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bluelace12
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was the first time really all that special?
Posted: 02-19-08 08:58am
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My one friend keeps telling me that the
first time 2 people have sex...it is not
THAT great..and it only lasts like 3
minutes. She said she doesn't understand
why people wait until they are married and
expect it to be the most beautiful thing
in the world because she said it's quick
and clumsy. I was just wondering what
everyone else's first time was like. Was
it quick and clumsy? Or was it really that
great.
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Ayrshire-lass
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Posted: 02-19-08 09:10am
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lol good topic lol
to be honest i had fanceyd the guy i lost
mine with for years. we always had a thing
for each other but we never ever dated.
we were both at a mates party he threw in
his nana's house and we got very very
drunk. me and my friend being the only 2
girls with about 7 boys hahaha.
to be honest as you said it was slow to
get into though but quick and rather Sh*t
lol. to be honest it was my first time but
not his. (he had a bit of a name
forhimself_
in the end we kinda made it a regular
thing and started dating. i fell pregnent
and he died in Iraq.
everyone has different storys though
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fiona05
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Posted: 02-19-08 09:40am
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losing my virginity wasn't painful, but it
wasn't pleasurable either. both of us were
virgins so we were inexperienced and yes
it was very clumbsy and awkward! i didn't
come and neither did he. sex gets better
for me, the first time was nothing
special.
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mamaTT
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Posted: 02-19-08 11:21am
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The first time for me was extremely clumsy
and awkward. You have no idea what your
partner likes. It definitely gets better
with time.
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penpen
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Posted: 02-19-08 13:43pm
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My first time was actually just last
month. It was amazing. He was experienced,
and obviously I was not. It wasn't
protected which worried both of us, so it
didn't last long. I am now on the pill and
the sex is so much better now that we
don't have anything to worry about.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 02-19-08 14:24pm
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clumsy and awkward. It didn't hurt or
anything, but wasn't amazing, that's for
sure. It took us a long time to be able to
have great sex.
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run4life10
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Posted: 02-19-08 14:43pm
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It was very special for me. Although it
hurt a little, it was the emotional aspect
that made it special. It was both of our
first times, so neither one of us knew the
"techniques" to make it amazing but that
wasn't even a concern for the first time.
But it wasn't awkward at all because we
were (and are) very much in love and
although we were nervous we felt
comfortable with eachother. And it just
kinda came natural. What made it special
was sharing that love, and how we were
able to talk about it, and that he did
everything he possibly could to minimize
my pain. Just seeing his concern for me
and how attentive he was to me... that far
outweighed any physical discomfort. It's
still about the love, but as time has gone
by it has become much more satisfying. But
what I've enjoyed most has been learning
together.
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gemma16
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Posted: 02-20-08 13:33pm
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i lost mine three weeks ago and to be
honest it was quite nice i wasnt with the
guy and i always knew it had to be kept a
secret so it kind of eased me a little
bit.it lasted about an hour and did not
really hurt.it was the first time i had
been naked in front of a boy and this
worried me but he enjoyed my body and that
made me feel good. he wasnt a virgin but
afterwards he spoke to me about it and
asked if i was ok then he cuddled me until
i went to sleep. and i think that it was
enjoyable to me and i felt relieved that
he had taken my virginity due to the fact
that he respected me.
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Posted: 02-20-08 22:10pm
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| run4life10
wrote: | | It was very special for me.
Although it hurt a little, it was the
emotional aspect that made it special. It
was both of our first times, so neither
one of us knew the "techniques" to make it
amazing but that wasn't even a concern for
the first time. But it wasn't awkward at
all because we were (and are) very much in
love and although we were nervous we felt
comfortable with eachother. And it just
kinda came natural. What made it special
was sharing that love, and how we were
able to talk about it, and that he did
everything he possibly could to minimize
my pain. Just seeing his concern for me
and how attentive he was to me... that far
outweighed any physical discomfort. It's
still about the love, but as time has gone
by it has become much more satisfying. But
what I've enjoyed most has been learning
together. |
Aww how cute...I agree with you, you don't
need to know these "techniques" to make
your first time special. It is definetly
the love what will make it special.
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Posted: 02-21-08 20:21pm
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My first time was with my boyfriend, he
had been with another girl before me but
it was my first time. And even though it
wasnt like mind blowing orgasm (heck i
didnt even know what orgasm was then)...it
was perfect in every way. The emotions
between us were so strong and he was sooo
sweet about it. It only lasted a few
minutes because it was painful, but he was
sooo romantic. He had candles and the song
I wanted to loose my virginity to playing
really low in the background. He made sure
he was on top and the whole time he rubbed
my hair and looked into my eyes and told
me how much he loved me. It was deffinitly
picture perfect for me.
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Posted: 02-21-08 22:18pm
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Like others have already said...my first
time was clumsy and awkward. We were both
virgins and didn't help that he was so
nervous he broke 2 condoms before even
getting them on!
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Hell Fire
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Posted: 02-24-08 14:38pm
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Hmm mine was a bit odd as the bloke i was
with didnt realise i was a virgin. i was
16 and he was 25, yes i know a age gap. We
had waited untill i was 16 due to legal
stuff etc and people were already
talking.
