Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
I Cant Stop Crying.....im Sorry So Long. Posted: 05-05-04 11:51am
I seriously am freaking out. I am soo
upset I cant stand it I cant take it!!!
Ryan (the dad) is such a jerk.. I hate
him so much.. I despise him.. I cant
believe I was starting to fall for the
fact that he might have straightened up
and be a good person. For the past 2
months he has been ok and started callin
to 'check up' to see how the baby is etc..
And he sounded like he was going to be
there and stuff and that maybe he wasnt
such a problem like he had beent the rest
the pregnancy...But it was all an act..
Because he wanted to suck up so I wouldnt
get him for the child support hes worth ,
and the trrue self came out again tonite.
I called him sunday after the baby shower
and left a message, he never called back..
So I called him today.. Well soon as
he got on the phone he was like " what do
u want?" and im liek "what?!?" hes like
"im busy i'll talk to u later im watching
a movie''.. And I never call him! So I
yelled at him and hes like "fine ok , need
something??" anyhow.. Later he ended up
sayin he thought I was tryin to talk to
him cuz I 'want him back' so I was yellin
and im like "why would I want u?!?! Ur a
dead beat.. U have nothing to offer, I
think ur an awful person, I regret u so
much!!!!"...And he was bein a jerk the
whole time I talked to him. . Treating
me like I was a peice of sh*t.... So yea
now im crying.. I am so mad.. Im so
mad I was so gullable.. So mad I ever
liked him.And I mean any ounce of feeling
I had for him, even just as a person,
poof, gone. He has let me down so much.
And I know hes going to let down our son
too..And I feel awful for my son and I
wish he didnt have a father like ryan. I
promised myself, no matter what. I will
not call ryan again. He can find out his
baby is here when he calls to find out.
I have to be strong this time. I wont
fall for anymore lies that hes changed.
All he is is a little pot head who drinks
all the time, doesnt care that he has a
baby coming, and hes sooo immature.. And
most of all is a complete d*ck to me when
ive done nothing to him!! Sorry I had to
vent.. I am so upset right now. I cant
even remember all the rude things he said
tonite. At the end hes like "ok r u done
now?".. So I just hung up and that was
that. I did tell him im not hyphenating
his last name of course. And my mom came
downstairs and outloud was sayin how he
was nothing and a deadbeat etc.. So that
pissed him off too. But o well, im glad.
I shoulda known him bein nice for that
while was an act. Ugh !! Any advice
would help....Thank you im sorry so long.
I am so sorry kari! I know it must suck!
I hope you are ok! You can do so much
better than his sorry @$$! You and your
baby deserve so much better and will be
better off sucking him for cild support!
Love,
chanda
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 05-05-04 12:41pm
Ohhh kari im so sorry u dont deserve to
be goin thru this and I cant imagine how
hard it is on u. I hope u know we;re all
here for u and if u ever evr need someone
to talk to, just come on here. You're
right he is a deadbeat and I say his last
name goes in no way of ur last name and u
hit him up for all tha damn child support
u can! I cant believe what an problem
that guy is. I hope u feel better and
dont forget, ur baby will still be happy
becuz he has a wonderful mom whos playing
the part of mommy and daddy, which is a
great accomplishment and ur child will be
so proud!
shauna
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kitty_55
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Aug 2003 Posts: 1473 Location: Canada
Posted: 05-05-04 13:34pm
Kari don't listen to him!! He sounds like
an problem you and ur son dont need that
in ur life. You have to be strong and
dont call him maybe the only time to call
him is when ur son is born. He might be
ur sons biolicialg(sp?) father but that
dont mean sh*t all!! You love ur son so
much it dont matter if he is in his life
or not. You love him for both of you. He
has no right to treat you like sh*t like
ur his babies mother!!
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
Posted: 05-05-04 19:49pm
Thank you so much girls!! It means alot
to me. Gosh, its weird, instead of
calling to talk to a friend, I get on here
to talk to u guys..I trust in u more then
my friends that I know offline.. Lol~ ..
Anyhow, I feel a little better after
sleeping it off. But im still upset. He
has no reason to treat me like this. I
dont know why he does. We broke up on
good terms. I just thought id be mature
and be friends with him, sence we are
raising a baby together. Then he says he
thinks I "want him back" so I guess I cant
try to be friends.. Plus he doesnt treat
me like a friend, he treats me like sh*t.
It just hurts because ive never done
anything. But ive learned my lesson.Hes
no good. Maybe one day he'll change, I
hope. He kept telling me "well sorry I
have other things to think about right
now".....What else is more important then
a child thats yours??.. Ugh I dont get
it! I cant even think about it or ticks
me off too bad. I guess hes havin
seizures from a head injury from hockey,
so hes been goin to hospitals and things
(which now I dont feel sorry for him at
all!) lol im evil
... But still...This should matter.
