... I mean his last ex had drug problems of another sort... so I was a big relief! I honestly think he likes me needing him on my bad days... he likes when I turn to him if I need a shoulder to cry on or ask for advice. He always reminds me to take my meds before bed, and does other things to encourage me to stay healthy...He's an EMT and he likes to help others... So yes. We can lead healthy relationships and I sick and tired of being categorized on this site by people who do not share the disorder... The only unhealthy relationships I have had, had nothing to do with me being bipolar, or involved someone else with a mood disorder.
... ha, sorry, I needed to vent.
You are sooo lucky to have found such an understanding, caring and loving person to share your life with! I have always thaught that it would be a problem for me, when I did eventually find someone, because I always thaught I would be way too high-maintenance. Emotional and moral support is sooo important for people that are struggling with this illness.
People are quick to judge what is "wrong" with us but never take the time to fully comprehend our situation. In my point of view, it's Bipolar ppl that suffer under "normal" people and not vice-versa. It is sooo difficult to make people, who does not have the illness, understand what you are going through.
To give a good example...people are always hammering on me by saying "You just think too negatively...think positive and you wont have all these problems.". It quite frankly angers me off because, to quote the medical description of "clinical depression" (also known as "Unipolar" which is commonly a side-effect of "Bi-Polar") which I also suffer from...
"clinical depression is a serious illness that involves the body, mood, and thoughts that cannot simply be willed or wished away"
I re-itterate..."that cannot simply be willed or wished away"
And for those of you who did not hear me the first two times...
"THAT CANNOT SIMPLY BE WILLED OR WISHED AWAY"
Pheww...I think I have vented a fair amount of steam there...
I'm wondering wether the fact that your bf is a Medical Professional, is what allows him to grasp the severity and seriousness of your condition.
At any rate, I wish you and your boyfriend ALL of the BEST!!!
my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost 1 year now. she has always been honest about her problem.she hasnt taken her meds until here recently because her daughter has had a few problems and it opened her eyes. according to her we are not dating atm she just wants me as a freind. over the past few weeks i have researched and learned alot about bipolar disorder. she has only been back on her meds for almost 2 weeks now, and all i want to do is help in any way i can. but she keeps pushing me away and says there is nothing i can do she needs to do this herself, she just needs time.. i am used to atleast talking to her everyday so it is hard for me to leave her alone...which is what she keeps telling me just give me time and leave me alone...i just get worried so easy cause i care so much... do we still love each other? yes we agree that we do, no problems there at all.. i know i need to wait and give her her space and all but its just hard to do... i havent called her in 3 days now and its about to drive me crazy..we both deep down in our hearts beleive it will work out once she has straight herself out.. she is back on meds and going to a counceler, which i can tell a big improvement already.
not trying to be neg or anything here but i need advice on what i can do to save our relationship...we both know we still want it but she keeps pushing me away and i keep coming back stronger..i want her to know im not scared of her condition and im not leaving her like her last 2 exs did.. im here for the long haul and yes i know what that means and im ok with it..just need to find a way to prove to her im still here no matter what her problem is...i dont want to lose her to a problem that i know i can deal with her having...its ok you know..............
... is key, just let her know that you are there. I'm actually going through a rough patch (I think I'm growing immunity to my meds) and I just had that "I need to make sure I have your full support" conversation with my boyfriend, and I commend you for coming on here and looking for advice. I really do. And I love the fact that you are willing to stick by, through the thick and thin. Hopefully this can help.
You know what, there really are some good relationships involving bipolar. My boyfriend and i have been dating over a year now and i could not love him more if i tried. We are very happy together and when he has his bad days/weeks, i do what i can to support him and we get through it. And you know, its made our relationship so much stronger, we rarely argue, because we just have too much to cope with, with the bi-polar that i think we both just know theres no point arguing over petty things that really don't matter to us. I know different people cope differently and this is obviously quite a specific thing to our relationship, but i just wanted to back up the point that bi-polar does not have to be a one way ticket to singles-ville, and amazingly some things can come out of it quite successfully (don't want to say that it is a 'positive aspect of bi-polar' as i don't want to sound naive to all the other difficulties that come along with the disorder, just wanted to highlight some of its other effects, relationship wise.)