I lost mine in the back of his ford capri
like a good old Essex girl i am. Even tho
he had slept with a fare few ppl it wasnt
that good and to be honest didnt hurt at
all (im a horse rider) It was ok ish i
guess, it lasted quite a long time but
neither of us came for some reason. All a
bit of a odd situation really. I spent the
next 7 years with this bloke having much
better sex!
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robinwoods
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Posted: 02-24-08 14:53pm
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mine was occward for sure
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swbl08
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Posted: 02-24-08 17:51pm
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My first time want that special at all.
But as i got older and became sexually
active... i realized i should have waited
for the ONE. Once you get older i think
you understand sex, and it can be a
beautiful thing. If i were you i would
wait till you knew he was the ONE. Dont
rush things.
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perfectQt
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Posted: 02-28-08 03:37am
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swbl08 is right!....i was 14 when i lost
my v-card and i thought he loved me and we
were gunna be together forever!...the
perfect relationship...well i was wrong a
week later he left me! the sex itself
wasn't painfull and wasnt enjoyable
either....some men are pigs and will do
whatever they have to do to get what they
want!!....now i look back i wish i would
have waited cause as much as i thought i
was ready and wanted to do it cuz
"everyone else was" i mentaly was not
ready for it!..and if i would have waited
i could have expierenced so much more
physically and mentally...iam now with my
boyfriend that i have been with for 3
years now and no one could ever compare to
him...its sex on a totally different
level...i know you want to do it but wait
there are great guys out there who will
respect you in body and mind for doing
so!...
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Re: was the first time really all that special?
Posted: 02-28-08 08:53am
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| bluelace12
wrote: | | My one friend keeps telling
me that the first time 2 people have
sex...it is not THAT great..and it only
lasts like 3 minutes. She said she doesn't
understand why people wait until they are
married and expect it to be the most
beautiful thing in the world because she
said it's quick and clumsy. I was just
wondering what everyone else's first time
was like. Was it quick and clumsy? Or was
it really that
great. |
Well that's because many people often do
the "first time" wrong. My first time was
far from the worst sex I've ever had. It
was in fact pleasurable and orgasmic. It
was not just three minutes, and it wasn't
clumsy. Then again, my male partner was
experienced and gentle. I also wasn't
doing it to "lose" my virginity. I was
having sex because I wanted to have sex.
Was it the best sex I've ever had? No. But
it didn't "suck" like many people's first
times do.
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PixieKat
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Posted: 03-01-08 18:51pm
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my first time wasnt that great. I was
really nurvious, but i fet i was ready and
loved him enough. he was ontop and it
didnt last more than 2 minutes... if
that.. but i did like it just wasnt what i
thought it would be. I wated until i felt
i was ready to
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small town girl
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Posted: 03-02-08 23:39pm
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My first time was with a guy I had been
friends with for five years and had dated
on and off. It all was very unexpected
because he had just accompanied me to a
dinner with friends as 'JUST A FRIEND'.
Then when he dropped me home one thing led
to another and we ended up in my bedroom
hoping my parents wouldn't come home in
the middle of it all. I enjoyed my first
time even though there was a lot of pain
on my part, but he kept checking that I
was ok and wanted to keep going.
It could have been the nervousness that we
could be caught and the fact that it
wasn't planned that made it so good, but I
was really glad that my first time was
with someone I trusted. It lasted for
quite a while, probably an hour, but
neither of us came. And it wasn't really
clumsy, but there was a lot of laughing
and it really was just a lot of fun.
Just make sure you feel ready and that you
really want to do it with the person, but
don't be too worried about your first
time, you'll have lots more chances to
have better experiences later in life.
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penpen
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Posted: 03-03-08 02:26am
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I just wanted to say, like others have
said already...make sure you are ready. My
boyfriend just broke up with me after 3
months. I lost my virginity to him after
about 2 months of being together. I regret
that, because now I realize that I wasn't
ready to have sex, and I regret my
decision. I really cared about him, and
might have been in love with him. Don't
rush into anything, and make sure you are
100% ready.
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mashie88
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Posted: 03-06-08 03:05am
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| Hell Fire
wrote: | Hmm mine was a bit odd as
the bloke i was with didnt realise i was a
virgin. i was 16 and he was 25, yes i know
a age gap. We had waited untill i was 16
due to legal stuff etc and people were
already talking.
I lost mine in the back of his ford capri
like a good old Essex girl i am. Even tho
he had slept with a fare few ppl it wasnt
that good and to be honest didnt hurt at
all (im a horse rider) It was ok ish i
guess, it lasted quite a long time but
neither of us came for some reason. All a
bit of a odd situation really. I spent the
next 7 years with this bloke having much
better sex! |
hi, i was 16 he was 26, we tried at least
3 times before he could get it inside me,
since he said i was so young and all, it
did hurt , but did not bleed.. we're still
together 3 years and 4 months with a great
guy not to mention our sex life haha!
 
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