Thanks tho girls!!!
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TiNaBo0314
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Apr 2004 Posts: 273 Location: Maryland
Posted: 05-05-04 22:13pm
Its ok kari!!! I can totally relate to u
about that! My babys father is a dead
beat too! I used to cry about it but now
it's gotten to the point where I dont want
him there anyways, i'd rather do it by
myself (and collect childsupport too lol)
then have him confuse my daughter by
coming in and out of her life when he
feels like it. He never calls and when he
does he doesnt ask how the baby is, I dont
think he really cares. I mean I still cry
about it because I wish someone else
anyone but him would have ended up being
my babys father but I have to live with it
now =( if ya ever need anything just pm
me! I hope u feel better, guys are
jerks!!!
~christina
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 05-06-04 00:53am
Kari its ok! Guys are just jerks!!! All
the time! I swear your story sounds kinda
like my sisters. But she was here and her
guy was in nebraska. And he would be all
nice to her for the only reason that she
wouldnt take him for child support. And
we knew that but she was blind and thought
they would still be together. Then this
girl calls and says shes his girlfriend
and stuff so alma freaks out and daniel
(the dad) got on the phone later on, 3 way
with the girl and my sis and denied alma
and the baby!!!! We were all so mad!!!
Well then he goes to jail for some stuff
and he gets locked up near our house and
they start visiting him, I swear I think I
was the only one fuming here. So he
started sweet talking her again...And she
helped him get out of jail and she took
him back. Then about after a month he
treated her like crap all over again so he
moved out. The only real reason he was
there was so she can help him out of jail.
Guys suck real bad and they use mothers
so they can get what they want because
mothers want one thing...To be a family.
But you cant fall for it kari. Thats why
I said dont even give the baby his name
because that dead beat dont deserve the
pleasure. I kinda knew that was coming
because of how it went with my sister.
Hes gonna be a dead beat from here on out,
so ignore him, dont give him any
information at all, just get him for child
support and maybe he can see the baby.
But he needs to clean up his act. And he
cannot treat you like crap. You dont
deserve that. Just think about other
things and get your mind off him, its
about you and the baby! Ok! I know you
can be strong!
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
Posted: 05-06-04 09:11am
Thank you christina and nikki!!! It makes
me feel so much better! I know, I just
gotta be strong. I cant let him effect
me, he may be the father. .But only
because of his sperm lol and besides that,
I didnt need him then, and I dont need him
now~*his paycheck will be helpful and
thats it!
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hearenbaby8504
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 197 Location: Cinn. Ohio
Posted: 05-06-04 12:14pm
Hey kari, I ma in the same boat I was
talking with adam, he was checking in and
all, then out of know where he
disappeared! I mean he gave his cell
phone to someone and got a new one told
everybody to make sure I did not get the
number. I was like what the f#$@ is up
with that sh$t? I am so upset about it
and I think how do I tell hailey that her
daddy is not around? Why is her daddy
not around? Eeeeerrrrrrr I am so mad!
So as for now to take my mind off of it, I
am focusing on baby stuff, doctor appt.,
family stuff, trying to look ahead and not
backwards. Good luck to you, I believe we
can make it through this. Just think how
sweet your little boy is going to be to
the ladies because how his friend father
was to you. Your little boy will grow up
to be a lady killer and a great family
man!
Lots of love,
heather
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 05-07-04 00:46am
Kari he doesnt even deserve the title
father! Just call him the sperm donor!
Lol thats what my sis does! Hes either
known as that or the dead beat!!!
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gypy04
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Mar 2004 Posts: 398 Location: florida
Posted: 05-07-04 01:36am
Awww kari!! I'm so sorry he's a @$$!!!
Men can be such .P.I.G.S!!! Ughh!! You
have the right idea... Let him call to
find out. I don't know what else to
say!! I'm sorry!!
u dont deserve to
be goin thru this and I cant imagine how
hard it is on u. I hope u know we;re all
here for u and if u ever evr need someone
to talk to, just come on here. You're
right he is a deadbeat and I say his last
name goes in no way of ur last name and u
hit him up for all tha damn child support
u can! I cant believe what an problem
that guy is. I hope u feel better and
dont forget, ur baby will still be happy
becuz he has a wonderful mom whos playing
the part of mommy and daddy, which is a
great accomplishment and ur child will be
so proud! 
... But still...This should matter.
Thanks tho girls!!!
