Can't stay hard through foreplay Posted: 02-27-08 11:18am
Hello. I'm new here. I'm a college student
in a very commited relationship. When we
started having sex in the fall, everything
was great. My girlfriend used to joke that
I was "always hard". Then, around
Christmas break, we didnt see each other
for about a month, and when we got back,
she was sick so we couldn't partake.
Since we got back to school, our sex life
has cut in more than half. On Valentine's
Day, I was hard all through dinner and
when we got back to her room. We hung out
for a little, then we wanted to have sex.
She was extremely horny. However, I got
soft during foreplay. Then, I thought too
much and was flacid the rest of the night.
I had a dissappointed girl in bed with me.
The next day, we had sex without a
problem, but the day after, I had the same
problem. Then, my girlfriend got sick
again last week, so there was no sex until
yesterday. I was really looking forward
to it. And just like the last time, I was
hard as a rock, then became flacid during
foreplay. I thought about it way too
much.
Bottom line is...I need to stay hard from
beginning to end. My grilfriend is
getting very frustrated and thinks I'm not
attracted to her. I keep telling her it's
me being a headcase about it, but she's
really been wierd lately. She feels like
I think she's ugly and thinks that I'm
bored of her. What can I do? I love this
girl and we have both openly talked of
marriage. Thanks in advance for your
help.
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Reptar
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posted: 02-28-08 01:43am
Sometimes stress or having other things on
your mind can do this. Or you might be
worried if she is still sick, and now you
might be worrying about staying hard to
begin with! Sometimes a break in the
foreplay can cause you to lose your
erection and that's completely fine. If
you're thinking too hard about it, you can
horny as all, and still not get hard (and
it happens to women too).
I'd say keep at it, and explain to your
girlfriend exactly what you told us. Don't
worry about staying hard, just concentrate
on having a good time with the woman you
love. Oh, and welcome to the forums. If
you ever need anything, feel free to PM me
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uofmkid
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Feb 2008 Posts: 2
Posted: 02-28-08 22:29pm
Since I posted this yesterday, we had a
good talk today. We both feel like things
have changed in our relationship and this
isn't the only reason she's been sort of
wierd lately. I'm going to try to tie
together some of the loose ends I haven't
beena s good with and then tackle this
issue. I hope that by being less nervous,
this will just go away. But do you guys
think that this could me more of an ED
problem? Did I somehow just acquire it in
the last three months?
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MiseEire
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2008 Posts: 170
Posted: 02-28-08 22:51pm
I doubt anyone stays perfectly rock hard
throughout an extended foreplay session. A
hard erection is designed only for as long
as penetration is needed ultimately.
Whilst just fooling around before having
sex I tend to flit in and out of full
erection because you're not relying solely
on your penis to deliver pleasure to your
partner (it's more fingers and tongue).
