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Q: Overcoming depression / anxiety

asked by: agirl on February 19th, 2008

New User

Okay, I'm not sure where to start since this is my first time trying to open up but here it goes... Basically i wanted to know if there is anyone out there who has over come their depression/anxiety? Okay first off i am 25. I have had alot of problems growing up. I've been thru sexual abuse from a young age and has happened atleast 9 times until now, my mother had cancer and became very ill and had alomost died when i was about 6 then became handicapped and My father left me and my siblings at that age to take care of her, I've always had people in my life turn on me for no good reason and have been hurt in some way by basically every friend and family member, I used to hurt myself by cutting and hitting myself. Well, basically I've had alot of rough times and issues and there are just too many to list.... but the most recent was the loss of my first child. After that time i noticed that i just started to lose myself. I have been diagnosed with ocd, deppression, anxiety disorder, panic something...etc, etc , etc.... I have now 2 children and a wonderful boyfriend of 10 years and i have a good life but i cant seem to enjoy it???! I am always so afraid of everything and im afraid that i'll push my children and boyfriend away.... I want then to see me happy and to know how much i really do love them. Well, here are my symptoms...

Cant go anywhere by myself, and i cant drive anymore

Have panic/anxiety attacks almost everytime i leave my house

I am always scared and worried about everything!

I cant eat half of the time because i get a panic attack and cant swallow

I have mood changes, i just get soo frustrated and cant concentrate, i get soo mad sometimes that i feel like im gonna explode

noise and people just irratate the hell out of me sometimes to where i just wanna scream

I hate myself for being this way

I cant control my thoughts, i feel as though my mind just keeps going and i cant control what going on in my head

I have no interest in things i once loved

etc, etc, etc....

It's alot and i just wanted to know if anyone had a wide variety of symptoms/problems like i do and if so has anyone made it back/come back to life? My son is ready for kindergarden this year and i worry how i will be able to take him to school and pick him up?? I cant even go to the store to get dinner or lunch, My son wants to go to disneyland this year with my family but yet i am too afraid to fly and he will not go without me... I know that i will end up ruining my kids lives if i cant get over this.... Please just any advice? Anyone have any good stories on getting better and what treatments may work? Please? Thank you!

Replies(5)

YettieGal

replied on February 19th, 2008

New User

Re: Anyone?

Howdy do

Sorry to hear you have goen through all of those things--you are a very strong person!!

Alright...you sound like you need vacation! And I think disneyland would be perfect--yes...scared to fly...but think about your son. You being a parent-- every parent knows- you have to put aside your needs.. and put his 1st. People fly everyday--and it's even safer than driving. Heck- the president even flies!!

Now... as for your stress... you need to releax-- stressing and flipping out doesn't help...just creates more trouble, and you start doing things for yourself. Whether it be going to the gym, signing up for a class, going on a walk, getting a pet- or a hobby.. something to ease your tenison/nerves. Childern can feel stress...so don't think he can't sense something is wrong.

I hope this helps-- cheer up strong one Smile

mominashoe

replied on February 19th, 2008

Supporter

Flying is the safest way to travel! Don't worry about that.

Even tho the past has formed into who you are, don't let it control how you are and who you want to be....and we know that you want to be a happy and accomplished person and a good mom!

You need to be brave for your son and your family and realize that life is a wonderful thing if you only see how many things there are to enjoy about it. Don't look at the negative side. Think about the fact that you are not in control of when you are going to die (if we did some of us would live forever) and push it aside completely.

If you worry all the time, your life is going to pass you by and you won't have lived it to the fullest. You owe it to yourself to not worry and be happy.

CarolDiane

replied on February 20th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

You have a better chance of getting hit by a car then the safety of a plane. My son and cousin are both pilots. One is a private and the other flies a jet for a private company. Just like I have aquaphobia. You can't get me on a boat period. Going over a bridge is horrifing to me. So, I know just how you feel. But, I love to fly.

bakin_april

replied on February 20th, 2008

Experienced User

It sounds like you're experiencing severe anxiety and depression. To gain some peace it might help you to see a counselor. They could help you sort things out and teach you how to deal with them. Once the depression and anxiety lift you should see dramatic changes in how you interact with others and what you think of yourself. It's easier to show love to others when you're happy with yourself and love yourself. You're strong, you've survived a messed up past and you'll survive this because of your strength.

(Most communities have low cost or sliding-scale clinics if you don't have insurance.)

Fairy Godmother

replied on February 20th, 2008

Supporter

I agree

I totally agree with bakin_april. There are a number of places you can go for the help you need. Its a chemical imbalance and there are meds that can help correct this. I will be 51 this year and I am living proof. I also was daignosed as OCD and depressed. Took a lot of therapy, time and different combo of meds, but I am no longer afraid to leave my house. You can not get time back. Its time you did something to help keep your family together. Seek the proper care you need to get your life back to NORMAL.. Take that place to Disneyland and have yourself a ball...........you can do this if you are willing to take back control of your life! Hugs!

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