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Gordon Drivelbottom
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Apr 2004
Posts: 159
Location: England
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An Apology to You All
Posted: 05-05-04 04:55am
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I have come onto this board to apologise
to everyone that I have offended over the
last few weeks with some of my posts. If
my wife's miscarriage has had one positive
effect it is that I am starting to see
women differently. This morning I went
to visit my wife who is still recovering
in hospital and she was not only a
physical wreck but also an emotional one.
This made me very sad as I had only ever
seen her as an object before, as
unsettling as that may sound. When she
comes out of hospital I intend to take
great care of her. I for once will be
the one to do the cooking and cleaning,
and anything else that she wants me to do.
I will be happy to do it.
Now onto my apology to you people, while
my anti-abortion views will remain, I now
understand that women are equel to us men
and deserve to be treat with respect. I
have also made a point of reading over
some of the more critical posts aimed
towards me and I notice how a lot of you
have blamed my mother's influence on my
behaviour. I had ignored those comments,
but can now see that I could have some
serious issues there. If I have
inflicted any of them on you or offended
you in any way whatsoever, then I
apologise profusely.
Gordon drivelbottom has spoken
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zilbucks
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Joined: 25 Apr 2004
Posts: 210
Location: NY
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Posted: 05-05-04 06:30am
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We have exorcised the demon 
just kidding i'm proud of you gordon!!
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2ferano
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Posts: 3717
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Posted: 05-05-04 08:38am
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I am also proud of you gordon.
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princess529_98
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Joined: 07 Jan 2004
Posts: 101
Location: Ohio
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Happy
Posted: 05-05-04 22:05pm
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Way to go gordon..Thats a good thing to
hear
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Gordon Drivelbottom
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Apr 2004
Posts: 159
Location: England
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Posted: 05-06-04 00:05am
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Well, I realised that there is enough ill
feeling already in the world without me
adding to it.
Regards,
gordon drivelbottom
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princess529_98
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Joined: 07 Jan 2004
Posts: 101
Location: Ohio
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Happy
Posted: 05-06-04 01:56am
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You are absolutely right... 
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purple333
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Joined: 01 Dec 2003
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Location: Sydney
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Posted: 05-06-04 02:38am
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Gordon,
both you & your wife may need
counselling (everyone takes the loss of a
child differently - so just keep the idea
in mind - just in case).
You both need some time to recover
emotionally (& her physically too)
also you need to try to understand that
she may be very moody & difficult. It
is not your fault, it's not anyone's it is
grief & hormones - a horrid
combination. Your wife may not be
emotionally ready to have sex for a while
(even after she is physically ready) as it
may remind her of how she fell pregnant
& that will remind her of her dead
child. So be there for her but just be
prepared for if she wants extra space
physically &/or emotionally. If this
happens & goes on for too long talk to
the Dr.
It might also help if in a few weeks the
two of you could have a break away from
home (even a weekend) alone to heal each
other & talk.
Also remember that often a miscarriage
occurs because there is a problem with the
baby, so god takes it back. Miscarriages
can also occur if the woman is very
unhappy/poorly treated or if she is unwell
in some way (virus, even something
undetected). If there is a 2nd or
certainly a 3rd (or if there's a family
history of miscarriage then straight away,
both get all relevant tests doen, like
sperm count, shape & position of
cervix, chromosonal abnormality checks,
blood group etc to rule out or fix any
problems.
Generally though if a woman has one
miscarriage her chances of falling
pregnant & delivering a child later
are just as good as they ever were. So I
doubt that therre's any reason why you
can't have a child. (or rather why your
wife can't!!)
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bellax0femmina
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Joined: 09 Apr 2004
Posts: 823
Location: New Jersey
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Posted: 05-06-04 04:48am
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Gordy, im so happy to read that!! And im
happy for your wife too that you will be
treating her better! Good luck to the
both of ya!
<3
gaby
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jessechaseme
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Joined: 28 Jan 2004
Posts: 232
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Posted: 05-06-04 11:59am
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Personally, I miss the old gordy. As I
didn't buy the first one and I surely
don't buy this one either.
