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Q: Am I Crazy??

asked by: Lindsay6119 on September 14th, 2003

New User

Hi everyone!

My name is lindsay I have a serious question to ask so please read closely before jumping to conclusions.

My story

right now I live at home with my mother and father they are separated but still live together. I will be 16 oct. 10th. I have had a very bad life and till this day I still do. My mother does alot of drugs and drinks alot she is putting me through hell. I have gone through so much and have grown up way to soon I think. I am not childish and I am very mature for my age. Im the one everyone goes to for advice but this one I want to be answered by people who have gone through pregnancy. My number one dream is to get out of here. My mom is horrible you just dont know. I have panic and anxiety disorder from going through so much stress. It seems like my life is going by so fast but not fast enough and very unhappy. I have a ex who I went out with for 2 years he is the greatest guy I have ever meant. We broke up due to my mother . He is going into the navy soon and I want to be with him so bad. I cant deal with this life style no more. The only way to get out of it is to be old enough or amancipated which both I am not. I could live with a family member and sad to say most of my family is bad news. I am a very bright person and I think I will have a successful life. I am going to tech school in less than a month to get my diploma and college credits. The only problem is I want to be with my ex and he wants to be with me. He is leaving soon though and I want to go with him so bad. He has life worked out for him so well. I cant get married due to my age. But I could get pregnant and then my parents have no choice. I have raised two babies before to 0- 6 months so I know I could be a resposible parent. My ex is 18 and he loves me so much and has treated me so good. I just cannot deal with my parents anymore. If I was to become pregnant sense he is in the navy everything would be taken care of and me him and my child would have a good life. Is this a bad idea? I could be pregnant now im not sure. I had my last period the beginning of august like the 15 th and still have not had my period. I have felt nausea alot to but I took a test a couple of days ago and it was negative. Please tell me what I shoud do Question

Replies(16)

youngmama

replied on September 14th, 2003

Experienced User

Well, this would be my suggestion, since you do seem very bright, compasionate and like a very smart girl don't try to get pregnant. You are only 15 and raising a baby is going to be hard, no matter how much experience you have, not to mention a child puts a strain on a relationship. Now with tech schools you can graduate up to two years early right? Well do just that, graduate early, and start working on your dreams, if it is to be married to this guy, then marry him when your a little older. Many couples have one or both of them in the service and do just fine! Now I am not trying to preach or say that your idea is wrong or that you are in no way capable of this, because I believe you are, but I am 17 and living with the father of my daughter who is to be born on october 15th. While our relationship is still really well, we don't have a crying baby, dirty diaper, etc yet. I am to graduate in may and currently on bed rest. My bf is 20 and works full time and while we are excited, I am scared at the same time. Just wait it out a little longer, it seems as though he loves you too and if that is the case he will understand that you need to become a legal adult before you can commit to a permenant decision.

Good luck and best wishes
-jessika-

Lindsay6119

replied on September 14th, 2003

New User

Your Right

Yes I do understand this, but if you were put through what I have been put through maybe you would see this like I do. Yes I know im only 16 and he is only 18 but we did have a 2 year relationship and it was great . He even wanted me to have a baby with him before he signed up to be in the navy. I know he would be a good father. I would rather have a bad relationship and a crying baby anyday over my life now.I know we may not work out good chances we will though,but even if we dont I would proably be 17 by then with a job and I know he would still pay child support so I would still have life easier and better than I do now. My mom had her first kid when she was 14 . She made it through life good until now. Im the only sister left at home. All my mom does is threaten me and yell at me. I asked her what she would do if I did become pregnant ( she thinks im a virgin) and she told me she would not be mad and support me in everyway. Plus I think she would treat me better if I was.

youngmama

replied on September 14th, 2003

Experienced User

Well like I said hun the final decision is yours, but that is just my opinion! But like I tell all the girls on here, I never judge and I will support you 100% in whatever you decide!

Good luck and best wishes
-jessika-

Lindsay6119

replied on September 14th, 2003

New User

Wonders

Well thank you . Trust me I think it is just a phase I will get over . But like I said in my first post I may already be pregnant I had my last period the beginning of august took the 1st pregancy test there were two lines the wrong way then it disappeared ,took another one it was negative. But I have been feeling nausea and alot more symptoms. Sad thing about it which tears me up in side is that it would not be his. I told my friends the story of the other guy who had sex with me and they say it was rape sense he held me down but sense I dont like to use that word I say he took advantage of me. I hope I will be able to find out soon!!

HongKongChick

replied on September 14th, 2003

Experienced User

Girl, I have not gone through a bad family, so I probably cant understand totally. But I think just getting pregnant isnt really the solution. It may cure u at this moment, but it might get messy later.

Oh even if ur bf goes into the navy, how are u gonna go with him?

But anyways, I hope u the best though

Lindsay6119

replied on September 15th, 2003

New User

Navy

I will be able to move in with him on base. He will be able to come home every night. He is only doing electrical in the navy. I still don't know yet. I'm going to the doctor in 2 days to get blood work because I still have not started my period. I will keep updated

nikki_caro

replied on September 15th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

Will the navy allow that? You are only 15. I think they will press the charges of stat. Rape on him because he is 18 and you are 15. I dont think its a good idea. If its bad now it will only get worse. Maybe you should seek counceling from a school advisor on your problems.

HongKongChick

replied on September 15th, 2003

Experienced User

nikki_caro wrote:

will the navy allow that? You are only 15. I think they will press the charges of stat. Rape on him because he is 18 and you are 15. I dont think its a good idea. If its bad now it will only get worse. Maybe you should seek counceling from a school advisor on your problems.

yea that's what I was thinking too, I am not sure if that something u wanna put urself or him thru. Coz if he gets arrested and charged for rape or something like that, then he wont be getting a government job at all, then ur dream will not come true..

Lindsay6119

replied on September 15th, 2003

New User

Jumping to Conclusions Lol

Nope you see he is not going into the navy until sep. Of 2004. I will be 17 then and him 19.. I will be 16 in a couple of weeks and the only way it's rape is if my parents would not allow it. They know his age and have no problem with it. I am not in school right now due to alot of things. I will be starting tech school at the end of oct.

Lindsay

youngmama

replied on September 15th, 2003

Experienced User

Then maybe you should think this through a little more and see how the relationship does until then!

Gl and bw
-jessika-

Lindsay6119