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Obsessed with a person? Posted: 02-23-08 14:37pm
Sorry if this is in the wrong place,
wasn't sure where to put it. I don't even
know what I'm expecting from this, but
here goes.
This has been plaguing on my mind for the
last year and a bit, and I can't
understand why. There's this guy I met in
September 2006, he was 28 and worked in a
computer shop near my house. Anyway he
came over a couple times for my PC and
stuff and I got his msn and we spoke loads
and kinda flirted over the internet and
when he came to my house things would
start to happen. It started off gradually,
just a kiss, bit of foreplay etc and
eventually led to sex in the back of his
shop, and on occasion after that we'd have
sex at my house or his. It didn't happen
loads, maybe 10 times in total, I dunno,
the lst time being last April.
So my problem is this: for a while, I
haven't been able to get him out of my
head! To be honest I hardly know him, I
jjust sort of felt a connection even when
I first met him. It's hard to explain. I
just always think of the great times we
had, and he has a girlfriend and has been
with her for a long time and it makes me
sad to think of them together. They're
living together now, and he;s moved away
and I haven't seen him since last June and
I know I shold let go and I really want to
i just dunno how. I went with another guy
a few weeks ago and I forgot about him
slightly then, but now it's back and I
find that when I'm with another guy it's
not so bad. I just don't understand why
I'm so obsessed with him!! It annoys me so
much. There's so many reasons why it can
never be. The age gap, the girlfriend, the
fact that he lives about 100 miles away
now, and I know we can't ever have a
relationship or anything, I just can't get
him out of my head. What can I do???? Do
you think I should tell him all this?
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Galaxy
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Posted: 03-22-08 06:56am
No, don't tell him. Some things are
better left to die a natural death in the
back of your mind. It *will* go,
eventually but not before you go through a
phase of perhaps feeling angry with him
for being so casual with your feelings,
moving away, being with his girlfriend
when he could be with you etc.
Perhaps your life is a little devoid of
romance and excitement at the moment and
that is why you are dwelling on him. Go
out and join a gym or whatever takes your
fancy, but get your life back.
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Hart74
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Posted: 03-22-08 07:05am
I won't do that if I am you what good does
it makes? But if you think that it is
'burdening you' and you need to let it out
and willing to bare all that comes with it
like his girlfriend were to find out about
it and they break-up then it's entirely up
to you besides did he find you? It only
shows that he didn't think of you, hope I
don't sound so harsh on you and believe me
I don't have any intention to it's just my
humble opinion but the decision is in your
hand, good luck and take care - Hart74
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