We have exorcised the demon just kidding i'm proud of you gordon!!

I am also proud of you gordon.

Way to go gordon..Thats a good thing to hear

Well, I realised that there is enough ill feeling already in the world without me adding to it.

Regards,
gordon drivelbottom

You are absolutely right...

Gordon,

both you & your wife may need counselling (everyone takes the loss of a child differently - so just keep the idea in mind - just in case).

You both need some time to recover emotionally (& her physically too) also you need to try to understand that she may be very moody & difficult. It is not your fault, it's not anyone's it is grief & hormones - a horrid combination. Your wife may not be emotionally ready to have sex for a while (even after she is physically ready) as it may remind her of how she fell pregnant & that will remind her of her dead child. So be there for her but just be prepared for if she wants extra space physically &/or emotionally. If this happens & goes on for too long talk to the Dr.

It might also help if in a few weeks the two of you could have a break away from home (even a weekend) alone to heal each other & talk.

Also remember that often a miscarriage occurs because there is a problem with the baby, so god takes it back. Miscarriages can also occur if the woman is very unhappy/poorly treated or if she is unwell in some way (virus, even something undetected). If there is a 2nd or certainly a 3rd (or if there's a family history of miscarriage then straight away, both get all relevant tests doen, like sperm count, shape & position of cervix, chromosonal abnormality checks, blood group etc to rule out or fix any problems.

Generally though if a woman has one miscarriage her chances of falling pregnant & delivering a child later are just as good as they ever were. So I doubt that therre's any reason why you can't have a child. (or rather why your wife can't!!)

Gordy, im so happy to read that!! And im happy for your wife too that you will be treating her better! Good luck to the both of ya!

<3
gaby

Personally, I miss the old gordy. As I didn't buy the first one and I surely don't buy this one either.

I reserve my judgement for the proof will be in the pudding as they say

from someone who cant wait to have a jellybean all of their own

Jesse, I can understand why you have said what you did as some of my comments regarding women have been scathing and quite nasty. However what you should understand is that it is not easy to try to turn over a new leaf in a matter of a few days. In fact it has been very difficult, but I am genuinely trying I really am. I am sorry that you feel that you can not trust me, because in the past I have given you very good cause. But please lets try to get along. You can have your views on abortion and I will have mine but this should not make us enemies. I hope you can find it in your heart to accept my apology.

Regards,
gordon drivelbottom

Gordy, hows your wife doing?

<3
gaby

I wish I could say that she is doing ok, but she is very depressed at the moment. She came home from the hospital yesterday morning and has barely spoken to me or anybody else. All that I have been able to get out of her is that she wishes she was dead. As you can imagine that is very disturbing. I am trying to persuade her to see a doctor to maybe get some anti-depressants. It is really hard, but I am sure we will pull through this and be stronger in the end.

Regards,
gordon

I don't buy it.

Jesse, I have apologised and offered the hand of friendship to you on several occasions now. Don't you think that it is time we called a truce? Everyone else on this board seems to have forgiven me for my rather tactless comments about women, and I would appreciate it very much if you did too.
As you know, I am going through an extremely hard time at the moment and just coming onto this board is kind of a release for me. Everyones kind words have helped me come to terms with both my loss and my wifes emotional problems.
So please let us put whatever problems we have had in the past and try to move on. Once again, I truly do apologise.

Regards,
gordon

As I recall you use to come on this board to unload your hateful comments, not to recieve support and understanding. I'm sorry but it was just last week that you stated women should be beaten, thrown in the kitchen and refereed to as "it". If you truly have lost a child I feel for you, but you can't just turn over a new leaf after all the horrible things you've said. Actions speak louder than apologies. I'll believe it when I see it, for now, I wish you the best and hope you'll come to this forum with an open mind. No one deserves the slams that you've delivered to some of the women here.

Take care,
jesse

What jesse said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


From someone who cant wait to have a jellybean all of their own

When did I actually say that women should be beaten? That is particularly vile jesse. I will not be apologising to you anymore as you seem to have something of a grudge, and can not be spoken to like an adult.

Like I said the proof is in the pudding.

Here are just a few bullet points that make it hard for me to believe you've changed... Including the one about smacking your wife. Your actions speak louder than apologize.

•your a rarity - a woman with brains.

•i do realise that you are just a lady and have to have these thing spelled out for you.

•i will be a fantastic father and it will be an adequate mother
•am I correct in thinking that all of the mindless feminists on this board are actually repressed lesbians?

•i am married to one, and it does everything that I tell it to do. It knows its place. If it didn’t it would get a good smack.
•for the last time, women do belong in the kitchen. My wife is in the kitchen now preparing a meal for me. Later on though, I will be giving it some fresh air when I send it outside to weed the garden.


But I do sincerely hope you've changed, gordon. We'll see I guess.

Best,
jesse