Good Morning all..Mson, I know what you
are saying about the hump back and the
twig legs and all the different things
that can happen either from the virus or
the meds to treat the virus.... the physical
changes that AIDS can put you threw are
hard to cope with, the emotional changes
come with the physical and its a horrible
circle...if I didn't walk and exercise
then I think I might have the twig legs
and puffy belly and hump back....thank God
that I have the energy to exercise and the
$$ to bye food and meds...some people are
not as fortunate, they do not have access
to $$ or food or meds...its my legs that I
always have to work on, they could get
very thin if I didn't walk on the
treadmill and do weights...that is why
hurting myself in San Fransisco bothers
me. It isn't just the pain but its also
the inability to work out...but I am
getting better slowly. As a matter of fact
I am off to town now to C the doc and get
blood test and go to store...talk later
and I hope you are all fine...and MA, you
don't have HIV I think, be thankful...
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Re: Sorry for my absence!! Posted: 03-28-08 11:32am
missanonymous
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Busy, busy, busy... Work,
school, all that stuff.
So I got two blood tests...One for my
thyroid, the other for HIV. I get the
results in 2 weeks... Oh jeez, I hope I
don't get hit with a double whammy and
find out I have a messed-up thyroid AND
HIV...
Well, all I can do is wait....
Hope everyone else is alright...
Love,
MA
Miss Anonymous,
Great to have you here. You are a very
courageous young woman and that courage
will take you far. I am doing well, just
a little under the weather. Dear Husband
(DH) says to me not to go out in the cold
or be out there helping people move. He
is a funny guy but he also cares.
Hopefully the doctors find out what is
causing you fatigue and such.
It is better to know what is ailing you,
so be of good courage as you wait for your
test results. If you keep as busy as you
are, the two weeks will fly mbae just like
that.
All the best and blessings to you. Thanks
for writing. Still praying for you.
Love
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Posted: 03-28-08 15:10pm
I am back from doing all my running
around...I wrote a poem I want to share
with you...I hope you like it. It is
called
FORGIVE ME FATHER
Forgive me Father
for I have sinned.
Forgive me Father
for I'll sin again.
Forgive me for
what might have been.
Forgive me if
I live again.
Forgive me if
I've hurt a friend.
For give me Father
for I have lived.
Peace and Love,homer
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Homerx Posted: 03-28-08 17:24pm
Third day in a row waking up at 8:45am.
There is a God. I am very particular with
myself when I sleep in because with Bi
Polar, this could be depression...I have
to be very careful.
I love poems. I completely forgot
how much I LOVE them until I saw yours.
It is a beautiful poem about forgiveness.
What really got me was
For give
me Father
for I have lived .
When I look into my life, there is nothing
I did wrong. Life happened. Is it a sin
to have been born? If it is a sin, then I
sinned...And need forgiveness.
I just got up from a two hour nap. Sicker
today than yesterday. Made myself
another cup of lemon zinger tea. I had
cereal this morning and when I woke up
from my nap I had a sandwich. My Dear
Husband (DH) tells me to feed the cold.
It is a wonderful thing to have a caring
person when one is not feeling well. I
have my DH and I have MA, you and Bobbie.
I hope Bobbie is feeling better.
Thanks very much Homerx for explaining to
me the importance of exercise. I did not
know that it was that serious. You have
learned to love yourself just the way you
are. I admire that. And I hope that
your arm is better soon so that you can
exercise fully. You seem to accept very
well the consequences of this our illness
or the side effects of the medication.
I would do
the same I suppose
Love you
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Posted: 03-28-08 17:47pm
Thank you, Mson... The arm is getting
better and I walked yesterday and will
tomorrow and maybe light
weights...depending on how I feel but I
WILL get back on that horse and ride
again!!! I am glad you liked my poem, I
write a lot, I have 2 notebooks full of
poems and short little bits of thought...I
find writing therapeutic even though I
don't spell very well any more since the
stroke..thank God for spell check!!!LOL
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Beautiful Posted: 03-28-08 17:57pm
Homer, what a heartfelt and beautifully
sincere prayer. I will remember it.
Thank you.
When did you have a stroke? I remember
you mentioned it before. Was it because
of complications from the medications?
Were you at home with Ricky when it
happened?
