Only just started to have sex but i find it very hard to totally relax, and i often find that i can not get moist enough to make sex comfortable and i am worried that i am in fact too tight.Can anybody tell me how to loosen up very embarrased would like as much help as possible thankyou x x
Foreplay works for me. My bf and I start by kissing, and our hands start to roam each other. Eventually we take each other's clothes off, and continue to roam each other's body. I give him a handjob, and he fingers me and rubs my clit. This goes on for a while, then we eventually have sex. Just try to relax, and enjoy it.
I'm going through the same thing. we've had sex before, but it's just now getting to that point where it doesn't hurt. but I still get very tense and I can't seem to relax every time we try to have sex. it's very frustrating
You have to be perfectly comfortable with your partner. I know this might sound ridiculous, but your body will just open up and get wet once it makes the subconscious decision that you're comfortable. This is a problem with married couples, too. I know this is true because out of all my partners, only one was able to make me get wet at all, and we didn't even need foreplay. It was just being comfortable in his presence and TRUSTING him fully. I don't think anyone on this site can "cure" the tenseness, while all the tips are useful, they just don't cure the problem. You might have to talk to a professional or explore why your body might not be comfortable (even though you think that you are). Good luck!