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allusivepond
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Joined: 01 Oct 2003
Posts: 452
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Posted: 05-06-04 15:00pm
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I reserve my judgement for the proof will
be in the pudding as they say
from someone who cant wait to have a
jellybean all of their own
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Gordon Drivelbottom
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Apr 2004
Posts: 159
Location: England
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a Message to Jesse
Posted: 05-07-04 00:15am
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Jesse, I can understand why you have said
what you did as some of my comments
regarding women have been scathing and
quite nasty. However what you should
understand is that it is not easy to try
to turn over a new leaf in a matter of a
few days. In fact it has been very
difficult, but I am genuinely trying I
really am. I am sorry that you feel that
you can not trust me, because in the past
I have given you very good cause. But
please lets try to get along. You can
have your views on abortion and I will
have mine but this should not make us
enemies. I hope you can find it in your
heart to accept my apology.
Regards,
gordon drivelbottom
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bellax0femmina
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Apr 2004
Posts: 823
Location: New Jersey
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Posted: 05-07-04 02:04am
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Gordy, hows your wife doing?
<3
gaby
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Gordon Drivelbottom
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Apr 2004
Posts: 159
Location: England
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Posted: 05-07-04 04:32am
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I wish I could say that she is doing ok,
but she is very depressed at the moment.
She came home from the hospital yesterday
morning and has barely spoken to me or
anybody else. All that I have been able
to get out of her is that she wishes she
was dead. As you can imagine that is very
disturbing. I am trying to persuade her
to see a doctor to maybe get some
anti-depressants. It is really hard, but
I am sure we will pull through this and be
stronger in the end.
Regards,
gordon
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jessechaseme
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Gordon Drivelbottom
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Joined: 19 Apr 2004
Posts: 159
Location: England
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Another Message to Jesse
Posted: 05-07-04 04:56am
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Jesse, I have apologised and offered the
hand of friendship to you on several
occasions now. Don't you think that it is
time we called a truce? Everyone else on
this board seems to have forgiven me for
my rather tactless comments about women,
and I would appreciate it very much if you
did too.
As you know, I am going through an
extremely hard time at the moment and just
coming onto this board is kind of a
release for me. Everyones kind words have
helped me come to terms with both my loss
and my wifes emotional problems.
So please let us put whatever problems we
have had in the past and try to move on.
Once again, I truly do apologise.
Regards,
gordon
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jessechaseme
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2004
Posts: 232
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Posted: 05-07-04 12:49pm
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As I recall you use to come on this board
to unload your hateful comments, not to
recieve support and understanding. I'm
sorry but it was just last week that you
stated women should be beaten, thrown in
the kitchen and refereed to as "it". If
you truly have lost a child I feel for
you, but you can't just turn over a new
leaf after all the horrible things you've
said. Actions speak louder than
apologies. I'll believe it when I see it,
for now, I wish you the best and hope
you'll come to this forum with an open
mind. No one deserves the slams that
you've delivered to some of the women
here.
Take care,
jesse
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allusivepond
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Oct 2003
Posts: 452
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Posted: 05-07-04 20:05pm
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What jesse said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
From someone who cant wait to have a
jellybean all of their own
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Gordon Drivelbottom
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Apr 2004
Posts: 159
Location: England
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Posted: 05-07-04 21:54pm
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When did I actually say that women should
be beaten? That is particularly vile
jesse. I will not be apologising to you
anymore as you seem to have something of a
grudge, and can not be spoken to like an
adult.
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jessechaseme
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2004
Posts: 232
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Posted: 05-08-04 04:26am
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Like I said the proof is in the pudding.
Here are just a few bullet points that
make it hard for me to believe you've
changed... Including the one about
smacking your wife. Your actions speak
louder than apologize.
•your a rarity - a woman with brains.
•i do realise that you are just a lady and
have to have these thing spelled out for
you.
•i will be a fantastic father and it will
be an adequate mother
•am I correct in thinking that all of the
mindless feminists on this board are
actually repressed lesbians?
•i am married to one, and it does
everything that I tell it to do. It
knows its place. If it didn’t it would
get a good smack.
•for the last time, women do belong in the
kitchen. My wife is in the kitchen now
preparing a meal for me. Later on
though, I will be giving it some fresh air
when I send it outside to weed the
garden.
But I do sincerely hope you've changed,
gordon. We'll see I guess.
Best,
jesse
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