I remember Don had tiny legs when he was
sick too. Don and John were from Kansas
City and Don was a parole officer and John
was a probation officer. Both really dear
to me. Have to call John and see what is
going on in his life.
Mson, be careful and do as your BH says,
take care of yourself and feed the cold.
Honestly, poach a whole chicken with
onions, garlic and carrots. The broth and
chicken fat are wonderful for healing.
Tried to post my babies but the message
came back that it had to be less than 157
KB. Will try again.
Love, and take care of yourselves my
friends,
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Posted: 03-28-08 18:09pm
Hi Bobbie, yeah, I had a stroke a few days
after 9/11...I was home and in the middle
of the night I woke up, went to the
bathroom and threw up and went back to
sleep, the next morning I didn't know
anything except Rick...I didnt know my
dogs, where I lived or who I really
was...Rick says I called in at work and my
boss said "You really need to come in
because Tommy called in sick" and I said
"Who is Tommy?" Tommy sat at the desk next
to me, we worked side by side...of corse
my boss said"May I speak to Ricky"...she
was freaked out. Ricky called in to work
and took me to hospital. Slowly with home
therapy I was able to retain new memories
but much was lost. I can not remember
names and still cant read which breaks my
heart because I was an avid reader. Now I
can only read small paragraphs and it
takes me forever but I'm still here!!!
I went to your website and the pics are
too big to work as avatars...how about
Goggling avatars-wine or something like
that and use a picture from there???
OK, talk to you all later, Rick will be
home soon and I need to prepare dinner.
I Love you,
homer
P.S. my real name is Steve...does that
shock you???? I go by Homer on line and
always have...Homer has been my nick name
for years. You can still call me Homer or
Steve, it doesn't matter...after all,
whats in a name? Would a rose still smell
as sweet if it were called something
else?
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Re: Beautiful Bobbie Posted: 03-28-08 22:03pm
Roberta777
wrote:
Mson, be careful and do as your BH says,
take care of yourself and feed the
cold.
Bobbie,
Thanks for your advice. Dear Husband (DH)
is right and you are right. After my nap
I played crazy 8s with Pascale and that
made me feel better enough to be able to
clean up the kitchen. I made tea for us.
I still have to wash the grill which DH is
using tonight to make steak. I left it to
soak.
After the kitchen was relatively clean, I
dressed warm and went out for a walk to
the labyrinth and I was able to pray for
family and friends. I felt better after
the fresh air. I missed my prayers
yesterday because of the move where I was
helping. I am addicted to going to the
labyrinth and praying later. It is a good
addiction I think.
I like your idea about the chicken then I
can make soup later. But I do have some
other soup defrosting. Thanks for the
idea.
My wish is to take it easy tonight. I
better wash that grill and then relax.
Very glad that I went for a walk. It was
still light out at 7:00pm. Things can
only get better.
Wi chat later.
Love
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Thank God For Amazing People Posted: 03-28-08 22:25pm
Who, by a stroke of good fortune, we come
into contact with. Mson and Homer, you
are at the top of that list. You have
been real inspirations to me and I thank
you for that.
Mson, I actually have gone into my laundry
room/pantry which was stacked to the gills
with stuff and today worked on getting it
cleaned and cleared out. Donate some
stuff, scrub the floor, do laundry. Now,
I can open up that door and feel good
about it!!!!! Also, took off the storm
protection from the kitchen door so that I
can feel the air coming through the screen
door. A good thing.
Also, cleaned out my closet Mson. Ironed
up things which had been waiting there for
some time. Put things away. It feels so
good! I know what you mean by taking care
of clutter. I am so glad I have you in my
life to give me these reminders to get
your life in order.
Homer, you are such a young man to have
suffered a stroke. All the stress of your
situation and what you have been through.
Thank God Ricky was there. There is
nothing to replace love and to have a
person who loves you at all times. I know
that you have that and I am so happy for
you that you share that special bond and
caring.
It can be a little scary sometimes
thinking I am alone and can die here alone
and it could be days before anybody would
find me. But, like Scarlett O'Hara said,
"I am not going to think about that.
Tomorrow is another day."
