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Q: boyfriend's ex won't leave family alone

asked by: PrettyPT on February 27th, 2008

Experienced User

im really pissed off with my boyfriend's ex girlfriend.

they broke up months before we started dating, and i've know this guy since college even before her, but we we're just friends back then.

they we're bf/gf for a year, and after they broke up, the girl didn't stop seeing my bf even though my bf insists that they will be just friends and that there is totally no feelings at all. then she just stop following around when my bf said to her that he is already seeing someone new, which is me.

she no longer bugs around him, but the thing is, she keeps on calling and bringing gifts to my boyfriend's family, as if buying my boyfriend back through his relatives.

my boyfriend just never minds her and keeps on telling me that she is just bitter and she is just making herself look stupid. i actually got no issues with my boyfriend because i know that he is no longer interested, but what really makes a big deal is that she is still making her "silent way" through his family and that makes it difficult for me to get into the family, because subconciously, im thinking that it might be still her that they want.

what is the best thing to do?

Replies(2)

mominashoe

replied on February 29th, 2008

Moderator

Well you can't exactly control what she does. But you and your boyfriend could visit his family and talk about this issue. If they like her, there isn't anything you can do about that, but they might not be aware of what is going on. It never hurts to ask what's going on about it, and maybe you can state your feelings about how this is affecting you. If your boyfriend doesn't want her around and nothing can come of it, his family should understand that it makes it a very difficult situation for her to still be around, even if he doesn't have any feeling for her.

Willa Weintraub

replied on March 3rd, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

You know i've been on both sides of the fence. There was an ex gf who went to my bf's house and it didn't bother me much because I knew he was with me. then I became the ex gf at my ex bf's house. However I was *not* there to get him back I was just really super close with his family. I'm not sure exactly what to tell you but if she only goes there to get to him through his family, after a while she will see that it is *not* working and she will give up. Unless she really is cool with his family and she just really likes to visit. I like the idea that someone else said maybe you guys could sit with his parents and talk about it, but honestly I don't think it's any of your business since she is not directly talking to your bf. I'm sorry for being so confusing, lol. I hope you get everything straitened out.

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