I think it certainly can work.
Some things to consider might be that you are young and there may be a day that you want to go out and do things with your friends, and this guy may be already past that. He may not be into hanging with your friends who are also a lot younger than him.
Is he going to be good to your daughter?
Does he have kids? How are they going to feel about their father being with a woman a lot younger than him? How are you going to react to them? His ex?

I wish you all the best with this new guy.

Thanks, it may be different if you guys knew his actual age...

I've thought about them questions, I know he'd be good to my girl, and he has a girl whose 4, and I'd certainly treat her as my own. I have no idea how she'd be, she's young, and I assume as most little girls are very attached to her mum, as for his ex, no idea! They still live under the same roof!

I'm nearly 17, in your opinion, how old is too old?

More to the point - you say your friend and his ex still live under the same roof. Are you sure he is really available? Your parents splitting up is hurting you enough at the moment - don't put yourself in the way of more.

Yea, they're definately not together, I trust him anyway. He really is a good guy, I just know something is going to happen between us, but I fear the outcome. I mean, ok, here we go...

he's 37...

And I like him so much! It's just happened, I don't know how, or why, but it feels so right, in everyway.

I'm seeing him tomorrow night, and I am in a mess wondering whether we should just do what comes natural or hold back, I'm falling big time.

37 is not old but I would definitely wait a bit before you become sexually involved. It is not only your future you have to consider but that of your baby.

If possible, try to find out more about why his marriage has failed and why he still lives in the marital home. As an outside, not swept off my feet like you, I think there needs to be a little more clarity about his current situation.

You are almost 17, you already have a little baby and now this 37 year old guy is interested in you! Of course, he is interested in you. You are a young and undoubtedly beautiful young woman. Why is it that if young girls have babies young, then, it is o.k. to pursue them and no statutory rape involved here?

Decide what you want for you. Do you honestly want to tie yourself down at 17 to anybody? Give yourself time. Maybe things in your family weren't always 100%, but give yourself permission and time to grow up. You are just a very young girl. Where you are now and where you will be 10 years from now will be a whole new ball park. Let alone every milestone after that. LOL.

Good luck and take care.

Bobbie

I would absolutely want to know why they live together but are not together. Is he ever going to leave? I wouldn't bank on anything until he does.

that's the same age (to a tee) my friend's dad and step mom were when they started dating. They now have 4 kids and have been together for 6 years. So I think it can really work. The only weird thing about this situation is she is a year older than his oldest son.

She's still young (his daughter), maybe if you stay together she'll think of you as a second mom. I really don't have to deal with another woman, but 9yrs old is a little hard to have them take a liking to you.

If you want to get tied down, go for it. I've always wanted to be married, that's why I was engaged at 16 (prick left though). After finding my 32yr old (I'm 1 I fell head over heels and am glad he's the family type.

Good Luck! I hope everything works out.

Hey,

Anyone who reads this thread MUST picture the two profile pics of the babies from the first two posts as though they're talking back and forth to each other.

It's really humorous.

Seriously though, picture it that way and you'll laugh. After that, dating an older guy or what ever else stresses you will be put in perspective. If you're happy with it, be happy. If you're only a couple years older then his kids, great, you'll make some friends. Chances are the guy is with the woman he lives with but obviously somethings missing there that is making him go else where for love (Don't count on him leaving her completely anytime soon).

I'd say stick with him for now. Your parents are going through a split up so you are probably feeling some kind of void that needs filling too. There is definitely no one better to fill the void that divorcing parents leave in their children, then an older man.

If your happy with him, don't worry about it. Just be safe, don't get pregnant, and live up this fantasy world for a while.

Hope every thing works out,

Julia

Ello Lauren. I have a few questions. How older is this guy? If he's like, 30 something, I'm not really sure if it'll work out perfect. There might be a lack of communication, for example, you might like to climb mountains, go on roller coasters, workout on a daily basis, he might not be able to do these things with you because he might feel tired or lazy.

You should also ask this man whether or not he minds about the baby (u probably alreadi asked). He might not be able to support the financial costs for the baby or is not willing to.

Good luck with you and your man and your baby!

Thanks for all your responses, keep 'em comin!

He's actually 20 years older than me, but we just click. there's no awkwardness, he can be silly and so can i be, and we can be mature too, its just, everything flows...know what i mean...

I am going to quiz his relationship breakdown and why they still live together tonight, and i've decided to go with the flow and do what comes natural, if we kiss, we kiss right?

Kissing is fine but believe me, it would be much better to wait a bit for anything more till you know the lay of the land. If he is genuine, he won't mind waiting, especially since you are so young. Run that past him and see his reaction. It might tell you a lot!

Okkkk, so we went out last night, I was going out with a mate, so was he to a gig, we met, we went for a few beers, then went clubbing lol?, then we sat and talked for 2 hours! I asked him about his "ex", he said they weren't involved in "that way", we kissed, and we got on great. Then this evening he hasn't text me back, so I'm worried. He text me saying he was falling for me and wanted to be with me but didn't know how cos of our current circumstances. Ugh! I'm a mess! EVERYTHING is just wrong. I love him, I can't get him outa my head, things at home just got worse this morning, and I've decided to get my own place, maybe that'll help us? I had my lip pierced yesteday, youch! So fed up, not sure where I stand here...

I know it's hard not to think about this really great guy, but to be 100% completely honest...he does not sound like he's available. You deserve to be with someone that is going to be there for you all the time, not just when it's convienent to him.

I hope it gets better for you

What a bloody nightmare. It would seem...I have fallen...big time...and landed on my arse. fab!

Tell us more!

Arse....I always love to see that.

You know...this isn't your fault. This guy has obviously strung you along. I'm so sorry

In my personal opinion.. under the age of 18 there should not be more then mayyyyybbe max of 5 years... as an adult pushing adult at 18 id like to say 21 then it doesnt matter in my opinion age is just anumber unless pulling a gold digger thing