Sorry too Steve about your reading. You
somehow remind me of my husband Walter who
was an avid reader. We actually had
seperate rooms because he would read well
into the night and I was an early bird. I
miss him Steve. I am happy for you that
you are surrounded by love and your sweet
family. I could cry for the loss of your
mother's love and understanding, but never
give up. She may have an awakening of the
heart. Sometimes, it is the way a person
is raised and their own fear of not
knowing how to make their child perfectly
happy. Perfectly happy doesn't happen for
anybody. Happy we can live with and be
for glad and grateful.
Love to you my friends,
Take care,
Bobbie
I love you checked out the pictures. Does
eHealth forum need pictures made smaller
somehow? I can get my husband's cousin to
help me make it smaller maybe. Thanks.
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Mson Posted: 03-28-08 22:38pm
I just read my message to you and I did
say BH, because, I know he is your Beloved
Husband. For that you are truly blessed
lady. So is he blessed in return.
Bobbie
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Posted: 03-28-08 22:44pm
homerx
wrote:
Hi Bobbie, yeah, I had a
stroke a few days after 9/11...I was home
and in the middle of the night I woke up,
went to the bathroom and threw up and went
back to sleep, the next morning I didn't
know anything except Rick...I didnt know
my dogs, where I lived or who I really
was...Rick says I called in at work and my
boss said "You really need to come in
because Tommy called in sick" and I said
"Who is Tommy?" Tommy sat at the desk next
to me, we worked side by side...of corse
my boss said"May I speak to Ricky"...she
was freaked out. Ricky called in to work
and took me to hospital. Slowly with home
therapy I was able to retain new memories
but much was lost. I can not remember
names and still cant read which breaks my
heart because I was an avid reader. Now I
can only read small paragraphs and it
takes me forever but I'm still here!!!
I went to your website and the pics are
too big to work as avatars...how about
Goggling avatars-wine or something like
that and use a picture from there???
OK, talk to you all later, Rick will be
home soon and I need to prepare dinner.
I Love you,
homer
P.S. my real name is Steve...does that
shock you???? I go by Homer on line and
always have...Homer has been my nick name
for years. You can still call me Homer or
Steve, it doesn't matter...after all,
whats in a name? Would a rose still smell
as sweet if it were called something
else?
Homer, (from the Nelson Mandela Speech)
Your biggest fear
is not that you are inadequate, your
biggest fear is that you are POWERFUL
beyond measure. It is your light NOT your
darkness that most frighten you. You ask
yourself, "Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, talented and fabulous."
Actually who are you not to be? YOU ARE A
CHILD OF GOD. Your playing small (which
you don't Homerx) does not serve the
world. There is nothing enlightened about
shrinking so that other people do not feel
insecure around you . You are born
to make manifest the glory of GOD that is
within you. It is not just in you
(although that would be nice), it is in
everyone. (Most people do not know
that.)And as you let your light shine, you
unconsciously give other people the
permission to do the same. (Like you did
for me when I joined this forums and like
you continue to do for me even with your
stroke story.) As you are liberated from
your own fear, your PRESENCE
AUTOMATICALLY liberates
others.
I recite this everyday using "I" instead
of you and I have been doing so for over a
year.
When I became mentally ill, I could not
read either. I can read on the computer
but the books are tough. I am almost
finished a book now and looking forward to
starting another one. I just don't
understand what I am reading sometimes.
The book has to really capture me for me
to read it quickly like I used to. Keep
practicing my dear. I know you are not
one to give up and that is why you are my
hero. While I was practising, I forced
myself to read a book. I would sit down
and read word mbae word until I reach
end.
Really appreciate your story. Steve is a
cool name. The story
in the bible about Steven and how he was
stoned to death and he saw heaven is one
of my favourites.
Don't worry about the spelling errors, as
you say we now have spellCheck but beyond
that, everybody understands what you mean.
I LOVE
WHO YOU ARE!
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Re: Thank God For Amazing People Posted: 03-28-08 23:21pm
Roberta777
wrote:
Mson, I actually have gone
into my laundry room/pantry which was
stacked to the gills with stuff and today
worked on getting it cleaned and cleared
out. Donate some stuff, scrub the floor,
do laundry. Now, I can open up that door
and feel good about it!!!!! Also, took
off the storm protection from the kitchen
door so that I can feel the air coming
through the screen door. A good thing.
Also, cleaned out my closet Mson. Ironed
up things which had been waiting there for
some time. Put things away. It feels so
good! I know what you mean by taking care
of clutter. I am so glad I have you in my
life to give me these reminders to get
your life in
order.
