I was depressed because i've never had a
girlfriend. I still haven't. Last night
someone told me that there wasn't a single
thing that was atractive about me. And
that none of his friends would ever
associate with me or give me a chance.
He's right. I'm alone and I always will
be. This forum is stupid because nobody
can help me or people like me. Girls are
not capable of loving us. Nobody is.
There is a word for people like me and it
is ugly. Inside and outside. It's never
going to get better.
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marvel
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Joined: 09 Sep 2007 Posts: 1096 Location: Toronto, Ontario (but only a private message away)
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Posted: 02-21-08 22:00pm
Hey.
How old are you?
I'm not going to give you the typical
"you're young, it's all going to be ok"
spiel. I used to think like you, and it
did a lot of damage. I know that there's
not much I can do for you directly, but I
can listen.
It's difficult for us to rely on ourselves
for our value. The truth is, though, that
you can't rely on everyone else to gain a
sense of self worth. So what? You haven't
had a girlfriend yet. So what? One of your
(I'm assuming) guy 'friends' said you
weren't attractive, and that his friends
wouldn't associate with you. Is that the
type of person you want to rely on for a
sense of worthiness? I hope not. The most
important thing is to not let this wreck
any aspirations you have for the future.
Forfeit those, and it's hard to get back
on track.
If you ever want to talk, don't be afraid
to private message me!
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MMAFighter
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2007 Posts: 363 Location: WA, USA
Posted: 02-21-08 22:32pm
I've never had a girlfriend either, but I
think talking to girls more improves my
social skills and at least it makes me
feel like I'm going somewhere, maybe try
talking to girls more. Oh, and I'm 16 by
the way.
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happyfoosball
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Feb 2007 Posts: 14
Posted: 02-24-08 15:08pm
MMAFighter
wrote:
I've never had a girlfriend
either, but I think talking to girls more
improves my social skills and at least it
makes me feel like I'm going somewhere,
maybe try talking to girls more. Oh, and
I'm 16 by the
way.
Come talk to me when your pushing 30.
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MMAFighter
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2007 Posts: 363 Location: WA, USA
Posted: 02-24-08 15:11pm
Um, maybe you could try and seek a
relationship through people you know and
are acquainted with through your
occupation? That might work
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ashoverman
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2008 Posts: 54 Location: ,
Girlfriend Posted: 02-24-08 15:59pm
I am 35. I NEVER had a girlfriend until a
few months ago. I met this girl about 2
and a half years ago and we had sex and
she told me that she loved me and that
just freaked me out!! No girl had EVER
said that to me and meant it the way that
she did!! She went off and had a baby and
even got married. We started talking about
a month and a half BEFORE she got married
and she told me that she STILL loved me
and she ALWAYS had. I took advantage of
this and now we are together. She is going
through a messy divorce and custody battle
and I am suffering from Manic depression,
Schitzophrenia, psychosis and to top it
off I have a Massive Ruptured Disk and
"many degenerating ones" in my back. ALL
of this has added a strain on our
relationship, but I digress.
My point is that you just NEVER GIVE UP. I
never gave up, even when I LEFT after she
said I LOVE YOU!! It was MY FAULT! I am
NOT blaming you, but I am saying that you
should perservere and get through this
depression, take it hour by hour. Be
yourself!! The one that you are meant to
be with will find you, just keep living
your life. It will happen my friend, I
used to think just like you, now I am in
love with the most beautiful woman in the
world, I KNOW that is cliche, but I REALLY
FEEL THAT WAY!! Hang in there my man!!
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Seraph
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Pushing 30... Posted: 02-25-08 09:31am
Somehow, I have to agree with
MMAFighter...I am pushing 30...I don't
have a girlfriend...never had a
girlfriend...and am dying to find one.
Talking to girls does help at times. It
gives me a confidence boost to know that
someone takes enough interest, even it's
not romantically, in me to actually talk
to me.
Hang in there... I know it's difficult
and I struggle with it my self. At some
point, things would HAVE to get better.
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georgina23
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Joined: 19 Feb 2008 Posts: 24
You know what i love about this post? Posted: 02-26-08 12:19pm
It's real life. This is not the movies.
Startling numbers of people are not in a
relationship and never have been. There's
NOTHING wrong with you.
But that's no consolation when couples
have an annoying habit of flaunting
themselves in front of you - everyone else
seems more vibrant than you because you
feel down/have nothing to offer (who are
these people that tell you this? get away
from them!).
I think that when your special girl finds
you (and she will), you will treat her
wonderfully. And that will make you worth
more than all your so called friends put
together. So there. :0)
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jo_1982
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jun 2007 Posts: 33 Location: surrey
Posted: 02-26-08 18:39pm
Hiya i'm a girl and i dont think anyone is
ugly plus its not all about
what you look like its whats on the inside
that counts if you want
you can chat to me here or via email my
addy is (edited to remove personal
information)
feel free to chat with me anytime there is
someone out there
for everyone its just finding that right
person
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Seraph
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Joined: 22 Jan 2008 Posts: 276 Location: , South Africa
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Re: You know what i love about this post? Posted: 02-27-08 06:38am
georgina23
wrote:
I think that when your
special girl finds you (and she will), you
will treat her wonderfully. And that will
make you worth more than all your so
called friends put together. So there.
:0)
That's a good way of saying it..."when
your special girl finds you"...hehe...
She will have to find me as I am just too
shy/low self esteemish to walk up to a
girl and say "I like you...wanna like me?"
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georgina23
Supporter
Joined: 19 Feb 2008 Posts: 24
And she will Posted: 02-27-08 10:18am
:0)
x
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fantasticj2
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Feb 2008 Posts: 23 Location: Miami, U.S.A
sorry to hear that.. Posted: 03-20-08 15:26pm
Listen bro... Don't worry to much about
getting a girlfriend. Look, everybody has
that special person out there. Don't look
for it, ya will find each other and ya
will know just by a look of eye that ya
like each other. Im going to be honest,
people sometimes are ignorant. The person
or people that have said that your ugly,
dont listen to them, they will only like
you if your cute. Everybody is ugly to
others. But i ignore that. The girls that
are really worth it are the ones that look
inside, and they will see something cute
and nice outside too. Don't worry about
getting a girl, life is weird, if your
looking for something, it will never
arrive. I know that you think your old and
you dont have a girl, listen you're not
old. A good movie about that is "40 year
old virgen".watch it is funny and rea..
and you will see that the only thing that
made him think that he need a girl were
his ignorant friends. Theirs alot of them
these days. Just don't worry, look cool
everyday, you can even try to talk to some
of the girls that looks at you more than 3
times. Try, and if they say no, just
listen to the way they say no. You
probably will know that they mean it, cuz
some girls just say no but is really a
yes. I know, their mean nowadays. Don't
worry dude. That girl, Is waiting for you,
just be ready.
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fantasticj2
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Feb 2008 Posts: 23 Location: Miami, U.S.A
oh another thing.. Posted: 03-20-08 15:30pm
sometimes the cutest guy are sometimes
jerks and stupid and dont even love that
girl, they probably hit girls too and play
them. This is something that alot of girls
think. and is true.. is a fact that will
always stay there.. Remember everybody is
cute, just that some people want to hurt
feelings because their consided, and think
they all that. The cutest thing about a
girl and a guy, is love bro. Keep this
inside and you will have what you need in
life.
