anal sex, vaginal pain after Posted: 02-27-08 21:44pm
my boyfriend asks me to do something knew
since we are on out of town vacation, and
he wants anal sex, so we did, it was
successful, but after we did that, i
started to have an ouchy feeling as if he
is bumping into something that is really
painful and swollen inside my vagina
everytime we are doing vaginal sex.
i am worried about that painful
intercourse (the usual vaginal sex) after
we did that anal sex, which was not
painful when we did it.
the vaginal pain is unbearable that im
stopping him in the middle of doing it, we
are on vacation, and i dont want to spoil
it, but it is really painful, so i would
just ask him to just do me anally, which i
don't think is okay and normal, (or am i
wrong? is it just okay to do that) since i
really can't to do vaginal sex and i can't
see my gynecologist since we are out of
town.
please help!
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antigone
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Posted: 02-28-08 23:02pm
Anal sex is personal preference. As for
the vaginal pain, you do need to seek out
medical attention for this. Is he being
too aggressive during intercourse and
hitting your cervix? This can be painful.
Do go to your doctor when you get home.
Best of luck.
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PrettyPT
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Posted: 02-29-08 21:25pm
thanks a lot!
yes, sometimes he is a bit aggressive, i
told him he might be hitting my cervix,
but he insists, it is impossible, but it
is, right?
and i a worried that during sex, lately, i
often make him stop, i know he understands
that im feeling something painful, but im
also thinking that it is annoying on his
part. any suggestions?
thanks a lot!
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run4life10
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Posted: 02-29-08 22:55pm
yes, it is definitely possible and quite
common. he doesn't have a cervix so he
probably wouldn't know. but yes, it is
very possible to hit it during sex and
also very painful.
he gets annoyed at you wanting to stop
because he's hurting you? that sounds a
little insensitive to me. i understand
that he wants to have sex, but wouldn't he
rather you actually enjoyed it too rather
than just endure the pain for his sake?
besides, there are other things besides
sex that you could do and both enjoy. has
he tried doing things to make it more
comfortable for you or does he just pound
away?
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PrettyPT
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Posted: 02-29-08 23:04pm
well, we did anal sex for the meantime
since i really cant to vaginal.
he stops everytime i said it really hurts,
he said its okay and he is sensitive to
what im feeling, it is just that its me
who thinks that even if he says it is
okay, i am just worried that it might be
annoying on his part. or i just worry too
much???
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run4life10
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Posted: 03-01-08 10:48am
i understand, i felt the same way when i
was in that situation. and that was for a
good 2 months that we couldn't have sex.
but he always tells me that he doesn't
want to hurt me and that he's glad i
stopped him if it was hurting. and i just
remind myself that he would be even more
bothered if i just dealt with it so that
he could finish and then he found out
later that i was in pain. because i know
he cares about me more than sex.
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PrettyPT
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Posted: 03-02-08 07:01am
he told me that we will not do it until
the pain is totally gone...
he even search medications over the
internet, and search about my
condition...
felt better....
thanks a lot!
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ChrisC
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Posted: 06-23-08 12:54pm
Girl, it sounds more than either a
bacterial or yeast infection (probably the
former). Weird discharge is not a given
to have either infection. Go to the
doctor or your gyno and have them do a
culture. I'm willing to bet that bacteria
from your anus made its way into your
vagina during your experiment (you aren't
unclean, it's just that everything is so
close together down there). If you did
acquire BV, then take care of it sooner
than later as BV can cause Pelvic
Inflammatory Disease and sex will continue
to be painful.