Thanks for all
your kind words. They keep me
appreciating what I have.
I washed the grill but did not tell
Beloved Husband . He was
sitting there, I was sitting here and
dinner was not happening. It is 9:03 now
and he has just started grilling. I am
not that hungry anyway. It will be nice
to eat though.
Thanks for writing about the removal of
clutter. Congratulations. Tomorrow I
have to take somethings to storage. You
reminded me of it Bobbie. Goes around
comes around. I see you remove clutter,
area mbae area. That is a good idea
instead of tackling the whole home at a
go.
Tonight I am going to take all the recycle
into the balcony because bottles are all
over the house from Chris and Beloved
Husband's drinking. I always clean up
after them but I have not been well.
Chrios keeps saying he will take the
bottles out and he hasn't. I will put
them on the balcony upto to tomorrow night
and then I am disposing them. You've
charged me.
I was supposed to clean the house today
but I decided to rest. I will give it a
go tomorrow and get rid of the clutter
that is starting to crawl in. Good Lord
have mercy.
I am glad I know you and I will have more
time to know you. Although sometimes I
get confused
like in the beginning when you talked of
babies, I thought real babies but those
vines are your babies and they are so
loved. May they bring forth. I would
read that you have babies and then I would
read about your grand children and oh, the
confusion!
Take good care.
Here are two quotes from Beloved husband
that I wanted to share with you.
I didn't
even know what hell I lived in until I met
you. It was madness - I can see clearly
now.. He was responding to the
clean kitchen. Such a Sweetheart.
The other one was, If someone
cannot be a friend, they cannot be a good
lover He told me he could not
believe how many girls told him that they
cannot be lovers because they were already
friends. We both agree that a partner
should be chosen from among the friends if
possible. Good for me that the girls were
like that.
LOVE
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Stephen in the bible Posted: 03-29-08 00:17am
Muthoni
wrote:
The story in the bible
about Steven and how he was stoned to
death and he saw heaven is one of my
favourites.
Acts 7
The Stoning of Stephen
54When they heard this, they were furious
and gnashed their teeth at him. 55But
Stephen, full of the Holy Spirit, looked
up to heaven and saw the glory of God, and
Jesus standing at the right hand of God.
56"Look," he said, "I see heaven open and
the Son of Man standing at the right hand
of God."
57At this they covered their ears and,
yelling at the top of their voices, they
all rushed at him, 58dragged him out of
the city and began to stone him.
Meanwhile, the witnesses laid their
clothes at the feet of a young man named
Saul.
59While they were stoning him, Stephen
prayed, "Lord Jesus, receive my spirit."
60Then he fell on his knees and cried out,
"Lord, do not hold this sin against them."
When he had said this, he fell
asleep.
Beloved husband was apologizing for making
the grill dirty again. So sweet. -Mson
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Posted: 03-29-08 11:16am
Thank you Bobbie
and Mson....
Have a great week end...Mson, I enjoyed
the story from the bible, that is a good
one.
Bobbie, we will get those pics figured
out, don't worry and you are not alone,
you wont die alone in your house...you can
come stay with us any time you need a
break,know that. I appreciate what
you said about my estranged mother, I
think she may be a mental case because her
history is shady, to say the least.. You
are my friends. We will be
OK, all of us will be fine...
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A couple of my videos. 2005 and 2003. Posted: 03-29-08 20:29pm
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Re: Bobbie, you are not alone. Posted: 03-29-08 22:17pm
Roberta777
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It can be a little scary
sometimes thinking I am alone and can die
here alone and it could be days before
anybody would find me. But, like Scarlett
O'Hara said, "I am not going to think
about that. Tomorrow is another
day."
The way you put it Bobbie makes it sound
so scary. I know how it feels because
when I came to Canada, I was coming to die
away from family. I wanted to die alone.
This was mainly because I have what is
seen as a shameful illness. I did not
want my family around.
Now that things are better, I would love
to die surrounded mbae family. Homerx has
said that you can go to their place. I
don't want to think about you dying but
I'll have my papers mbae then and I can
come see you.
Bottom line, you are not alone. Let's
keep in touch.
