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happyfoosball

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never had a girlfriend
Posted: 02-21-08 13:02pm

I was depressed because i've never had a girlfriend. I still haven't. Last night someone told me that there wasn't a single thing that was atractive about me. And that none of his friends would ever associate with me or give me a chance. He's right. I'm alone and I always will be. This forum is stupid because nobody can help me or people like me. Girls are not capable of loving us. Nobody is. There is a word for people like me and it is ugly. Inside and outside. It's never going to get better.
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Posted: 02-21-08 22:00pm

Hey.
How old are you?

I'm not going to give you the typical "you're young, it's all going to be ok" spiel. I used to think like you, and it did a lot of damage. I know that there's not much I can do for you directly, but I can listen.

It's difficult for us to rely on ourselves for our value. The truth is, though, that you can't rely on everyone else to gain a sense of self worth. So what? You haven't had a girlfriend yet. So what? One of your (I'm assuming) guy 'friends' said you weren't attractive, and that his friends wouldn't associate with you. Is that the type of person you want to rely on for a sense of worthiness? I hope not. The most important thing is to not let this wreck any aspirations you have for the future. Forfeit those, and it's hard to get back on track.

If you ever want to talk, don't be afraid to private message me!
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MMAFighter

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Posted: 02-21-08 22:32pm

I've never had a girlfriend either, but I think talking to girls more improves my social skills and at least it makes me feel like I'm going somewhere, maybe try talking to girls more. Oh, and I'm 16 by the way.
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happyfoosball

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Posted: 02-24-08 15:08pm

MMAFighter wrote:
I've never had a girlfriend either, but I think talking to girls more improves my social skills and at least it makes me feel like I'm going somewhere, maybe try talking to girls more. Oh, and I'm 16 by the way.


Come talk to me when your pushing 30.
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MMAFighter

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Posted: 02-24-08 15:11pm

Um, maybe you could try and seek a relationship through people you know and are acquainted with through your occupation? That might work
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ashoverman

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Posted: 02-24-08 15:59pm

I am 35. I NEVER had a girlfriend until a few months ago. I met this girl about 2 and a half years ago and we had sex and she told me that she loved me and that just freaked me out!! No girl had EVER said that to me and meant it the way that she did!! She went off and had a baby and even got married. We started talking about a month and a half BEFORE she got married and she told me that she STILL loved me and she ALWAYS had. I took advantage of this and now we are together. She is going through a messy divorce and custody battle and I am suffering from Manic depression, Schitzophrenia, psychosis and to top it off I have a Massive Ruptured Disk and "many degenerating ones" in my back. ALL of this has added a strain on our relationship, but I digress.
My point is that you just NEVER GIVE UP. I never gave up, even when I LEFT after she said I LOVE YOU!! It was MY FAULT! I am NOT blaming you, but I am saying that you should perservere and get through this depression, take it hour by hour. Be yourself!! The one that you are meant to be with will find you, just keep living your life. It will happen my friend, I used to think just like you, now I am in love with the most beautiful woman in the world, I KNOW that is cliche, but I REALLY FEEL THAT WAY!! Hang in there my man!!
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Seraph

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Posted: 02-25-08 09:31am

Somehow, I have to agree with MMAFighter...I am pushing 30...I don't have a girlfriend...never had a girlfriend...and am dying to find one. Talking to girls does help at times. It gives me a confidence boost to know that someone takes enough interest, even it's not romantically, in me to actually talk to me.

Hang in there... I know it's difficult and I struggle with it my self. At some point, things would HAVE to get better.
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georgina23

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Posted: 02-26-08 12:19pm

It's real life. This is not the movies. Startling numbers of people are not in a relationship and never have been. There's NOTHING wrong with you.

But that's no consolation when couples have an annoying habit of flaunting themselves in front of you - everyone else seems more vibrant than you because you feel down/have nothing to offer (who are these people that tell you this? get away from them!).

I think that when your special girl finds you (and she will), you will treat her wonderfully. And that will make you worth more than all your so called friends put together. So there. :0)
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jo_1982

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Posted: 02-26-08 18:39pm

Hiya i'm a girl and i dont think anyone is ugly plus its not all about
what you look like its whats on the inside that counts if you want
you can chat to me here or via email my addy is (edited to remove personal information)
feel free to chat with me anytime there is someone out there
for everyone its just finding that right person
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Seraph

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Re: You know what i love about this post?
Posted: 02-27-08 06:38am

georgina23 wrote:
I think that when your special girl finds you (and she will), you will treat her wonderfully. And that will make you worth more than all your so called friends put together. So there. :0)


That's a good way of saying it..."when your special girl finds you"...hehe...

She will have to find me as I am just too shy/low self esteemish to walk up to a girl and say "I like you...wanna like me?" Wink
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georgina23

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And she will
Posted: 02-27-08 10:18am

:0)

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fantasticj2

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sorry to hear that..
Posted: 03-20-08 15:26pm

Listen bro... Don't worry to much about getting a girlfriend. Look, everybody has that special person out there. Don't look for it, ya will find each other and ya will know just by a look of eye that ya like each other. Im going to be honest, people sometimes are ignorant. The person or people that have said that your ugly, dont listen to them, they will only like you if your cute. Everybody is ugly to others. But i ignore that. The girls that are really worth it are the ones that look inside, and they will see something cute and nice outside too. Don't worry about getting a girl, life is weird, if your looking for something, it will never arrive. I know that you think your old and you dont have a girl, listen you're not old. A good movie about that is "40 year old virgen".watch it is funny and rea.. and you will see that the only thing that made him think that he need a girl were his ignorant friends. Theirs alot of them these days. Just don't worry, look cool everyday, you can even try to talk to some of the girls that looks at you more than 3 times. Try, and if they say no, just listen to the way they say no. You probably will know that they mean it, cuz some girls just say no but is really a yes. I know, their mean nowadays. Don't worry dude. That girl, Is waiting for you, just be ready.
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fantasticj2

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oh another thing..
Posted: 03-20-08 15:30pm

sometimes the cutest guy are sometimes jerks and stupid and dont even love that girl, they probably hit girls too and play them. This is something that alot of girls think. and is true.. is a fact that will always stay there.. Remember everybody is cute, just that some people want to hurt feelings because their consided, and think they all that. The cutest thing about a girl and a guy, is love bro. Keep this inside and you will have what you need in life.
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