My girlfriend seems to have almost constant orgasms most nights while she is asleep. These are not a result of masturbation and strangely enough not a result of a wet dream. She has no recollection of these orgasms and didn't even know she had the ability to do this. If i wake her, she will tell me very normal, non sexual, dreams that she was having. She seems to breath quick and heavy for about 10-25 minutes and then shakes very fast and uncontrollably for a few seconds, basically a orgasm without sound and then go back to sleep, and then it normally starts over. She will, rarely, use her hand but generally its all with her mind. This is a problem we would both like to fix as it takes away from the closeness of our sleeping. We think maybe if she could get into a deeper sleep maybe she wouldn't do it but we'd like to stay away from sleeping medicines. She does not know how long shes been doin it, she thinks just since we met since no other boyfriend has mentioned it but we're just not sure. You might think i would enjoy this but it keeps me up and really separates us as we sleep and it actually kinda scares her. We have a very good and active sex life and are very attracted to each other but we are both curious and would like this to stop. Any comments?? Advice?
I'm not convinced these are orgasms... are you sure it couldn't be some sort of sleeping disorder? Like sleep apnea or some other breathing disturbance?
Since she can't recall sex dreams, she doesn't remember orgasms?, and it happens so often, it just doesn't seem likely that they're orgasms. I mean, if she woke up and her vulva was swollen or something, then maybe I guess.
But anytime I've had a sex dream (and orgasm in my sleep) I definitely remember it.
Hey, thanks, that's what she thinks too but they seem to "build up" just like a real one and she seems to kinda roll around while it goin on so it seems like it feel good to her. I'm think i'm pretty positive that's what they are, mostly by the way her breathing gets faster and faster until it happens and then slows down for a few minutes. Its weird to me too, i've always remembered any i've had too.
we are certainly considering this. i've heard of irregular sleeping patterns with sleep apnea but the shaking part really throws me off, i've yet to hear of that being a part of it. We are considering seeing someone but not sure who to see yet plus she's a little embarrassed about the whole thing so...
Yeah, I'd get her to a sleeping disorders clinic and have them do a night-time study on her. This doesn't seem normal and though they could be orgasms, the fact that she doesn't remember them makes me think no.
it makes me think no too but "walks like a duck, quacks like a duck ya know"... i guess if you were there you might think yes, it definitely seems like one to me although i would love for it not to be.. i'm still quite sure that it is... i guess we are goin to look into it soon...
Yea I know when I do it. And I wake up. I was unsure that it was ACTUALLY an orgasm till now. I thought I was just "dreaming" one. I dunno. But I actually feel the "after gasm". If your gf was orgasming she would feel that comfy/happy/sleepy/fulfilled feeling when she woke up.
she does.. i can wake her up right after and she feels what she calls "tingly" or "shaky" but she still hasn't actually felt one yet which makes me wonder what it really is.. but it certainly seems like one to me....