Jennifer,

i am sorry that no-one has replied to you as you are so good here & so helpful on so many forums. I understand where you are coming from - my husband smokes too despite the fact that his father died of lung cancer & men in his family rarely live beyond 50. We've been married 20 years on sept 1st & together 21 have 2 kids & i've tried everything from yelling, pleading, getting the kids to use emotional blackmail (doesn't daddy want to live to see me grow up/get married etc etc) to my personal favourite "gee he's cute, great bum," what? Says husband "well if you're intent on committing suicide then I have a right to look for a replacement & if I find one before you cark it, tough, your problem" still nothing has worked - I have gotten him to try patches, hypnotherapy & just cold turkey but he still smokes, just not in front of me or the kids!! I was talking to someone the other day who told me they kknew a woman who every time hre husband bought smokes she put the same amount of money down the sinkl!!!! I couldn't afford that & i'm not sure I could do it anyway. But apparently it worked. So try whatever you can & maybe something will push the right buttons with him & he'll stop.

Good luck

No yelling, pleading or bargaining is going to get him to quit. That can make it even worse.

Someone with an addiction will only quit when they're ready. Until he's ready to quit, there's nothing you can do except just be there for him.

What about the lump that pops out of his rib cage??? I had the same thing happen to me this morning and this is only the second time it has happened. I can literally push it back in and then the pain stops. The funny thing is that it seems to be happening in the same place on both sides but the right side is where it is worse and pops out. If anyone knows what this is can they please comment? I am calling the physician this afternoon because I believe that the sooner these things are treated the better off you are. I only smoke one pack of cigarettes a week and I quit yesterday I just hope it�s not too late.