Very few women orgasm through intercourse. I think the stats are at about 10 do. Most of the time it just takes work, practice and different positions. Being on top helps a some while doggy style helps others.

i like doggy alot ^.^ if that helps anyone better understand how to help me..

I KNOW I can orgasm. But I am just hoping someone can give me some tips to get over this phsycosematic thing?

All you can do it STOP thinking about it but you already know that. The more you think about it and think he is getting tired of waiting, the more you will get turned off and feel like you have to hurry up. Stop making yourself feel like that and just have fun and go with the flow!

how can i help him be more comfortable during sex? For example i like him to rub my clit and well, hes more than twice my size (im small and hes tall) so alot of times it is uncomfortable or even hurts his hand (then I get upset and start thinking to hard again). Anyone know any good positions for this so we can practice something that doesnt hurt him, therefore wont uspset me, and maybe.... we'll get somewhere ^.~

I know that being on top and riding him super fast gets me off. The hair (or stubble) from your mans privare area rub on your clit while your going back and forth and the fact that you have him inside of you is so much better than getting eaten out! It may take a few trys but it's soooo worth it!

ive done that too and love it. but it just doesnt make me orgasm.... maybe i should try it some more.

My only advice is to reach down there and touch your clitoris yourself!! You masturbate right? So you already know what YOU need to orgasm. It's not a sin or detrimental or insulting to reach down and stimulate yourself during sex. I too CANNOT orgasm during sex unless I get direct clitoral stimulation.

Hi All,

I was exactly the same for many years! It took me and my man years!

My advice...

First - stop worrying about - the more you worry the worst it gets. I know its easier said than done.
Second - try masterbating (I assume you do) as you know what you need while he's inside you till you cum. I found that the first step - it's like telling your body it's ok like this
Third - Try masterbating again with him inside you, till you get really close then stop and see if you can still cum with his help alone
Forth - just keep trying, enjoying each other and pleasure on the way.

My man works away alot, and I personnaly found that if I masterbate, espeically with a dildo inside, again it's like training your body to cum with something in there, that after a while when he came home, after lots of foreplay and being close to cumming before intercourse - I found that I actually came from him just being inside me - very suprising when it happens and I find its a deeper more fulfilling orgasm too.

I orginally resigned myself to never being able to cum 'normally' but eventuall decided it didn't matter - he used to make me cum first before we had intercourse or in the early years I pleasured myself afterwards. I eventually forgot all about it and then out of the blue POW - god what was that!!!

So basically practice on your own (without being embarrased) and with him if your nice and close, share the learning together and then it will probably happen with out you thinking about it.

Hope that helps a little

Completely agree with Eiri, do it yourself! during doggy is probably easiest and since you enjoy that position it sounds like a good starting place. I used to want my guy to do it but we just couldnt get the co-ordination for him to move his hips as well as keeping his hand in a good motion so it was easier for to me to just DIY!

And don't forget that most useful of all sexual stimulants - your brain! A little bit of fantasy can add the zest to your pith! Try it!

you can try a position, where you can have easy access with your clitoris, so you can stimulate it while he is inside you.

these are some positions that makes me come...

try the doggy,

or when he is on top but he is not leaning on you (it is like he is almost sitting and he is holding your legs up),

also try the position where he is lying sideways and you are lying sideways too obliquely (start it with "the spoon") then let him hold one of your legs high so you can access your clitoris.

I DID IT!!!

I didn't even have to do any of that stuff all you guys said (i didn't see those posts till now). I just had to calm down and relax and ONLY think about how good it feels. OH MAN THAT WAS AWESOME.

cant wait till he gets home from work today!

^^ Good for you!! Sometimes it's all mental!

I knew it was only mental with me.
woo hoo! im so excited! I feel like I won the lottery!
It happened yesterday evening. He's so sweet. Says- "you just wait till I get home today!" lol. sorry if thats TMI, im just so happy. yay!

Oh BTW
no i dont masterbate. (maybe once in a blue moon!)
Sex is SOOOOOOO much better when you don't masterbate. You want it so much more, and you become more sensitive to it.

I personally masturbated when I had sex because I never orgasmed during it. BUt I do agree that abstinence from masturbation can make the next session of sex or masturbation like WHOAH!