Love
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Mson, Facts of Life Posted: 03-30-08 14:40pm
are in reality, facts of life. My BH died
alone in this house when my son and I were
in Italy. Now, I live alone and unless
something else should happen, there is the
probablity that that can happen to me too.
My children have their own lives and live
200 miles away from me. I do have good
neighbors and live on a gated estate.
That is how they found my Walter. The
newspapers were down at the road for two
days and one of my neighbors called two
other neighbors to come up to check on
him. Otherwise, can you imagine the shock
of walking into this house to find him
dead on the floor of his bathroom?
Please don't feel shame about your disease
Mson. There are people walking around out
there who have killed people in cold
blood, done horrible things to others,
cheated them, robbed them, stolen their
very lives and they feel not one ounce of
regret, remorse, let alone shame.
You have gone through a lot in your
lifetime to get to this point where you
are reaching thousands and thousands of
people with your message of love and hope.
Same goes for Homer.
I have no intention of getting married
again. I had the husband God gave to me
and we were happy. At this point, I am
not even slightly interested in looking
for anybody else. Look what happened the
last time. Now, I have HPV for the rest
of my life. Just never going to put
myself in that position again.
Take care of yourselves friends.
Love,
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Bobbie my dear! Posted: 03-30-08 16:28pm
I am really sorry to hear about Walter. I
can imagine how you must have felt. You
have good neighbours. Newspapers for two
days? That is scary. "Dead on the floor
of his bathroom." Tear jerker.
I am not ashamed of my illnesses but I
know what other people think about them.
But I know what you mean.
Homerx is very special. My hero.
I have told Beloved Husband that if
anything happens to him, I will not marry
again. I cannot go through the whole
process twice. To reach a place where you
have trained each other. Once is enough
for me. I have told him that he is free
to do whatever he wants after I die.
They say never say never
What really is HPV? I know it is Human
Papilloma Virus. But what is it?
LOVE
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Dear Mson Posted: 03-30-08 17:41pm
It can be passed on my men who don't even
know they carry the virus. Men don't show
symptoms. Women can get HPV and develop
the high risk types which can lead to
cervical cancer. The low risk types can
become genital warts. Getting checked out
by your doctor can tell you if you have
it. Just like HIV/AIDS. It is a virus.
To tell you the truth, when BH had
congestive heart failure and we had to
leave this place because regardless of the
beauty of it, we have very bad medical
help here. We lost over 225 doctors in
just one year in 2003 because they could
no longer afford to live and practice
medicine here.
I had to take BH to San Jose twice to
drain the fluid from around his heart.
Gone the first time had him in the
hospital up there five days. Come home.
Busy body lady neighbor calls to read me
out about leaving the newspaper down by
the road as it presents a problem to
everybody else. Home invasion danger kind
of thing. We asked her to please just
bring the papers back to us.
Next time, for 11 days and 79 pounds of
fluid drained from his body, we called our
vineyard manager who was in charge of
picking up the papers. That time, we had
called the post office to turn off our
mail. I called our vineyard manager who
said somebody was getting our papers. Got
home again. Same lady. This time my
husband Walter said, "please, just let our
vineyard manager take care of our papers."
She said, fine, then I will just throw
them into the garbage. He said fine.
But, you know what? If that same woman
hadn't had people come over here when he
had actually died, and I came home to find
him, I too would have been dead over his
body. So, all these things seem to work
out for a reason.
I did have issues, terrible ones. This
same woman who had never been into my home
came over to stand outside the house to
watch the freak show as BH was taken out
of our home. Found out that actually
other neighbors too came to see. That
took me years to forgive as Walter was
such a private person. He would have
totally hated that. Some even stepped on
the pool cover in the back making it
collapse into the pool. Tell me really
why people can't stay away at a time like
that?
Still, in time I forgave her.
I eventually even told her she did me a
tremendous favor by having somebody come
over here. See how life works out Mson.
We don't know all the pieces of the
puzzle, but God does. He does not make
mistakes. He places us where we are
supposed to be.
Furthermore, I believe we chose our path
before we are born onto this Earth.
Otherwise, how could you and I be so
blessed?
Take care and thanks for your kindness.
Bobbie
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Bobbie, WOW! Posted: 03-30-08 21:57pm
Thanks
for talking with me about HPV. I am
researching more. I did not know how it
was spread. Did not know that men have it
as well. We live and learn.
