I have been having sex with my boyfriend
for about 5 months now...But we only see
each other on the weekends. I have been
on the pill for about 4 months also. It
seems that everytime we do it, it hurts
the first few times and it never really
feels good. A few times in the past it
was better, but recently it's just a pain,
and since i'm not enjoying it, he doesn't
either. It is true that we don't get to
see each other all week so i'm not used to
doing it all the time, but could it be
something else? I feel bad...He tries so
hard to please me, we spend a good long
time beforehand fooling around, we've
tried toys and other stuff, different
positions, and I always want to...But it
either hurts or just feels annoying. He
isn't super big, and neither he nor I have
stds. I am not that experienced, but I
would think by now I would get the hang of
it. I am never too dry or anything
either. He thinks maybe I am not focusing
or concentrating enough, I think it could
be the pill, or maybe I am just really
really hard to satisfy. I need some help.
If anyone has some help or advice or can
relate to this situation please let me
know. Thanks!
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cherry_pie
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2004 Posts: 599
Posted: 05-05-04 07:43am
Could be an infection.. You don't need to
'get' it from someone to get an infection
either, maybe go talk to your doctor and
get checked out.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 05-05-04 08:20am
You could have a tipped uterus (or tilted
something like that) lots of women have
it and it causes pain with intercourse.
But you said you already tried different
positions, and that is what the doctor
would tell you to do.
As far as you not concentrating enough or
trying hard enough that is just silly.
You should not have to concentrate.
Like cherry said, go get tested for an
infection and ask the doctor then what it
could be.
Sorry I could not help more.
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Teenytoona
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Apr 2004 Posts: 101
Posted: 05-07-04 09:28am
As far as std's are you certain he's been
checked for std's? (quick test is to ask
him how he dealt with the cotton swab - to
test men for std's they have to stick a
swab up a penis, and men get so wonky
about it... I can't imagine how they'd
deal with the "duck lips").
And not to startle you or anything, but
there are a few conditions that could
cause pain during sex one is called
vulvodynia - vulvodynia
webpage for more info and the
condition can vary alot. Another
condition that could cause it is
endometriosis.
Now of course the pain you have doesn't
necessarily mean you've got either of the
above conditions, but maybe the
information on those pages can help rule
out or rule in what's going on with you.
If the pain persists, definately see a
doctor. There is a slight chance it may
have to do with the pill you're on, and
how it's affected your hormones, too.
Otherwisse since you said you're wet
enough and have foreplay enough, i'd guess
you'd have those bases covered, though it
couldn't hurt to buy some lube and use
ample amounts of it and see if that helps.