So they were moving Walter while you were
away? I guess they had to. How did you
get the news of his departure? You are a
very strong woman.
I was here in Canada when Jessy passed on.
I was told that she was walking and
talking on that day. She was away from
school because she had chicken pox. She
was living with my only sister. It was
nice of her to take Jessy in. I heard
that at my parent's house Jessy was
suffering somehow. On this day, my sister
sent Jessy to my parents home as she had
to go to work and had nobody to take care
of Jessy. Jessy was taken to a dispensary
and they said that she had more than
chicken pox and they would give her an
injection. She reacted to the penicillin
and died.
I think she had HIV but I will never know
because she was not tested. She a sore
mouth once and also lymph nodes at the
back of her neck. One doctor had pointed
the lymph nodes to me and asked me if I
knew what that meant and I said yes. From
that day I was afraid she had HIV either
from birth or breastfeeding or both.
The sad part of the story is that at the
dispensary, they put her on the baby
sitters back and sent her home in public
transit. That is how poor resources are
in Kenya. It is a horror story. They said
that she should be taken to another
hospital. My Mami was watching the baby
sitter coming home with Jessy on her back
and she wondered why she was not walking.
That is when they realized she was no
more. My poor Mami. She had to deal with
that. She had commented that it were
better if it was one of her child that had
died. One man asked him, "Which one would
you choose?" She had no answer.
They proceeded to bury Jessy and as much
as I wanted to be there, I had no
immigration papers and if I left I could
not come back. I said, "Let the dead bury
their dead." I did not have closure.
I left Kenya on 3rd July 1996 and she
passed on on July 3, 1997. She gave me
exactly one year. On the phone she would
ask me why I said I would go in August and
never went. She wanted to know why I
said I would go in December and never
went. She was a soul longing for her
mother.
My visa was initially for two months and I
was supposed to go back in August. Then
my visa was extended up to December and
then for another year. She caught me
lying. I wasn't really lying just that my
plans did not work out.
Now she is gone to rest and I mourned her
for 10 years and then I realized I had to
stop mourning her and instead go on with
life and love those that are close to me.
As you say that everything happens for a
reason. If I still had Jessy and she was
still in Kenya, my mind would be there and
I would not be able to serve God like I
do. I have come to be at peace with the
whole matter. She is in a better place
and will always be in my heart.
the physical
changes that AIDS can put you threw are
hard to cope with, the emotional changes
come with the physical and its a horrible
circle...if I didn't walk and exercise
then I think I might have the twig legs
and puffy belly and hump back....thank God
that I have the energy to exercise and the
$$ to bye food and meds...some people are
not as fortunate, they do not have access
to $$ or food or meds...its my legs that I
always have to work on, they could get
very thin if I didn't walk on the
treadmill and do weights...that is why
hurting myself in San Fransisco bothers
me. It isn't just the pain but its also
the inability to work out...but I am
getting better slowly. As a matter of fact
I am off to town now to C the doc and get
blood test and go to store...talk later
and I hope you are all fine...and MA, you
don't have HIV I think, be thankful...
up at 8:45am.
There is a God. I am very particular with
myself when I sleep in because with Bi
Polar, this could be depression...I have
to be very careful.
I completely forgot
how much I LOVE them until I saw yours.
It is a beautiful poem about forgiveness.
What really got me was
Made myself
another cup of lemon zinger tea. I had
cereal this morning and when I woke up
from my nap I had a sandwich. My Dear
Husband (DH) tells me to feed the cold.
It is a wonderful thing to have a caring
person when one is not feeling well. I
have my DH and I have MA, you and Bobbie.
I hope Bobbie is feeling better.
The arm is getting
better and I walked yesterday and will
tomorrow and maybe light
weights...depending on how I feel but I
WILL get back on that horse and ride
again!!! I am glad you liked my poem, I
write a lot, I have 2 notebooks full of
poems and short little bits of thought...I
find writing therapeutic even though I
don't spell very well any more since the
stroke..thank God for spell check!!!LOL
name. The story
in the bible about Steven and how he was
stoned to death and he saw heaven is one
of my favourites.
. He was
sitting there, I was sitting here and
dinner was not happening. It is 9:03 now
and he has just started grilling. I am
not that hungry anyway. It will be nice
to eat though.
